Fallen Flowers, Ruinous Beauty

I’m one of those annoyingly anal Virgos who would rather get rid of a bouquet of flowers just as it starts to turn rather than watch it wither away in sad, slow decline. If there’s just one or two blooms that start to go, I’ll simply remove them and let the bouquet go on a few more days, but when they all start dropping petals it’s just too depressing to watch such irrevocable decay.

That practice may have changed when I witnessed the aftermath of this beautiful bunch of tulips. Untouched and unmoved, the natural progression of the life of a flower played out on a granite countertop. I watched with rapt wonder as the petals slowly folded back, as the pollen fell off like powdered sugar, and the pistols and stamens protruded in their own show – the accents of a bloom that don’t always get such a moment to shine.

Hooded by their collapsing petals, the pollen sacs peeked out like little heads of fear and worry. Their protection was about to fall. Their last line of defense was about to tumble. But oh how pretty such degradation could be.

Extremely extended and fully unfurled, the petals yawned and stretched, utterly unaware that they would not fold back when night fell again. Or maybe they did know, and were putting on one final show.

Petals of white go almost translucent as they age, streaked with deterioration. Sprinkled with pollen, they become abstract works of art. Beauty is everywhere if you look hard enough to find it – the universe has insured us of such.

Then, in the stillness of night, the soft clicking of fallen petals echoes the ticking of time.

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A Canary-hued Hint

Little cheers me up as much as a big bouquet of jonquils at the end of winter. With less than a month to go of the wretched season (which hasn’t even been all that bad) I’m starting to get that winter angst anxiety, in which I seek out hints of spring such as these bright blooms. They came from Ireland, and landed in a vat at the local Trader Joe’s. Too delicate to last much beyond a few days, those days are filled with light and the sweet scent of narcissus. It is just enough to keep the spirits going in this final stretch of our winter slumber.

For even more perfumed bang for your buck, seek out some hyacinths. I prefer the potted bulbs as opposed to the cut flowers, and if you’re patient and industrious enough they can be saved and planted outside for a repeat showing next spring. Their fragrance is the personification of early spring – all the hope of the world in a single sniff. I feel it… it’s coming.

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Dead Wood Field & Furniture, By My Brother

In a few weeks (give or take, as there doesn’t seem to be a set schedule or hard opening), my brother will set up shop for his furniture-making business: Dead Wood Field & Furniture. He does rustic pieces, made from raw and sometimes reclaimed wood, with occasional metal accents and a vaguely country/barn slant that was the style of his first house. It’s a popular style, lending itself to industrial spaces that need an injection of warmth, or a more traditional home in need of something raw and hefty and grounded in wood.

Pictured as the featured shot (and below) is a birthday gift from him – it’s a shelf stand that will hold a few plants for our outside patio. This is his style, and it’s simple, substantial, strong and clean. There’s a shabby-chic raw edge to it as well, but it works well in the right setting. He’s also open to creating pieces per the customer’s specifications and requests. Check out the Dead Wood Field & Furniture FaceBook page here (and while there wish my baby bro a happy birthday). Store details forthcoming…

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My Baby Brother’s Birthday

It was a fall day, but it must have been warm enough to ride our bikes, because my brother and I were speeding down Lincoln and turning onto Romeyn as the wind whipped more leaves from the trees. The once-green canopy of maples and oaks littered the streets, sidewalks and lawns. Shiny black garbage bags lined the curbs and the cutting scent of wood smoke filled the air. Soon, it would be impossible to ride our bikes anywhere until after the winter thawed. We pedaled harder to outrun the advance of time. As we neared the bottom of Pershing Road, we skidded to a stop in the leaves. I remember the feel of their crunchy points, and the asphalt hidden beneath them.

A large log – the carcass of some decayed and fallen tree – rested at the bottom of the street. Intriguingly hollowed out by time and circumstance, it was like some fairy-tale object from the forest, incongruously dropped at the edge of the street. We moved closer to it and examined its soft, mossy exterior. As I peered into the dark hole, looking for some chipmunk or other woodland denizen to be asleep in its shelter, my brother kicked the other end of the log. A swarm (okay, maybe five or six) hornets or bees flew into my face. I got stung near my eye, which promptly began to swell itself shut, and the pain was horrendous. “Why did you do that?!” I screamed as I began pedaling furiously home. Such is the stuff of brothers – and it goes both ways.

