Meet the woman who introduced me to TikTok, and whose presence is the only reason I’m on there anymore, or any social media for the most part, as I find myself exhausted and disappointed by the awfulness of it all. This is Tabitha Brown, whose indefatigable energy and glorious energy is a breath of fresh air in an otherwise-troubling online world. Brown exudes a spirit of peace and tranquility, of healthy living, and of unbridled optimism. Her new book ‘Feeding the Soul (Because It’s My Business)’ is a beautiful encapsulation of her mantras and way of life, and is an inspiration for those of us in need of a little lift. She is our Dazzler of the Day for all these reasons and more. See her website here for further evidence of her magnificence.
October
2021
October
2021
These Little Asters
Another hint of a woodland walk, these little asters run rampant throughout the woodland edge of my parents home, and I see them all over at this time of the year. Unremarkable on their own – the blooms are small and unimpressive – they make their effect when viewed close up, or en masse, when they appear like pretty little clouds tinged with lavender and pink. In a dreary start to the week, they make the day a little brighter.
October
2021
Asters & Berries & Twins, Oh My
The Fall Treasure Hunt weekend 2021 will be chronicled here soon enough, but not this soon. A few days of recovery and recuperation from the whirlwind that was the Ilagan twins are necessary. It was actually quite a fun weekend, one that captured the magic that is the eleven-year mark. Before that, however, I offer a few photos of fall in fruition to truly tick the next seasonal chapter.
The forest is filled with such fruit at this time of the year – a bit of recompense for letting the summer slip away. The colors are more subdued but the form is finer, their intricate architecture the real beauty at hand.
Scattered along the edge of the woods are these purple asters, little stars and explosions of color in a world where much of it has begun to drain.
These bring back memories of walking the Marginal Way in Ogunquit, that beautiful place by the sea that has been calling to me of late. I’m setting a goal of making it back there next spring.
For the moment, the memory conjured by this fall beauty will have to suffice.
October
2021
The Day After October 3 Recap
October has arisen and the weather has made its official turn into fall. We’ve tried to keep the pool going but it’s been a losing battle with the cooler temperatures. That’s ok – making the shift to fall is better when it’s embraced. Change can be good. On with the recap…
Tell me you’re naked without TELLING me you’re naked.
Accord Oud: fragrance of the fall.
Vermont escapade with the bestie.
Gratuitous Lenny Kravitz post.
Dazzlers of the Day included Max Harwood, Richard Grant, Shiloh Fernandez, David Pevsner, and Jillian Bell.
October
2021
JoJo’s Candy Store
Behold the sweet treat of the season – that polarizing bit of sugary nonsense known as candy corn. I don’t abhor it, I don’t adore it – I could take it or leave it and not be the least bit bothered one way or another.
I do understand the love it or loathe it aspect it inspires. There are moments when I crave its synthetic sweetness, and moments when I find its waxy texture off-putting. My friend JoAnn absolutely loves it, and I usually send her a batch come October. I would have done so this year but she’s on a health kick and I refuse to be a saboteur. Instead, she gets this virtual gift for visual feasting and guilt-free eye-indulgence. Enjoy my friend.
October
2021
A Gratuitous Lenny Kravitz Post
This is posted for the feature image alone, showing Lenny Kravitz at age 57.
Fifty-fucking-seven.
I will never have abs like that at any age.
Never did, never will.
And that’s ok.
PS – Bonus shot of Jason Momoa, just ’cause.
October
2021
A Visitor Named Chip
Andy alerted me to our little friend Chip sitting on the front step curled up in a little striped ball and trying to stay warm on one of the first cool days of the season. I crept up to the window and stole these photos as this adorable guy surveyed the yard beyond the hydrangeas.
This wasn’t our first guest on the front steps this year, nor will it likely be the last. But this was definitely one of the cutest, and as destructive as vast numbers of chipmunks can be, I don’t have the heart to hate on them in a one-on-one situation.
