For many years, I eschewed white flowers. Too bland, too boring, too dull, too whatever – I always felt they were less exciting than their more colorful counterparts. Why choose white when you could have a bright fiery red? As time has gone on, however, I’ve traded in the need for bold pizazz and find myself enjoying the softness of the palest of shades. Here’s a brief, and eclectic, collection of white flowers. They run the gamut from the earliest trillium to the season-ending anemone. I like being smack-dab in the middle of them.
June
2015
This Really Happened Last Night
As proud and lucky as I’ve always felt to be an American, I’ve never felt more proud than seeing our White House resplendent in the rainbow last night. When love wins, everyone wins.
“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They as for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.”
June
2015
Shooting Magenta Stars
From a furry gray-green rosette comes these shooting stars of magenta. A variety of Lychnis, these hardy little performers are prolific re-seeders, with poppy-like seedpods that act as miniature salt-and-pepper shakers, dispersing their seeds generously. As biennials, they produce a mound of soft foliage the first year, then send up these powerful bursts of saturated blooms in their second. While I’m not enamored of their spindly form, I am in absolute love with their blazing color. Not many flowers match this sort of intensity, and despite their small size the sheer volume of the hue is turned up so high it can be seen from across the yard. Sometimes little things pack a powerful punch, and at the time of the year when a number of flowers are jockeying for the spotlight, this little lychnis manages to steal the show.
June
2015
Mock It Up
Having praised the virtues of the mockorange blossom over the years, this feels like a largely redundant post, but if the memory and scent is as sweet as those produced by this unassuming plant, it’s a path I’ll happily retread. The shrub itself has a rather non-descript form. Its simple round leaves start out bright green then mature to a deeper shade that all but disappears into the landscape. The stems slowly advance to a woody stage as the shrub eventually reaches higher and higher into the sky, topping out at ten to fifteen feet if you let it.
They tend to get weedy and filled with dead wood after a while, so I cut them back hard every few years, and even then their form is a little too erratic and untidy for my taste. If it weren’t for the flowers I wouldn’t bother at all. Some flowers, though, are worth it. These personify early summer, with a perfume that brings me back to far more carefree days.
June
2015
Floral Sorbet
Reminiscent of sherbet or sorbet in shade only, this tree peony bloom actually smells of a spicy tea. Though the scale of the flower is unknown in these shots, it’s immense – the size of a small plate. So big is it that the stems don’t practically support its weight. I always end up clipping the blooms and bringing them inside, where the pungent perfume can be enjoyed up close.
The bloom is an ever-changing and evolving show of its own. Just when you think it’s achieved its full bomb size, it reaches a little higher and expands a little wider, revealing an inner shade of ruby red at the throat of each petal. I love a hidden heart.
June
2015
A Lazy Summer Post
When things get too busy for a wholly original post, I like to look back at all the work that’s gone on here before. Writing a blog that’s updated at least twice a day is no easy feat. This website usually only goes dark on one day a year, and has done so for ss long as the blog portion of it has been in existence (at least ten years). For today, a look back at what was going on here a year or two ago.
June 23, 2014 started with a ginger and a summer recap – the best of both worlds. It closed with a set Hunk of the Day in the form of one Kieron Richardson.
June 23, 2013 found me in the pool, one of my favorite places to be in the summer season. There was music in there air too, and it was as dramatic as a summer storm, bat-style. Last but not least, a cocktail ended the hotness of the day.
For more, check out the archives and search around a little. I love a good treasure hunt.
June
2015
All Shiny & New
This is the part of the annual growing season that I like best – everything is still fresh and new, and not quite grown out to its maximum splendor. Bits of earthenware pots can still be seen, glimpses of dark soil forming a perfect background to the brightest green that the season will achieve. There is promise in such chartreuse shades, and a vibrant expectancy that will only gradually erode from this point forward.
Now is the time to pinch things back a little to keep them bushy and full. The first few times I have to do this always gives me pause, but then I remember that gardening is a ruthless business, and being wimpy now will only result in problems and weakness later.
For the moment, though, a breather in the relentless pace of this sunny month. A couple of trims, a little watering, some feeding, and then a bit of admiration and reflection. Enjoy the day.
June
2015
The First Summer Recap
It’s only been here a day, but we’re already recapping a bit of summer. Oh well, such is the state of the calendar, and no one is complaining. I’ll drag my naked ass out of the pool to go over what happened in the last week, as much of it was light and fluffy, while more serious stuff was going down. That’s the way summer rolls. Hang onto a noodle and paddle.
Adam Lambert got us all a little bit high.Â
After a lengthy absence, the Madonna timeline returned, in a quiet way. We went back to 1995, the year that she took one of many bows, and then she put out this fun summer video that pissed half of her camp off, and thrilled the rest of the world.
