She is currently enthralling audiences in the most amazing theatrical performance I have ever seen in my almost-fifty years on this planet, so crowning Sarah Snook as Dazzler of the Day feels underwhelming at best. Alas, it’s all I have to give, and for her bravura efforts on stage in ‘The Picture of Dorian Gray’, this is the least I can offer. Snook is perhaps best known for her work on ‘Succession’, and her extraordinary tour-de-force in ‘Dorian Gray’ under the revolutionary direction of Kip Williams is simply astounding. She’s only there until the end of June, so do whatever it takes to get yourself a ticket – it’s that amazing.
May
2025
Back on Broadway, Where We Belong – Part 2
The blooms of the Hawthorne tree always remind me of our old home, where an enormous specimen grew right outside my bedroom window, raising its thorny branches and blooming in sweet, creamy style every spring. Mom remembered how much Dad was annoyed at the tree – those blooms soon dropped their petals to the ground – and the ground was the bulk of our driveway. Petals don’t sweep up as easily as one thinks. Afterward, the berries would fall, even messier than the blooms, to greet the fall and make a further muck of things. I didn’t mind – that tree was a signal of the shift of seasons, and I welcomed all of them. On this morning walk by Central Park, we spotted a Hawthorne in bloom, and springs from my childhood came lovingly back to mind.
‘The Picture of Dorian Gray‘ by Oscar Wilde is a novel that informed my youth, and devastated me every time I opened its worn and earmarked pages. Such an exquisite rendering of the gorgeous folly of humanity and vanity and art spoke directly to the person I was becoming, and Wilde’s words stayed with me, haunting the nights and peppering the days with wit and wonder. When I heard about Kip Williams and his take on the novel in a revolutionary play starring Sarah Snook, I proposed seeing if we could get same-day half-off tickets at from the TKTS booth at Lincoln Center. Mom was game as she had enjoyed the novel too, and after a bit of a line, we procured the perfect seats to viewing this life-altering show.
We were both amazed at what we saw on the stage of the Music Box Theatre – a once-in-a-lifetime performance that must be seen to be believed. Worlds within worlds within worlds – the way New York stacks itself inside of itself, closing and opening all at once, revealing and obscuring and ever-enthralling.
We chose a simple, convenient, and classic establishment for a quick dinner – Sardi’s – as it was almost time for our final show.
That seems a fitting point to start the closing of this lovely weekend, as evening descended over the unhushed city – and the magic of ‘Maybe Happy Ending’ began – is that a tragic ending? Not at all.
The moon floated over the Empire State Building, and you know what they say when you get caught between the moon and New York City…
May
2025
Back on Broadway, Where We Belong – Part 1
Last year’s return to Broadway was a bittersweet one, as it marked the first time Mom and I would be spending our Mother’s Day weekend in New York since we lost Dad. This year was a little lighter, a little sweeter, and a whole lot brighter, as far as the spectacular roster of shows we would see.
We began in slightly misty fashion, and though that Friday threatened to be consumed by rain, we escaped most of it, as the heaviest part fell while we enjoyed dinner. In between, we managed a quick jaunt through Bryant Park and did a brief bit of shopping along Fifth Avenue.
A Greek dinner at Kellari proved a delight, and I jinxed us by mentioning that I hoped Audra McDonald would be at that night’s performance of ‘Gypsy’ for which we had front row tickets. We got in the longest line right before showtime, before overhearing someone state that this was the cancellation line. Jinx confirmed, Audra was out, and it was too late to come up with another plan, so we filed into our seats – the first time that I’ve been in the front row of any show and not had anyone on either side of us. In fact, the bulk of the front section was woefully empty.
No matter, the show must go on, and the rest of the company was enthralling, including understudy Tryphena Wade, who absolutely nailed the iconic role of Rose in a way that all too often gets overshadowed by whatever fabulous baggage a more well-known leading lady can often carry. A toast to the understudies then – they keep the theatrical fires burning.
A misty walk back to our hotel revealed the magic of a spring night in New York, which turned directly into a glorious spring morning.
And a hint of that evening’s show…
… but that happy ending would have to wait until after we took in the single greatest performance I have ever witnessed on any stage, Broadway or otherwise.