Two babies could not have been born further apart in the calendar year. The most distant dates possible (February 25 and August 24) marked when my brother and I came into the world. Following such a pre-destined journey of diametrically opposed lives, we have lived up to those dates and are as different as two brothers could possibly be. Yet through it all, there was a closeness forged in the first part of our formative years, when some of us have our happiest memories, that can never be altered or taken away, no matter what paths we make and take.

Brothers know each other’s weak spots, their sensitive issues, their strengths, and their merits. They know how to get under each other’s skin like no one else, and they have the weapons of a shared childhood and history to wage the dirtiest wars imaginable. As such, I marvel that some of us maintain such good relationships. Ours is far from perfect, but the love at its core has seen us through the argumentative periods. He’s the only brother I have, and that’s something that neither of us has taken for granted.

On this day, I wish him a very happy birthday, and I count myself the luckier of us both because I get to have him as my brother.

{Background note: the featured photo here was taken on a summer vacation at, you guessed it, Disneyworld in Florida. Check out the matching t-shirts. I tucked. He didn’t. Opposites in every way.}

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Slipping Into Something Naked

Not everything that Madonna does impresses or even interests me. Witness her children’s books (I read the first one and left it at that.) Witness her H&M clothing line (whatever “it” is completely eluded me.) Most surprisingly, for me, witness her first foray into fragrance, ‘Truth or Dare’, the perfume named after her far-more-fascinating 1991 documentary. That’s not to say I didn’t check it out and even buy a bottle for my Mom, but it was a fragrance very much designed for those who love sweet perfumes. Boldly floral, with piercing notes of tuberose and gardenia, it was a sweet and voluptuous creation, but not something I could ever stretch into a scent I’d wear outside of novelty nights in.

A few years after its 2012 introduction, I found another bottle at a severe markdown and gave it another go, but by this time its flanker frag ‘Truth or Dare: Naked’ was also on the scene, and there were whispers that it was less floral in scent, and could be worn by the more daring guys unafraid to bend the rules a little. In fact, the way it read on paper sounded like it might just be something I might love. Not just because it was Madonna.

Reported to be a floral/woody fragrance, with a warm and creamy underside, ‘Truth or Dare: Naked’ felt like a very different entity from its predecessor, and in the best way. With top notes of honeysuckle, peach blossom and neroli, it sounds sickly sweet to start, and the midsection of vanilla orchid, cocoa flower and lily of the valley does nothing to detract from the sweetness. What intrigued me was the base of it all: Texas cedar wood, benzoin from Laos, oud accord and Australian sandalwood. If the latter could outlast and subdue the former – which good base notes always manage to do – this could quite possibly be something exquisite.

Based on that, I did what I’d only done once before: I ordered the scent unsniffed. It was the same dare I took with Viktor & Rolf’s Spicebomb. It turned out to be a fitting move – as ‘Naked’ is surprisingly reminiscent of that scent – the female-friendly version of ‘Spicebomb’ perhaps. It’s got a spicy element that counteracts the floral vanilla slant that I tend to abhor, transforming it into something fruity, with lifesaving bands of woodiness to keep it grounded. Those base notes do indeed keep it down to earth, even if it wasn’t quite enough to challenge anything like the darker Private Blends of Tom Ford. Still, for its cheaper-than-cheap price point (I could get at least fifteen bottles of ‘Naked’ for just one bottle of a Ford Private Blend) this is a prize find, and I can’t believe it’s taken me this long to come around to something by Madonna.

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A Brief Night Visit

They wheeled her into the room during a tense time. I can’t put my finger on what was wrong, and this was, after all, just a dream, but even in dreams the ominous can be felt. The atmosphere just felt worrisome, the way you feel when you’ve forgotten something but don’t yet realize what it is. She looked tiny, much smaller than the childhood memories I have of this grand woman, who always seemed larger than life. Now, in my dream, her hair was shrunken like the rest of her, and her legs were so diminutive that at first I thought they were gone.

My grandmother, gone from this earth for a few years, now visiting my dreams, and looking, despite her size and wheelchair, full of color and life. Her skin was no longer pale or addled with veins. It glowed a healthy color. Around her head an aura glistened like sun on the sea. Yet it was her eyes that transfixed me most: they sparkled.

Then the dream was done, and the uneasiness that has plagued my nights of late returned in the dark and empty room.

