Summer Still Standing

It was the summer of 1983, and Elton John was back on the charts with ‘I’m Still Standing’. While he was filming the music video in France, I was frolicking on some beach in New England, embracing my super-short-shorts like any burgeoning gay boy – so innocent and naive and silly – and so happily unaware of what the world had in store for me. The wind in my hair, the sun in my eyes, and the sand in-between my toes – it was summer on the beach. I didn’t feel the need to suck in my tummy, and striking a pose was already my natural mode of existence. It was nearly the end of childhood innocence, and I had absolutely no idea what was to come. 

You could never know what it’s like
Your blood like winter freezes just like ice
And there’s a cold lonely light that shines from you
You’ll wind up like the wreck you hide behind that mask you use
And did you think this fool could never win?
Well look at me, I’m coming back again
I got a taste of love in a simple way
And if you need to know while I’m still standing, you just fade away…

Don’t you know I’m still standing better than I ever did
Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid
I’m still standing after all this time
Picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind
I’m still standing (Yeah, yeah, yeah)
I’m still standing (Yeah, yeah, yeah)

Building sandcastles by the sea, I lost myself in the sparkle of the water and the sun. I paid no mind to the other people on the beach, being entirely occupied with the kingdom before me. A hole in the sand filled with burrowing sand fleas and seaweed was more intriguing than the sterilized chlorine haze of the hotel pool, and the world I conjured for myself was all the more precious for the encroaching waves of the ocean, lapping and biting at my kingdom, ever-threatening to devour and destroy. 

Once I never could have hoped to win
You’re starting down the road leaving me again
The threats you made were meant to cut me down
And if our love was just a circus, you’d be a clown by now
You know I’m still standing better than I ever did
Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid
I’m still standing after all this time
Picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind
I’m still standing (Yeah, yeah, yeah)
I’m still standing (Yeah, yeah, yeah)

Back then, I could flirt with the idea of dismantling entire worlds, watching the sea dissolve the grandest design, and not be very bothered by it. As the sun began its slow summer descent, and my stomach rumbled, attention moved from the transitory charms of the beach to the possibility of a seafood dinner. The sea always brought out the most voracious appetite – all the running into and out of the water, the swimming against the current and fighting a way back to shore. The waves could knock us down with their exhilarating might, and every time we got up we felt a little stronger. 

Oddly enough, in some ways I think the boy I was then stood a little taller, a little prouder, a little more confident than the man I am today. He was unafflicted by shame, he didn’t have names or hatred thrown at him, he didn’t know what awfulness the world could inflict. Children have that kind of power for such a brief window of time – I wish I’d known that then. Moreover, I wish I’d learned how to hang onto it

Some days, when I’m lucky enough to be on the beach, when the sun sparkles a certain way on the sea, and when I’m feeling especially free, I conjure a little bit of that kid. I remember his spirit, his innocence, his power. I remember his invincibility. 

And I mourn the way he left. 

Don’t you know that I’m still standing better than I ever did
Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid
I’m still standing after all this time
Picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind
I’m still standing (Yeah, yeah, yeah)
I’m still standing (Yeah, yeah, yeah)
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Sunny Echoes

Echoing the sunny post from this morning, these bright and cheerful flowers are emblematic of happy days spent in my childhood backyard. When we were last home for the 4th of July, I captured these shots of the gardens that my Mom has been cultivating and caring for over the last few years. In my younger years I battled for perennials over annuals, but she insisted on having the bright and floriferous show that only annuals provide. Over time, she’s come to appreciate the more subtle but just as impactful visage of a perennial border, with its focus on texture and the sometimes-fleeting nature of its blooms. 

In the case of some of these – such as the featured photo of the Sedum, that show can last for several weeks, or in the case of the stunning lily below, a few days. 

The garden is aflame at this time of the year, matching the sun’s intensity and heat, with eye-popping hues and stunning shades that light the darkest night. 

Summer’s sun resounds in its blooms.

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Dazzler of the Day: Dalilah Muhammad

Defending her last Olympic win, Dalilah Muhammad is heading into Tokyo’s Olympic Games poised to grab more precious metal in track and field. Today she earns her first Dazzler of the Day honor as the US prepares to send her off in a celebratory flash.

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Sunflower Splendor

The sunflower has marked many a post here on this 18-year-old website, and every time it makes for a sunny occasion. Two summers ago it was in the form of the song ‘Sunflower’ for a Speedo-clad summer recap. A bouquet of them formed this lead-off image for the Troy Farmer’s Market. Sunflowers formed the impetus to this memory of Provincetown and Montana. A fuller sunflower, well on the way to going to seed, drooped its summer-sleepy head as I reunited with Skip in the age of COVID. A magical store on a side-street in the South End of Boston featured bushels of smiling sunflowers for an enchanting summer scene. A shy sunflower peeked out from this summer recap of 2016, while my ass wasn’t quite as demure

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Wanderlust…

Wanderlust can sometimes be a brick wall.

Such a sentiment finds a more metaphorical embodiment this weekend when I begin recounting a recent weekend in Boston with my friend Chris. With a ruined birthday surprise and rainfall that simply wouldn’t end, we brought the drama like only we could. Come back for that in a few days… 

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Dazzler of the Day: Carlin Isles

Widely regarded as the fastest rugby player in the world, Carlin Isles sails past his competitors to earn his first Dazzler of the Day honor, just in time for his trip to Tokyo for the Summer 2021 Olympics. He’ll be part of the USA rugby team (marking his second Olympic Games), and his speed looks like it will set the international stage aflame. 