May
2025
May Musical Memories
May makes for magical and magnificent musical memories, and a little alliteration alights like a lilting airy lyric, married and melded to a melancholy melody.
May makes for moody musical moments – and a few follow:
My first and only straight boy crush.
My first date with a guy (unbeknownst to me).
Let your body move to the music.
May
2025
#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series
Steaming clothes is a lovely way of coping with a brisk morning.
Happy retail memories ensue…
May
2025
Cooper Koch for Calvin Klein Underwear
Calvin Klein has found its underwear footing again, as evidenced by current bulging ambassador Cooper Koch and the recent exhibitionism by Bad Bunny in his skivvies. There is also the not-so-distant splash made by Jeremy Allen White. Where will Cooper stand when the dust settles on his contribution? Time will tell…
May
2025
Nothing New Under the Sun
As I approach my 50th birthday, and perhaps quite a bit before that, I have felt the repeating patterns of the years as they pass. Mostly it’s the gardens that reveal these patterns. They may shift from year to year – sometimes the cherries and lilacs are drooping and heavy with blooms, sometimes they are scant and precious – but patterns are patterns for a reason.
Some years repeat the exact same bloom patterns almost to the day.
There is comfort there, in the way the world repeats itself.
As it feels like things grow more and more unstable when it comes to people, nature maintains its sanity, its consistency.
And so I embrace the arrival of the sweet woodruff blooms – little clouds of white blossoms floating above pretty foliage. A carpet of beauty, one that will stay fresh right into the fall.
May
2025
‘The Picture of Dorian Gray’ on Broadway: A Review
“Even now I cannot help feeling that it is a mistake to think that the passion one feels in creation is ever really shown in the work one creates. Art is always more abstract than we fancy. Form and colour tells us of form and colour ~ that is all. It often seems to me that art conceals the artist far more completely than it ever reveals him.” ~ Oscar Wilde, ‘The Picture of Dorian Gray’
Ever since seeing my very first Broadway production helmed by a star (Sandy Duncan flying around the Lunt-Fontanne in ‘Peter Pan’ way back when I was a child) I have never declared an actor’s performance to be the best or most impressive I’ve ever seen, because there was simply too much space for someone else to thrill and enthrall me more. I consider myself extremely lucky and privileged to have seen the following, all of whom have made lasting impressions:
Glenn Close in the original Broadway production of ‘Sunset Boulevard.’
Zoe Caldwell in ‘Master Class‘.
Billy Porter in ‘Kinky Boots’.
Janet McTeer in ‘A Doll’s House’.
Neil Patrick Harris in ‘Hedwig and the Angry Inch’.
Kristin Chenoweth and Idina Menzel in ‘Wicked‘.
Christine Ebersole in ‘Grey Gardens’.
Bebe Neuwirth and Ann Reinking in ‘Chicago’.
Mercedes Ruehl in ‘Lost in Yonkers’.
Stockard Channing in ‘Six Degrees of Separation’.
Up until this moment I have safely steered clear of declaring any of these performances the ‘best thing’ I have ever seen in my lifetime, because there was always room for more. That room has astoundingly disappeared with the performance Sarah Snook is giving right now in ‘The Picture of Dorian Gray’ at the Music Box Theatre, and there is a very good chance I will never again in my lifetime witness such an extraordinary feat of raw, concise, visceral, gorgeous, and breathtaking human expression.
Snook plays 26 wholly distinctive characters, centering on the titular Dorian Gray, painter Basil Hallward, and society dandy Lord Henry Wotton – and there is never a doubt as to which one is on stage at any given time, given how adroitly and masterfully she imbues shading and personality to each. Vocally, physically, and with split-second timing, she never misses a beat, and the sheer precision of each line, and the emotional abandon she at turns captures, is the stuff of pure genius. I have never seen anything so mesmerizing and astonishing, and every single moment is rooted in the human experience.