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A Rather Blah Recap

Blog posts are traditionally titled with the aim of gaining clicks and viewers, devised with snappy and often saucy phrases to whet the appetite and entice the casual browser. This is not one of those. This is an honest description of the way I feel at this time of the year, and the way I feel about this recap of the week. There’s a whole month left of winter, so chew on that while you look back.

Things began on a promising and artistic note, with this post on the amazing work of Nicolas Brunet.

Zachary Quinto’s boyfriend Miles McMillan took it all off and infected every one of us with some serious beach envy.

Michael Phelps remains musclebound, and headed for the Speedo parade.

An aural treat by a Trainor.

Domhnall Gleeson made for an unorthodox hunk, but a ginger is a ginger.

What do I care how much it may storm?

I’ve got lavender light to keep me warm.

A rare double-Hunk of the Day post featured Will Wikle and Colby Keller double-teaming the popular feature.

The Delusional Grandeur Tour carried onward, deep into the forest.

Ronnie Kroell continues to use his hunkdom for good.

Typically-hot hunks dominated the nightly posts, headed up by Bo Roberts, François Sagat, Zack Hardt, and Brock O’Hurn.

Last but not least, a whiff of summer carried on the wind, in the form of some Tom Ford gorgeousness.

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Tom Ford, Summer Brewing

“In most other areas of the luxury market, instant gratification has also become part of the luxury experience. In fact, the ultimate luxury now is to not have to wait at all. It is a romantic notion to think that people want to wait for things and anticipate them, but I’m afraid that no one really wants to wait for anything anymore.” ~ Tom Ford

It’s never too early to be thinking about summer. Sometimes, it’s the best way of getting through the winter. As such, when a few new Tom Ford fragrances were recently announced, I was giddy with daydreams of summer mornings, lazy afternoon swims, and sultry, languid evenings. The most promising is a new Private Blend ‘Soleil Blanc’ – which I had a quick whiff of a few weeks ago, but didn’t delve too deep as it reeked of summer and coconut oil and I didn’t want to spoil it with a winter memory. Scent is powerful that way and is often said to be the strongest memory-trigger. ‘Soleil Blanc’ is the aptly named white sun of summer, and though I’ve never been very keen on coconut, this one may make it into my beach vacation repertoire. (Clearly a beach excursion is required this year.) It is said to dry down with an underlying amber glow, which brings it into closer proximity with ‘Costa Azzurra’.

The other new ones are in the Portofino line, something that’s on the verge of being overdone. It’s definitely his most accessible of the Private Blend offerings, but the Private Blend line has, for me, remained special because they are so often dark and complex, and not the usual light-hearted citrus-fare of so many colognes. Don’t get me wrong – ‘Mandarino Di Amalfi’ is exquisite, and come June I will be bathing in it daily. But for a Private Blend I prefer things a bit more off the sand-beaten path.

At any rate, it’s fun to fantasize about the sunny season, and these next few weeks are when we all get a little antsy for a shift out of winter gear. I can’t think of anyone better to lead the way than Tom Ford.

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A Hunk Who Does Good: Ronnie Kroell

 Our very first three-time Hunk of the Day is also a personal favorite of mine, as Ronnie Kroell is one of those genuinely nice guys making his way in the otherwise-jaded land of Hollywood. He’s making further motions on making in positive imprint on that town in his latest project, “The Ronnie and Eddie Show” but he knows he can’t do it alone. To that end, here’s a bit of word-spreading for a guy who deserves it for all the good he does for the world.
 
HOLLYWOOD – Friend Movement and Vertex Media are proud to announce the development of “The Ronnie and Eddie Show,” a comedic reality show that follows the lives of actor and entrepreneur duo, Ronnie Kroell and “Laughing Eddie” Lobo.
“The Ronnie and Eddie” Show follows the lives of BRAVO’s, “Make Me A Super Model” fan favorite, Ronnie Kroell and Hollywood Funny Man, “Laughing Eddie” Lobo on a roller coaster journey of dreams, drama, and helping others. Each 30-minute episode brings the viewer an intimate look behind the “smoke and mirrors” of Hollywood, the challenges of operating a business, and the joy of making the dreams of others come true. The show promises to bring the humor of Laverne and Shirley, the drama of Vanderpump Rules, and the heart of Extreme Home Makeover.
Enjoy celebrity cameos from the likes of BRUCE VILANCH, KARAMO BROWN, AYLIN BAYRAMOGLU, FRENCHIE DAVIS, and more to be announced.By supporting “THE RONNIE AND EDDIE SHOW” on Indiegogo, supporters have a part in creating a new Hollywood – a more inclusive, supportive, and talent driven place to dream.
 