Besides, these creatures will be scarce come winter, so I’m enjoying them as a lingering symbol of summer, embracing them like I embrace the sun when it has deigned to shine these past few months. They’ve been busy scooping up acorns and nuts, shoring up seeds, and storing their provisions for the long fall ahead.
They also look good in stripes, which is not a look everyone can pull off, so this sight tickles my fancy.
October
2021
The Fur of a Woolly
I said about all that needed to be said about the woolly bear caterpillar in this past last year. And I didn’t google anything further to offer more to the rather inane conversation of one. But in the backyard the other day I happened upon this year’s woolly bear, slowly traversing the lawn and hoping not to be stepped on.
What does their fur say to us now? Who can read the future winter weather in the width of the stripe? What might this winter bring? It’s too soon to entertain such dismal thoughts as winter. Let’s hold onto what warmth the sun may yet elicit during the day.
October
2021
Suzie Strikes A Pose
A promise made in this post about the latest Suzie Ko Fashion Show finds fulfillment in this fun entry, which shows Suzie in her unnatural habitat, posing and preening as if to the manor born. Or is it to the manner born? Either way, this girl never met a mirror she didn’t immediately hog for herself. The pictures speak for themselves, but I’ll give you a little backstory too.
On this particular day, Suzie was wearing a pair of pants that range in description from canary and mustard to banana and urine. I believe her explanation for choosing them was due to their ugliness and cheap cost. (She has a very different idea of fashion than the rest of us humans, despite the wondrous John Fluevog vintage shoes she dug out for this excursion.)
When we drove by a Pendleton outlet, she shrieked with an excitement that was totally lacking when I pulled into the Armani outlet just a few minutes prior. Upon entering, I could see that this was some sort of high-end L.L.Bean/Orvis/Eddie Bauer bullshit, where plaid and wool mated like rabbits and you couldn’t easily tell the difference between a blanket and a coat. That said, I did find a few beautiful pieces that somehow squeaked upward of the $500 mark which seems obscene for a Vermont outlet, but I guess Pendleton is fancy that way. And then Suzie came upon This Coat.
It was the precise shade of her pants, and in a heavy but supple wool. She simply had to try it on, and pose and pose and pose in the mirror. Since she’d been so good as to accompany me to Vermont for a fall excursion, I was feeling generous and let her have this excessive moment, content to document it for the disbelieving folks who would sooner buy me prancing around in an Armani sequin pant suit.
If it had been a little closer to her size (she was basically doing the backstroke in this men’s large) I might have insisted on her getting it, but alas, it was not to be. We’ll come back next year and see if we can find something more fitting.
And may this also dispel the myth that I’m the one who can’t pass a mirror without admiring myself. The truth is finally out.
October
2021
Vermont Escapade with the Bestie
One of my favorite fall memories from childhood is visiting my grandmother in Hoosick Falls. It was about an hour away – which felt like forever when you’re a kid – and it always felt like a long, winding journey with twists and turns, going beside streams and over rivers, crossing bridges and slinking through valleys – the perfect fall escapade for a kid. I would occasionally make some cinnamon apple muffins and pack them into a basket, filling the car with their cozy aroma, and more often than not eating one along the way.
We’d arrive on a Friday and sleep on Gram’s green velvet sofas, and the next morning Mom would drive us all into Vermont, where we would make a stop at the Candle Mill, and dip candles in various colors. Behind the wooden building was a little waterfall and stream with a little area where you could watch the water rushing by. We would always pause for a long time there, and it remains one of my happiest memories.
When Suzie and I were looking for a day trip, I remembered those fall weekends in Vermont. Suzie has ties to Vermont too, and though I knew the Candle Mill had long since closed I was hopeful we could at least stop by the place and see the stream, then head into Manchester for lunch and some shopping.
We arrived in the morning, which was good because the day would soon turn to rain (as it’s been doing since May) and the old Candle Mill looked like a private residence. Two more buildings had been built down beside it (at least they looked new to me) but there was a little parking lot down the road that allowed us to amble up the stream a bit and glimpse the waterfall in the distance. It was exactly as I remembered it, and nothing like I remembered it, if that makes any sense. It had been almost four decades since I was last in this space, and Vermont holds more ghosts for me and Suzie now than it once did. Still, it felt peaceful and calm, and the quiet morning was a welcome get-away form the stresses of work and reality.