Zac Efron got shirtless, as he is wont to do, and nobody complained.
A new (old) summer fragrance from the house of Hermès.
Bradford Shane Shellhammer made his first appearance as Hunk of the Day. (And if I can score an interview with him, it may not be the last…)
Ginger Glory via Kinky Boots.
Suzie turned 40. Who will be next??? Oh, right, Chris…
The world’s baddest Noah, of ark-building fame.
The world’s fiercest fashion model.
Lunch by Cher.
Here’s why I was largely out of circulation for the past week or so – and on that note, Happy Father’s Day again!
June
2015
Greeting Summer in the Buff
It’s the first official day of summer, even if we’ve been celebrating it for quite some time. (The longer this sunny season goes, the happier we seem to be.) This will be a busy one, for various reasons, but before we get down to all that nitty and gritty, let’s just ease into things with a frolic in the pool and a couple of throwback skinny-dipping shots.
This year I haven’t been in the pool much – there just hasn’t been time – but with the warmer weather I’m looking to change that. There have been enough pool photo shoots that I don’t think another will be missed. (And if it is, go here, here, here, here, or here.) Link-a-rama! Like Chick-a-rama only with links. Ok, it’s summer and my mind is on vacation. Seek sense somewhere else. Happy Sun & Fun!
June
2015
Bitch, She’s Madonna
Vivid of color, silly of purpose, and chock-full-of-stars (pop-and-otherwise), Madonna’s new video for ‘Bitch I’m Madonna’ is a vibrant and fun romp through a party pastiche. Reminiscent of her look from 1985’s ‘Dress You Up’ moment (with a stunning pink studded jacket by Discount Universe – thanks for the info Kyle Brincefield!) it’s a bit of a throwback to the 80’s and its black-lit neon brilliance, but re-packaged for a completely of-the-moment freshness.
A lot of people, including some Madonna fans, have complained that this is her worst song and video in years. I’ll admit, initially it was not one of my favorite tracks from the otherwise-epic ‘Rebel Heart’ album, but like the savviest of entertainers, the video sells it in unexpected ways, and I’ve come around to it.
If you want serious, deep, high-minded art, look at ‘Ghosttown‘ – if you want a fun, light-hearted summer ditty, this is your jam. It’s always nice seeing Madonna let her hair down, especially when it’s pink. (And I seriously need that jacket.)
June
2015
Father’s Day 2015
My Dad’s Father’s Day gift came a day early, as he was discharged from the hospital after over a week of care following some surgery complications. There’s really no greater gift, and I only hope he keeps recovering – drinking his fluids, eating his healthy food, and getting better. He’s had a difficult few months – first breaking his arm, then having his gall bladder removed – and this latest complication had me more worried than usual.
As I watched him sitting on his hospital bed, it struck me that he looked a little like my nephew Noah – wide-eyed and innocent, and in need of just a little help. Luckily my Mom was staying with him, and I realized once again what a blessing it was to have medical people in the family. The hospital is a scary place without some inside knowledge (and even that won’t get you through the ER admission process any faster.)
I’m wishing him an extra-special Father’s Day, and somehow I value him just a bit more this year. I love you, Dad.
June
2015
Lunch Inspired by Cher
For those of you unaware of classic gay culture, the lunch I made for Noah and Emi was directly inspired by Cher’s sandwich-making efforts in ‘Mermaids’. I didn’t have a star-shaped cookie-cutter, so these shapes were more basic in design and appearance, but I still think they were cute enough to merit more than a passing ‘Meh’ from Emi, who, it seems, does not like bologna. (Well I don’t either but I’m not five!) Next time I’ll do up the watercress and tapenade as originally planned.
Kids can be finicky, but in the strangest ways. Rather than bologna and mustard, Miss Emi Lu preferred a simple meal of bread and butter, with a side of pickle. I’m assuming she’s way too young to be pregnant, so I didn’t get overly concerned, merely buttered up some white bread and popped open a jar of McClure’s finest. Chased down with half a glass of milk and finished off with some chocolate cake and whipped cream, it was the most disgusting thing I’ve seen in a while. But if a kid can be made whole by bread and butter, I’m not about to complain. Pass the pickles.
June
2015
Playing Dress-Up With My Niece
When I was a little girl – ok, fine, a little boy – I used to fantasize about dusty treasure troves of costumes and jewelry and beaded lamps in the vein of Miss Havisham or Norma Desmond. I longed for a secret attic or hidden closet in which sumptuous silk curtains flowed from ceiling to floor, where chests of colorful scarves and feather-sprouting hats burst to overflowing, and a vanity with a cushioned seat provided the perfect perch on which to primp. It would smell faintly of dried roses and long-forgotten perfume, and every corner would be piled high with the glamorous trappings of what was once worn to wondrous parties and fancy evenings out.
