Author Archives: Alan Ilagan

Union Suit, Unbuttoned

The way the cold seeps into the smallest crevice is the most insidious part of winter. An unsealed window, the drafty door, a crack in the wall – all access points for a frigid block of air that seems to want only to take up warmer space. Even though the Boston condo is buffered between two floors – a blessing for the most part – it still has windows at the fore and aft, all of which allow the winter to creep inside. On windy nights, if you sit near the windows in the bedroom, you can feel the cold coming in. In my first winter there, I’d light a sea of tea lights, hoping the small bit of heat they emitted would help things.

Long underwear and union suits helped too, and every year I’d stockpile an additional piece that I’d keep in the closet to amend whatever pajamas I neglected to bring on winter weekends. What had always seemed a rather silly uniform for vintage photo shoots or other nonsense turned out to be quite useful and effective. On one bitterly cold January day, I’d come into town with the sole purpose of visiting the courtyard of the Isabella Stewart Gardner Museum. The Saturday dawned in freezing fashion, and the only way I was going to make the trek to the museum was to pull on a pair of thermal underwear beneath a loose pair of jeans.

On that day, a thermal weave trapped a warm layer of air closest to my skin and I walked in relative warmth to the museum. Once there, the courtyard and its verdant scenery warmed in visual and visceral manner. Ferns and palm trees softened the surrounding stone, while Gardner’s magnificent art collection beckoned along the staircases, drawing me into deeper coves of beauty.

After warming my body and my heart, I ventured back into the winter, hurrying along to the condo. A pot of tea, a book, and a bed rife with blankets awaited my arrival. This was the way through the winter, through the darkest months of the year.

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The Christmas Recap Aftermath

Another Christmas has come and gone, and with it George Michael. Another great musician is taken by 2016. Please watch over Madonna because that will just be too much. On with the recap, because I want this year to be over and done ASAP.

Mercury is in retrograde until after the New Year. Good luck to us all.

Zac Efron took his shirt off, so some things are still sacred.

Shades of gray.

Florida recall.

A glorious pair.

Flashing my booty in a red union suit.

River.

Kids are stupid.

Holiday hunks: Simon & Jake.

The Madonna Holiday Effect.

The 2nd Annual Children’s Holiday Hour in Boston.

Get merry.

Cute.

All anyone saw was my bulge.

And my ball. (Perverts.)

Now let’s shoot this awful year out of the water.

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My Ball(s)

Calm down.

You know the big ball doesn’t drop until New Year’s Eve…

All good things to those who wait.

If you’re with me, next year will be the perfect year.

As Valentino said, it takes tiles to tango.

Am I losing my mind?

Perhaps.

That time of year.

Keep your eye on the ball.

The really big ball.

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Festive Aftermath

As much as I enjoy the anticipation and build-up to Christmas, I find an equal sense of enjoyment from the peace and let-down that follows. Much as I was in my childhood, I’d rather be left alone to play with my toys. Part of it is due to my social anxiety – the holidays are one party or gathering after another, and that can get extremely draining for those of us who, in our heart of hearts, shy away from such interactions. There’s still New Year’s Eve and Day ahead, but once you’ve run the gauntlet of Thanksgiving to Christmas, the hardest parts are done.

Now it’s time to relax, to refocus and get back to basics. One more week to the wretchedness of 2016. We will ride into 2017 on the wings of Mercury in retrograde, but rather than allow it to wreak havoc, I will work to harness its energy and use it to glide higher. Are you with me?

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Christmas Feels

All of them. Just watch.

“Director Terry Rayment’s 35mm film “Understanding” poignantly depicts the transformational power of love and happiness. Cinematographer Kate Arizmendi captured all of the emotions beautifully on KODAK VISION3 500T 5219.”

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The Day of as the Day After

It invariably happens that our Christmas wad gets blown way too soon, and everything from this point on, rather than being the start of something miraculous, is just the let-down at the end of it all. Seems at odds with what Jesus reportedly did with His life in the years after he was actually born.

For the rest of us mere mortals, we snuggle into our robes and long underwear, we hunker down and enjoy a day or two off from work, but mostly we just exist in a sort of holding pattern until life begins again, until work or school resumes, until we can pretend we’re not alive by doing all the things that deaden us to what really matters.

That got a bit too dark a bit too quickly.

But so do the nights at this time of the year.

Still, they are getting shorter. Hang on my friends, hang on.