The main characters are established early on, via camera angles and a few simple accessories – a cigarette for Lord Henry, a paintbrush for Basil, a foppish wig of ringlets for Dorian and a simple knowing wink for The Narrator. Snook does not actually require any sort of accoutrement whatsoever, so strikingly does she convey the mannerisms, voices and tenor of each character. That she does it so spectacularly is the clever lynchpin of one of the main tenets of the production: that we are multitudes, and rarely one singular person at any given moment.
Kip Williams is writer and director, and in ‘The Picture of Dorian Gray’ he has revolutionized the way technology and live theater can meet to create a work that manages to be both heartbreakingly intimate and breathtakingly infinite. It cannot be conveyed or fully described with words – it simply must be seen and felt and experienced. In the shape-shifting trickster-like hands of Snook, Williams has found a worthy embodiment of the multi-faceted jewel-like grandiosity that Wilde’s indelible creations demand; it’s a testament to their exquisite execution that this is quite likely the first version of ‘Dorian Gray’ that is successfully gorgeous, and compelling, in every way.
Williams explains his approach to the piece in the Playbill: “While I was inspired to conceive a work that would embrace a range of contemporary technologies that might, amongst other things, reflect our modern obsession with youth, beauty and the individual, I also wanted to root the play in the most ancient and analogue of theatre traditions: a single storyteller coming to an audience directly to recount a story. This led to the creation of the present day character known as The Narrator, a conduit between present and past, who in the conjuring of the story becomes subsumed by its eponymous character, Dorian Gray. This ancient story telling form called for the play to be written with a singular narratorial voice, which led to the task of largely seeking to maintain Wilde’s linguistic style, tone and rhythm throughout my writing, despite the many departures from the original text.”
It’s a testament to Wilde’s work (which was a formative influence on my younger self), and his understanding of the darker and more vain aspects of humanity, that this translates so well into the modern, selfie-obsessed filter-addicted social media world of today. In one of the most brilliant flashes of the play, Snook’s cel phone captures and filters her face showing how we are all pulling a reverse Dorian Gray in the way we constantly present our social media with our most perfect selves, while reality is our hidden portrait.
Weaving a modern sensibility into Wilde’s words is dangerously difficult, as proven by the number of stilted attempts at adapting ‘Dorian Gray’ over the years, but through ingenious use of cameras and videos (the camera operators create their own modern-day dance of documentation), as well as impossibly-choreographed precision between Snook and her pre-recorded bits, it’s not far-fetched to predict that the technological mechanics of this play will be a revolutionary touchstone for the future of theater. Despite this cutting edge aspect of the work, and the very real and resonant connection the work makes with this precise moment in time, the guttural punch of Snook’s spellbinding performance is grounded in the search for self, the uncomfortable and simultaneously-addicting pull of the mirror, and the multitude of fractured pieces with which we try to put ourselves together.
“What an exquisite life you have had! You have drunk deeply of everything. You have crushed the grapes against your palate. Nothing has been hidden from you. And it has all been to you no more than the sound of music. It has not marred you. You are still the same… You are the type of what the age is searching for, and what it is afraid it has found. I am so glad that you have never done anything, never carved a statue, or painted a picture, or produced anything outside of yourself! Life has been your art. You have set yourself to music. Your days are your sonnets.” ~ Oscar Wilde, ‘The Picture of Dorian Gray’
May
2025
The Koto Experience
Does anyone else remember the commercial for Koto restaurant that went something like ‘The Koto Experience‘… and I can’t remember the rest?
It used to play before the movies, and I thought I caught it on television a few times.
Strange and silly, the things we remember.
Clouds of miso soup swirl like spring.
The commercial jingle for a Japanese restaurant.
The ringing of a gong.
The years of dinners and celebrations and quiet talks.
A pair of cherry trees grows outside the window.
One weeping, one upright.
Both blocked by the dropped shade of a sunny afternoon.
May
2025
A Mother of a Recap
Mom and I have just returned from our traditional Mother’s Day weekend on Broadway (lots to tell about that when I get around to it). For now, here’s a recap of the week that led into the happy day.
Our 15th wedding anniversary: Part One and Part Two.
May
2025
A Little Lilac, and Only A Little
Last fall we had a crazy warm spell that brought out many lilac blooms long before they should have come out – and when you spend your lilacs blooms in the fall, you don’t get many in the spring. While others delighted in the unconventional blooming of the lilacs in the fall, I mourned and complained, because I knew what we were going to be giving up. And here we fucking are.