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When Rain Rings in Beauty

These magical water droplets on the tips of the papyrus plant could only be possible on the morning after a soaking rain. When caught in the sun, in that brief window before they burn away, they reveal the residual prettiness that a storm leaves in its wake. A miniature version of a rainbow, a reminder and a covenant in one. 

This is a papyrus plant that I found in a local nursery, and I expected it to be much larger than it is. I’ve had tremendous success growing these in previous years – as soon as their roots fill the pot they shoot forth large umbrels into the sky, growing so high that they eventually start falling over by the end of the season, only by then I don’t mind. This time around it appears I happened upon a super-dwarf version, as these will be lucky to top out at two feet. At first it was a little disappointing, but I’ve since come to appreciate their smaller and more delicate stature. It’s a better of perspective and appreciation. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Alistair Watkins-Stuart

Artists make the best Dazzlers of the Day, and that holds true for Alistair Watkins-Stuart, an illustrator from Cardiff, South Wales. His work reflects his obsessions of fashion, vintage movies, and a dose of cheeky humor. Founder of Slightly Wobbly Designs, Alistair is an enthusiastic supporter of his fellow artists, spreading and tagging those he admires, which is the ultimate mark of not only a great artist, but a pretty amazing person. (He was the one who put James Falciano on my radar.) Today, it’s Alistair who is dazzling. Check out his work here.

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Pinwheels of Cheer

Summer phlox were once the backbones of any proper perennial garden, and in some places that still holds true. Our backyard, however, is not one of those places, and whenever I come across a specimen like this, with its pink eyes and charming white frills, I make motions to find a space for a plant or two, and then always end up giving up. The month of July is filled mostly with watering and fertilizing and pruning and editing. Planting is mostly already done, or waiting for a safer and later date. And so something like phlox, when it comes to mind, gets shuffled and debated and teased, most usually to no avail. 

The brain is scattered in summer, and the garden suffers slightly for it, but beauty will not be stopped or dispelled by my misguided mental meandering. See this lovely phlox plant as evidence that flowers will find a way. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Caeleb Dressel

The Summer Olympics are beginning in a few short weeks, so we’ll be featuring some Olympians in both the Dazzler of the Day feature and the Olympic Spotlights as we do during Olympic season. There are just too many amazing athletes and not enough time. Case in point is one of the fastest swimmers in the world right now: Caeleb Dressel, who earns his first Dazzler of the Day here. Keep an eye on him, if you can…

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A Pair of Future Robins

Here we go again. Another robin’s nest has appeared in the backyard, this time in the Wolf’s Eye dogwood tree outside out bedroom window. It’s the same space that ended in likely tragedy last year, and I don’t know how much more the heart can take. Nature doesn’t give up as easily as I do, however, and maybe these eggs will hatch, and the youngsters survive to carry on a legacy. 

The world keeps trying, and in that perseverance is a goal and a lesson. It is at these times that I force myself to quiet the nagging worry and doubt that is my starting point, and give in to hope and possibility, and the love that will sustain such a dangerous enterprise as raising a baby bird. We cannot protect those we love from everything, but if we work hard at a it, and we keep working at it, maybe we stand a chance – the same chance these pretty blue eggs have of one day crumbling into the earth, giving sustenance to some wayward worm, and returning into the mouth of a noble creature in flight – one that pecked through the sky-hued shell of its first home to enter the word and defy all the risks of a life lived on the breeze. 

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Wet Privet

Our wet and stormy summer continues, as evidenced by these pictures of the first privet bloom of the season, defying the rain and wind and thunder and throwing out these creamy blossoms. The fragrance, alas, was lost to the water, and I could only barely detect it when I leaned in close and took a deep inhalation. 

Signifier of high summer, riding sweetly on the slightest breeze, privet was ubiquitously used for hedging throughout New England, and I have a soft spot in my heart for the happy memories of vacations and lazy summer days, full of heat and sun and carefree bike rides. Summer is kindled differently for everyone, and mine has always come with the perfume of privet. 

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A Family Fourth

Keeping things low-key, our 4th of July celebration consisted solely in the company of Mom and Dad, as Andy and I dropped by Amsterdam for a simple family dinner – and it was probably the nicest 4th of July we’ve had in decades. 

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The 5th of July Recap

Fresh from a rainy weekend in Boston, I’m drenched in happy and somber memories as Chris and I grappled with getting older, while celebrating our first reunion since isolating in the time of COVID. More on that that to come, for now let’s ease on into the work week with a day off and the requisite Monday morning recap. 

Me against Madonna.

More Madonna, for inspiration. 

Lavender going pink.

Closing out Pride Month with this sweet video.

A cardinal summer

Summer thyme.

A memory of Andy’s roses.

Honey bunny.

Being blue and beautiful

Summer song: Imitation of Life.

Summer solitude: a poem.

Floral fireworks for a low-key 4th of July

Dazzlers of the Day included Sha’Carri Richardson (who should totally be allowed to compete in the Olympic Games because it’s 2021), Kyle Dean Massey, Sunisa Lee, and Paula ‘Precious’ Bell.

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Floral Fireworks

“Freedom is nothing else but a chance to be better.” – Albert Camus

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