I support any project that serves to inject a little heart into the Hollywood universe, and any person who aims to combine their love of entertainment with a love for humanity. Best of Luck, Ronnie & Eddie.
 
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The DG Tour: Red Riding Wood ~ Part 3

The Delusional Grandeur Tour continues in this post, as the ‘Red Riding Wood’ section expands, and we travel down a path that leads deep into the forest. “Mother said straight ahead, not to delay or be misled. I should have heeded her advice, but he seemed so nice…”

Strange things have been known to happen in the woods. As beautiful and serene as they most often are, there is a darkness to them, a hint of danger and terror that lurks beneath the leaves, behind the bark. A canopy of foliage can keep out the sun, but it will never keep out the night.

Yet there is something about the beginning of a journey that lends its own illumination, no matter how rainy or dreary the day. The innocence of not knowing what’s to come is its own amulet of power, and that makes it almost impossible to destroy.

Let us walk on, then, down this woodland path.

Let us see what is to come…

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Winter’s Lavender Light

When the snowstorm moved off at last, and the afternoon sun lit up the high-rise hotels, the scene was magnificent to behold. It was the sort of light most of us don’t get to see very much – the strange immediate appearance of the sun after a day of steady snowfall. Coupled with the rapid approach of dusk, the snow and ice took on layers of lavender – as pink and purple fought for dominance, and the fiery orb of salmon descended in the West.

It doesn’t often happen that the snow will alight so prettily on the branches and remain there. Usually it’s as fickle as the fluttering birds, especially when the wind begins. On this day, the wetness of the snow and the relative lack of wind allowed the beauty to last.

Looking like a cotton candy world, in the lightest shades of pink and blue, the effect is exquisite. It lasts only moments, as if such magnificence was not long for this universe. Soon, the light would depart, and dusk would take its place. An almost imperceptible shift if you watch as it happens, but dramatically obvious if you take your eyes away from it for any length of time.

The turn of the evening screw was at hand.

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The Best Place To Weather A Snowstorm

A fortress of red brick, a floor of warm hardwood, and a couch emboldened by the coziest blanket in the world: there is no better place to ride out a winter snowstorm than our Boston pied-à-terre. I’ve written of many magical nights here, safely ensconced behind its thick walls, buffered between the first and third floors, and it still thrills me to be in such a place when a storm strikes.

From the relatively safe vantage point overlooking the street, one can vaguely make out the towering Marriott and Westin hotels, along with the building formerly known as the John Hancock – though the latter almost disappears from snowy view on this afternoon. Somehow I’ve made it to the corner market for provisions, and soon dinner will be roasting away. There is wine as well, and a good book or two.

Bread and cheese, green apples and ginger tea. Something to hold until the main meal. A bluesy jazz standard plays on the stereo. It is a cozy scene.

Watching the world outside turn white, while the inside glows in amber shades offset by the celery green walls, is one of life’s contrasting pleasures. I pull the curtains open a bit more and strain to look down the rest of the street.

The snowfall lasts most of the day, but just before the light turns, the skies clear.

It is a majestic moment, rife with beauty, made more dear by its fleeting and ephemeral nature. Such splendor cannot last.

Grabbing a camera, I rush downstairs, without even a coat. I don’t intend to go beyond the steps of the brownstone, but the scene is so wondrous I suddenly find myself walking into Southwest Corridor Park, seeking the falling sun, and thrilling at the way it lights the treetops and buildings.

Clumped in the branches of the trees, and moist enough to tenaciously hang onto their perches in spite of the breeze, the snow looks like fluffy wads of cotton.

There are others out in the surreal air, camera phones lifted, each of us trying to capture the quicksilver moment, to freeze the beauty for some future end-of-summer day when the heat and humidity are once again unbearable. We yearn for what we have not at hand.

The onset of evening. The deepening of the sky. The glow of the snow.

A home away from home, and the glorious end of a day.

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Happy Hump Day Song

Let me just own something from the very start: I’m a pop lover through and through. Despite early concerts of Guns ‘N Roses and Metallica (shout out to my high-school bestie Ann!) and even earlier folk inspiration like Peter, Paul & Mary, my heart belongs to light and frilly pop, and I’ve never apologized for it or pretended otherwise. From the very first time I heard ‘Material Girl‘ by my main muse, pop music has held me rapt, inspiring me as much as any other art form. There’s just something about a simple pop song that cuts to the very core of the human experience, and as universal as many of them are, they can also be intensely personal and individual. The best ones straddle both worlds.