This is the lone lilac bloom on our hybridized lilac shrub. In honesty, while others enjoyed a fall bloom, ours didn’t bother. Sadly, our trees tend to take a year off of blooming now and then, so ours joined with the others experiencing a lackluster bloom cycle. No matter, it makes this single stem all the more cherished and glorious – and it only takes one to fill a room with happy spring memories.
May
2025
Happy Mother’s Day
This Mother’s Day post goes out to all the Moms out there who are keeping things together – it’s the most difficult job in the world, and it deserves more than one day of thanks and honor. If all goes according to plan, my Mom and I will be returning from our traditional Mother’s Day weekend in New York City as this goes live – it’s the least bit of recompense I can give for all that she’s given to us over the years.
As the reigning matriarch in our family, she has watched as we have grown and evolved, bringing us back together and reminding us how important family will aways be. Thanks for everything, Mom – enjoy this day!
May
2025
The Swan’s Sacrifice
“For the Prince and his love the male Swan, redemption comes through death. But not even the pecking of his swan mates nor the poking and prodding of the Prince’s nurses and doctor can ultimately defeat the love the two found in each other’s embrace.” – David Roberts
“As the Queen approaches her dead son on his bed – the closest she has come to expressing any sincere human emotion throughout – the audience sees the Swan and the Prince above and behind the bed, in an embrace which will eternally link their hearts and their love and gives hope to all who search for love and meaning in a relationship.” ~ David Roberts
“When our perceived self merges with our real self, there is usually some kind of death and loss, but more importantly, there is a rebirth.” ~ David Roberts
“Only in adulthood can any intelligent understanding of the meaning of one’s existence in this world be gained from one’s experiences in it.”~
“Psychological discoveries aid the adult in comprehending the child from within an adult’s frame of reference. But such adult understanding of the machinations of a child’s mind often increases the gap between them – the two seem to look at the same phenomenon from such different points of view that each sees something quite different. If the adult insists that the way he sees things is correct – as it may well be, seen objectively and with adult knowledge – this gives the child a hopeless feeling that there is no use in trying to arrive at a common understanding. Knowing who holds the power, the child, to avoid trouble and have his peace, says that he agrees with the adult, and is then forced to go it alone.”~
“For those who immerse themselves in what the fairy tale has to communicate, it becomes a deep, quiet pool which at first seems to reflect only our own image; but behind it we soon discover the inner turmoils of our soul – its depth, and ways to gain peace within ourselves and with the world, which is the reward of our struggles.” ~ Bruno Bettelheim
~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~
- Pink Frilly Fairy: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three
- Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
- A Purple-Hued Interlude
- Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
- Purple Puff Confection: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
- A Blue-Hued Interlude
- Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
- Bad Boy Bangs: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
- Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
- Sugar Plum Ballerina: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- A Pool Frolic: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
- A Cemetery Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
- Powder Blue Fur Doll: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- A Milky Interlude
- Rock Out, Cock Out/ Hang Out, Wang Out: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- Cocktail Cocktale: Part One and Part Two.
- A Fairy’s Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
- Willy Wonkers: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- A Peacock In Everything But Beauty: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- Swan Lake Fantasia: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
May
2025
The Swan Avenger
A would-be suicide saved by a swan.
A prince saved by a man.
A man saved by reflection.
From the purest of pain to the grandest of grace… only we aren’t there yet, and the fairy’s tale is far from over.
There will be darkness before the light,
hurt before the healing,
and loss before the love.
But always… always… there is love.