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Christmas Time is Here

Today’s the day! Blessed be to the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ, King Savior and Queen of Mutha-Fuckin’ Everything! Praise be!! Christ is born, and hallelujah, and all that jazz. I could do a more meaningful and emotional post for Christmas Day, but I’ve gone deep before, and this year I’m more about experiencing the moment than documenting it in advance.

That said, I wish everyone who is kind enough to lend me an ear and an eye to all that I do here a very Happy Christmas and holiday season. We are more alike than we are different, and it’s something I will work on remembering on all the days that aren’t Christmas. That’s the true test, isn’t it? Anyone can be good for a day. It’s the rest of the year that matters.

Here’s a wish and a prayer that every dream comes true. Merry Christmas, everyone!

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The 2nd Annual Children’s Holiday Hour

Aside from the twins, my interest in children is limited to those of my friends – at least the ones that behave with a modicum of deportment and respect. (Luckily, that’s most of them, as my friends are pretty good about raising their kids in the same manner in which they were brought up.) So when Suzie brought up the idea of having another holiday get together in Boston, I was all for it. Even better was the fact that our friend Alissa would be visiting from South Africa, so the same cast that we had last year would be able to re-assemble for this year’s children’s holiday hour.

Boston was cold on the Friday I arrived, brutally so, but the condo is a cozy place. Kira wasn’t able to join in the festivities, so I hunkered down and watched ‘The Man Who Came to Dinner’ by my lonesome – not an unhappy circumstance by any means. In the midst of holiday mayhem, an evening of peace and quiet solitude is a welcome oasis. I slipped into an already-infamous red union suit and cozied up to a cup of lemon ginger tea, then settled in for the night.

Saturday spent the morning snowing – about four to five inches of the white stuff – which made for a tricky bit of last-minute shopping, but I managed thanks to the ubiquitous Bean Boots. For once I was happy to just blend in with the weather-defying masses. To start the day, and stave off the wintry mix of nastiness, I made a bowl of pho into a late brunch.

For the adults who were arriving, I crafted another batch of ‘Christmas in a Glass’ – to which I added a healthy dribble of brandy, thus leaving Suzie’s cheeks seasonally flushed.

A warm mug of mulled wine works wonders on many winter woes. So does a Campari orange, which lends a seasonal citrus note to the proceedings. Accented by the Iris Apfel-inspired statement necklace seen below, we were off to a fabulous start. At times when children are present, I also do my best Auntie Mame impression and hope for the best.

The children commenced the crafts and games on hand (we remembered the glue and scissors) and the adults reconnected (we hadn’t seen Alissa since she moved). Soon it was time for hot chocolate with marshmallows, and then we ordered pizza.

All in all, a very fun Holiday Children’s Hour (or three) was had, and I may expand it to more kids next year. (Famous last words…)

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A Madonna Holiday

Madonna has played an unlikely part in my holidays since I was a boy, even if the only official Christmas connection she’s ever fostered was her rather wretched version of ‘Santa Baby’ during the ‘Who’s That Girl’ stretch. I won’t bother posting that rendition (it sounded like she had a cold during the recording) but I will post my own photos from her recent Rebel Heart Tour. This was the closest I’ve gotten to my idol, and Suzie and I squealed like we always do in the presence of such greatness.

The holiday connection comes during the period in which my fandom was at its zenith – the white-hot prime of the fall of 1991. She was on the precipice of the ‘Sex‘ book/’Erotica‘ album, but not quite there yet, so her star power had been growing steadily for about eight or nine years. Many of us consider this one of her most regal periods, when she had the eyes of the whole world, and some begrudging admiration to go along with it. Her ‘Like A Prayer’ album had earned her artistic worth, while her ‘Truth or Dare’ documentary had become one of the most successful documentaries at that time. After bring dismissed for years as a pop lightweight, she suddenly had the history and experience and success to assume her rightful place on the pop culture throne.

As the fall months led into the latter days of the year, and I was asked what I wanted for Christmas, I did not hesitate: a laser-disc player. It was being heralded as the next big thing, but I didn’t care so much for technological advances as I did about the fact that this was, and remains, the only format on which Madonna’s epic ‘Blond Ambition’ tour was officially available.

My Mom indulged me, and we brought home the Laserdisc player right before Christmas, and then I received the official Blond Ambition disc – three times the size of a CD – and set it all up in our basement. My Christmas memories were indelibly linked to the performances from that tour. Despite initial hesitation, I came to love this concert. With the pristine quality of the laserdisc, the impeccable sound system, and one of Madonna’s most amazing performances, it became emblematic of something special – something that resonates to this very day.