Today, I’m presenting an old one, at least by pop culture timeframes, which move at a lightning pace. This is ‘Dear Future Husband’ by Meghan Trainor (who just won a Grammy, BTW). You’re going to judge it, I know you are, but that’s ok. Just press play and see what happens. If it doesn’t lift you up in some small way, we should probably not be friends. I need to be the cynical one in all my relationships.

For a lot of pop songs, I tend to go deep and remember those darker and sadder experiences that they bring to mind. On this happy hump day it’s nothing but light-hearted happiness. So take a couple minutes to look around you on this Wednesday morning, and if the coast is clear feel free to bop along. Some days the only thing to do is dance.

AFTER EVERY FIGHT JUST APOLOGIZE
AND MAYBE THEN I’LL LET YOU TRY & ROCK MY BODY RIGHT
EVEN IF I WAS WRONG (YOU KNOW I’M NEVER WRONG!)
WHY DISAGREE? WHY, WHY DISAGREE?

YOU GOTTA KNOW HOW TO TREAT ME LIKE A LADY
EVEN WHEN I’M ACTING CRAZY
TELL ME EVERYTHING’S ALL RIGHT.

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Michael Phelps, Musclebound

Though he’s been a big hit here, in naked spreads such as this, and nude photos like this, Michael Phelps was always a little too lean and lanky for my liking. That changed a bit as these recent photos will attest. Mr. Phelps has been getting into fighting shape for this summer’s Olympic Games in Rio. A little color, a little chest hair, a little musculature – and suddenly Phelps is a contender. Even in his Speedo, he sometimes paled in comparison to flashier teammates and rivals, yet he rose above them in the medal game. In the showerin the swimming pool, or in the summer, Phelps reaches just beyond his contemporaries to grab the gold. Here’s looking to Rio…

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Art by Nicolas Brunet: A Celebration of the Salacious

Sex has made a dirty name for itself over the years, and any celebration of cock is going to be met with instantaneous dismissal if not outright hostility. The Hunks featured here, some of whom are gay (and straight) porn actors, pose and preen in proudly naked form, and in some small (and big) ways they are hopefully blazing new trails of sexual acceptance for a sex-positive world. One artist who is also pushing for a transformation in the way our culture demonizes sex is Nicolas Brunet.

His website ‘The Art of Nicolas Brunet‘ is gloriously NSFW, and more than worth a perusal if you’re into fascinating work that pushes boundaries and highlights the maximum pumptitude of the penis. Devilishly and deliciously not for the faint of heart, his artwork flirts with the profane, but actually makes greater strides in putting forth a world where words like ‘profane’ don’t exist, or at the very least matter.

Witness his glorification and depiction of gay porn actors. He paints a pretty picture of these gentlemen – worshipped and wanted in certain circles, and the judgment and derision sometimes heaped upon the gay porn industry is here transformed into a component of inspiration and beauty. Changing attitudes and social constructions doesn’t happen overnight, if it happens at all, but Brunet’s giddy joy in crafting such figures, and the exuberant arousal they put forth, is perhaps more effective than any abstract ideological argument on the subject.

The rock-solid phallic perfection of his work seems partly inspired by the legendary Tom of Finland, and his famous crotch shots. Yet Brunet’s work injects a modern-day edge, occasionally going boldly into sci-fi territory. There is a rich history of this sort of sexual display, going back to the erotic Japanese wood blocks centuries ago to current day Yaoi and Manga.

Not that it’s always been about sex and pleasure. Solitude plays a recurrent theme in many of his pieces, with auto-erotic acts and ejaculation made in mostly solitary respect. The men here don’t often come together, and the juxtaposition of such an intimate and isolated act given a public display makes much of the work crackle with tension.

Brunet is also a master of making quieter moments come to brilliant life. The longing of a man sniffing a shoe – a lost lover’s, a boyfriend’s, or his own is unclear – but what does come through is a palpable and resonant depiction of yearning. Maybe it’s a sexual peccadillo, or maybe it’s something more. The most powerful part of Brunet’s skill is that he leaves it up to the viewer to fill in the rest, and filling in the blanks has never been more fun.

{You can view more of Nicolas Brunet’s work at his NSFW website ‘The Art of Nicolas Brunet‘.}

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