While I never quite found such a paradise as a child, it seems I may have inadvertently created a similar world in my attic, which has become a repository for most of my clothes and party outfits. When confronted with a five-year-old niece who ran through my list of activities in a quick two hours, I gave in and brought her up to the secret space where my costumes, and their numerous accessories, are housed.
Feathers and furs, lace and leather, sequins and silk, hair-pieces and head-dresses – it was a dream for anyone who likes to dress-up. Emi squealed with excitement as we put her into various outfits. She even got her stuffed seal (Pinka) into the act. Uncle Al donned a few select costumes to accompany her down the stairs, but I’ve wisely omitted those photos from your critical eyes.
I’d like to think that in some small way this was the magical escape for Emi that I always wanted when I was a kid. Is that what captivates adults about children? The chance to do it over again, and to do it better? To give them what we never had but always wanted? There’s something depressing about that, but Emi was blithely unaware of it. She only wanted to make sure we had something that looked good with Pinka’s tricky fur tones.
As for the attic, the secret’s out, and now it’s just another room I need to watch when the kids are around. It seems children have the keenest sense of what not to touch and where not to go, and they are invariably drawn to whatever repeatedly elicits the word ‘NO’. I’m sure there’s a prickly spindle somewhere in that attic, and I am not going to be the one responsible for that scene, so once playtime was over, I closed the door and distracted them with other sparkly objects, like the pool.
Still, it’s nice to have a place like this in my back pocket, especially in the event of a rainy day. That’s when the real test begins. Until that difficult day, a last look at our dress-up fun.
Noah got into the act with a bear hat. Some boys are just cut differently than girls.
June
2015
A Pre-School Graduation. Now you think about that.
When faced with a choice between attending a child’s dance recital or a graduation ceremony, always choose the latter. Don’t make the common mistake of thinking a dance recital will be more exciting and bearable – it will just be longer – much much MUCH longer. Andy and I won’t be able to make this year’s dance recital (and I swear it’s not because we planned to attend ‘Kinky Boots’ that night, it just happily worked out that way.) We did, however, make it to the pre-school graduation ceremony. Noah and Emi played, wait for it, Noah (of big boat biblical fame) and… umm, Mrs. Noah. (Figures that women didn’t even get names back in the time of the Great Flood. Thank God the teacher said Emi would make a great Miss America so she knows there are other career choices out there.) Nobody ever said I’d make a great Miss America, and I do feel I’ve suffered because of it.
The twins couldn’t have cared less. They just wanted to get home and open their presents.
More importantly, they wanted to begin their first and last summer before Kindergarten. That’s certainly reason to smile.
June
2015
This is what you do when you turn 40
Actually, this is sort of what Suzie and I have been doing for years: a whole lotta nothing, and much of it foolish. Gone are the days of endless car rides to Renaissance Faires or Beaver Sanctuaries (you may think I’m joking about one of those, but both really happened). Instead, as we get older, our birthday celebrations have somehow turned into even sillier affairs.
Most times, this one included, we end up simply hanging out at someone’s house. It used to be the Victorian on Locust Ave., where Suzie grew up and I spent all my childhood holidays. For a few years we ended up gathering there for her birthday – as the summer was about to begin, when the daisies and mock orange were in bloom, and the fringe tree just starting to pepper the yard with its enchanting perfume.
They were simpler days, but sadder in a way too. Our cares may have been largely non-existent, but our hearts could still riot. I wish I’d known then to just calm the fuck down and relax, that somehow it would all turn out more or less all right. Instead, I think we worried more than we needed to, and pondered serious things that no one so young should ever ponder.
To get us through, we found nonsense and frivolity in most situations. A bat hanging in the kitchen window, for instance. I was able to laugh at that because I wasn’t sleeping there. (Suzie may have found it less funny, but if so she never let on.) A drastic pruning job on the wilderness of viburnum bordering the front porch (I told you they’d grow back fuller than before!) The haircuts we gave to each other, and the hair dyes we tried when we didn’t look ridiculous enough. Rites of passage gone through together.
For this time around it was hot dogs wrapped in soft pretzels. And yo-yos that lit up. We will do a formal 40th celebration in Boston come September, but for now the birthday girl has to cut her own bread.
Andy made a valiant effort at a peanut-butter, fluff and jelly cake at the request of Suzie’s son MoMo, but it exploded in its own over-the-top madness. It appears that fluff does not take kindly to being trapped between layers of peanut butter.