I’d study each dance move and vocal inflection, every nuanced wink and audience interaction, right down to the broken chair during the ‘Keep It Together’ finale, and I gained a little confidence with every little exhibition of power. It was what kept me going through the rocky path of adolescence.

During Christmas vacation, after the holiday obligations were done and the stretch of non-school days stretched gloriously out ahead of us, I’d pad down to the cellar and watch the Blond Ambition Tour. The time was golden. School vacation made memories more indelible. Madonna’s music added to the experience. The thrill of the Blond Ambition Tour set it all off. I fear I’m unable to fully convey what it all meant, but that’s all right.

Some memories don’t signify anything more than a marker of time. This one means a little more to me, but perhaps not anyone else. It was, after all, a memory of solitude, of loneliness, even if I would never admit it. It’s from a time in my life when I wasn’t quite sure of myself, when I didn’t really love myself, and when I was pretty sure no one else ever would. Yet there was the seed of something greater inside of me, and despite all my efforts at self-destruction, something helped me hang onto the hope that there was more to my story than hiding in the basement. Madonna shouted out in French the opening clarion call of the concert, “Do you believe in love?”

My heart resounded, “Yes!… Yes!… Yes.”

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A Pair of Holiday Hunks

These two turtle doves have been Hunks of the Day in the past, but their Christmas-themed poses merit this merry post. First up is Jake Quickenden, whose featured pic would be quite risky if such nudity was paired with any actual sleigh movement. The giant Christmas ornament is a less dangerous touch.

Second we have Simon Dunn, who had his own Mariah moment a couple of years ago, and who has since honed his already-practically-perfect body into something as wondrous as a Christmas star. Here are a few more bonus pics of Mr. Dunn, a bobsledder who has already been named Hunk of the Day not once, but twice. A few more photo shoots like this, and he stands a strong chance of joining the ultra-elite triple triumvirate of Hunks (of which only one very special gentleman has ever achieved). Perhaps Mr. Dunn is next in line…

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Leopard Classic

Certain patterns and styles are always in fashion, no matter what the year or trend. Leopard is one of them, and for quite some time I’ve been yearning for a leopard tote. To date I haven’t found one that meets all my requisites. They’re either one-sided, too expensive, or too dolled-up with unnecessary embellishments. The colors inherent to a traditional leopard pattern are warm enough that I find any sort of gold accent too much; leopard carries a richness that negates the need for any metallic luster. And so the search goes on…

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A Not-Quite-Traditional Christmas Song

Some holiday songs have not yet been done to death, and this is one of those refreshing ones that has not, but it fits finely enough with winter happenings. Written by the great Joni Mitchell and re-interpreted by the great Sarah McLachlan, this is one of those melancholy pauses in the parade of holiday insanity.

It’s coming on Christmas
They’re cutting down trees
They’re putting up reindeer
And singing songs of joy and peace
Oh I wish I had a river 
I could skate away on
But it don’t snow here
It stays pretty green
I’m going to make a lot of money
Then I’m going to quit this crazy scene
I wish I had a river
I could skate away on
I wish I had a river so long
I would teach my feet to fly
Oh I wish I had a river
I could skate away on…

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Red Butt-Flap Booty Suit

This red union suit has all the cozy accoutrements for holiday slumbering, including an easy-access opening to the poop-chute. Not sure what the historical significance or reason for the design is other than the crude aforementioned descriptor of butt jobs, but I’m all for the cheeky reveal. A union suit is the adult sleeper, a button-up (or down) onesie that brings back holiday memories and cozy recollections of the nights before and after Christmas.

There are others that have worn it much better than me, and more power to them. This is one outfit that proves more utilitarian than fashion-forward. On chilly nights alone in the condo (because this is not one for public consumption, in person anyway) it’s the perfect bit of comfort fashion. Like comfort food, it may not be pretty but it gets the job done. For the winter season, I’m willing to forego the rules of fashion and settle for function.

As for that booty-baring butt-flap, it’s the stuff of Christmas cards and whimsy, and I’m all the more enchanted by it for those very reasons. Maybe someday I’ll wear it to a Christmas party after all. The older I get, the less concerned I am about the breeze around my ass.

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Love Trio

This post neatly merges three of my loves in one simple and refined package: fragrance, leopard, and Tom Ford. It’s a collection of Ford’s mainstream frags (and quite honestly, this is a lazy-ass repost of photos already featured here). But hey, it’s the holiday season, and if people want shit wrapped this is the cost. My Christmas tree thanks you for understanding.

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