When last we left our prince, he had attempted to take his life…
“His attempt is subverted by The Swan who emerges from the water. The Prince recognizes The Swan from his dreams and is instantly attracted to him. The Swan is joined by other swans who seem to threaten The Prince. The Swan controls them and protects The Prince, becoming his soul mate and his reason to live.” ~ David Roberts
“More importantly, the Swan’s embrace of The Prince is the moment he recognizes who he is and what kind of love he wants and needs. He is able to accept that he is gay and finds a peace that he has never known before.” ~ David Roberts
“In the second act, despite the growth he has experienced, the Prince falls into deeper despair, particularly when, at a dance, he recognizes an intruder to look just like his Swan. The events which follow result not in life, but in the accidental death of his Girlfriend.” ~ David Roberts
“Alone in his bed, he is visited by the swans who quickly disappear. The Prince’s Swan emerges from the bed and in a tender and beautiful fashion, invites The Prince onto the bed.” ~ David Roberts
“The other swans re-enter and kill The Swan. The Prince, alone, dies of despair. His mother enters to discover her dead son and for the first time expresses emotion, even love for him. Above the bed appears The Swan with the Young Prince cradled in his wings.” ~ David Roberts
~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~
- Pink Frilly Fairy: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three
- Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
- A Purple-Hued Interlude
- Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
- Purple Puff Confection: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
- A Blue-Hued Interlude
- Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
- Bad Boy Bangs: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
- Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
- Sugar Plum Ballerina: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- A Pool Frolic: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
- A Cemetery Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
- Powder Blue Fur Doll: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- A Milky Interlude
- Rock Out, Cock Out/ Hang Out, Wang Out: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- Cocktail Cocktale: Part One and Part Two.
- A Fairy’s Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
- Willy Wonkers: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- A Peacock In Everything But Beauty: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- Swan Lake Fantasia: Part One and Part Two.
May
2025
The Swan Prince
We begin with a waltz.
And a young prince.
A fairy tale turned on its head, reversing gender roles, mind-fucking preconceived notions, and inverting the idea of where wisdom and knowledge resides, this story is like a multi-faceted jewel with many planes and cuts and angles.
Life examined through the eyes of a child is life at its purest, and no matter how we try to hide what we do, children always see right through it. Whether they realize it plainly and actually, or merely sense it through instinct and natural empathy, children know.
We know.
Mathew Bourne’s take on ‘Swan Lake’ posits a male version of the ballet – a gay fantasia that blasphemes the traditional and uptight ballet rules, throwing them out and replacing them with passion and messy emotion. It thrilled and moved me, sparking memories of a childhood of dreams and nightmares, desire and fantasy and tragedy – a dramatically operatic presentation of a gay boy’s past, somehow imagined and known and conjured by a gay composer.
A review by David Roberts captured the story and the meanings behind it better than I could have done. He will narrate the rest of this swan’s tale.
“”Swan Lake” opens with The Young Prince tossing and turning in his very large bed, agitated by nightmares. Above him appears a figure from his imagination, a powerful swan. The figure disappears and his mother The Queen enters his room to console him; however, when he reaches out to her she turns away from him unable to give him the love and attention and acceptance that he needs.” ~ David Roberts
“In the remainder of the first act, we see The Young Prince and The Prince now grown attempting to adjust to being part of a Royal Family. He is paraded around by his mother, they both wave a lot (as Royals do), smile a lot (as Royals must), cut ribbons and launch new ships. But all of this activity does not satisfy the Prince’s need for love.” ~ David Roberts
“This is a Prince struggling with issues of separation and individualism, sexual identity, and self-realization. His Private Secretary continuously tries to set him up with a girlfriend. The Queen does not approve of this commoner and The Prince becomes more frustrated in his ability to find a significant relationship and determines to commit suicide by throwing himself into the lake in the park on the grounds of the palace.” ~ David Roberts
“The funny thing is, the more people I surround myself with, the lonelier I feel. I could be dancing in a sea of people and still be completely alone. You may be the very first person at one of these parties to see me.”
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~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~
- Pink Frilly Fairy: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three
- Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
- A Purple-Hued Interlude
- Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
- Purple Puff Confection: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
- A Blue-Hued Interlude
- Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
- Bad Boy Bangs: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
- Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
- Sugar Plum Ballerina: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- A Pool Frolic: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
- A Cemetery Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
- Powder Blue Fur Doll: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- A Milky Interlude
- Rock Out, Cock Out/ Hang Out, Wang Out: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- Cocktail Cocktale: Part One and Part Two.
- A Fairy’s Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
- Willy Wonkers: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- A Peacock In Everything But Beauty: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
- Swan Lake Fantasia: Part One.