From there we stopped for a coffee and some breakfast, the former of which Suzie mostly gave to her pants, while the latter was some banana bread I’d made the night before – another echo of childhood traditions. Yes, these were the same pants Suzie wore on our summer trip to Boston, as evidenced in this post. But they worked, and she found a Pendleton coat that matched them precisely. More on that in a separate post, as a Suzie Fashion Show is a rare occurrence that must be honored accordingly.
We made a few shopping stops, notably at the Marimekko outlet where Suzie found part of. possible wedding outfit and I found an apron. More on that later too. The rain had arrived – heavy and annoying and seemingly only wherever we went. We chose The Copper Grouse at the Taconic Hotel for our lunch, had a cozy lunch by the window while a fireplace crackled across the room, and made a new fall memory.
October
2021
Greetings October!
Today we are hosting the Ilagan twins for our annual Fall Treasure Hunt – a tradition started when they were just a few wee years old and has survived more or less intact, even in the face of COVID (when we kept things entirely outside). I have a few new trick sup my sleeve, and for a two-nighter I’m going to need all the tricks I can find.
The calendar has already ticked to October, so let’s celebrate the full-fledged arrival of fall with a look back at a the last decades of Octobers here.
October 2011: Which was mostly Madonna and shirtless guys.
October 2012: Which was mostly about soap and the Beekman Boys and shirtless guys.
October 2013: Which was mostly about jockstraps, honey, and shirtless guys.
October 2014: Which was mostly about flowers, football, and shirtless guys.
October 2015: Which was mostly about Ogunquit, fall foliage and shirtless guys.
October 2016: Which was mostly about Halloween outfits.
October 2017: Which was mostly about Halloween music and NYC.
October 2018: Which was mostly about hunks and PVTRD.
October 2019: Which was a little deeper than usual.
October 2020: Which was a walk in the woods.
October
2021
Dazzler of the Day: Jillian Bell
One of my guilty holiday movie pleasures is ‘Office Christmas Party’ with Jason Bateman and Jennifer Aniston. It’s also got some scene-stealing antics by Kate McKinnon, so to even make an impression amidst this requires a comedic skill only Jillian Bell could conquer, and her turn as a pimp in this is easily my favorite part of the whole hilarious escapade. While that put her on my map, it was her revelatory performance in ‘Brittany Runs a Marathon’ that cements her as an actress with dramatic and comedic skills. For those two works alone she earns this Dazzler of the Day.
October
2021
My Fall Fragrance: Accord Oud by Byredo
It was on my birthday trip to Boston this summer on which I discovered the oud offerings from Byredo. That house has never been one to produce particularly potent scents – they err on the lighter side of things – whispers of elegance ad slivers of sophistication – but nothing strange enough to merit the higher price points. (‘Black Saffron’ is one of the main exceptions.) They have a pair of oud frags – ‘Oud Immortal’ and ‘Accord Oud’ – and it was between these two that I was torn.
After sampling both, I decided on the ‘Accord Oud’ and its rich, leathery darkness. Opening with a powerhouse trio of blackberry, saffron and rum – it has elements of the exquisite ‘Straight to Heaven’ By Kilian and and undercurrent of Tom Ford‘s ‘Oud Wood’ and ‘Tuscan Leather‘. After a while, the scent deepens with the leather accord, clary sage and patchouli – and the rollercoaster has begun.
The first time I tried it, the city was hot and humid, and I showered it off after an hour or so – much too soon to get the full fragrance journey, especially of this beast. Still, it was enough to sell me – except for the Boston Saks, which did not have this one in stock. I had to wait to order it online from Bergdorf and Goodman. You snooze on your inventory, you lose on a sale.
It arrived a few days later, and when the calendar clicked to fall, I hastened to give it an office whirl. All the excitement and anticipation for a new fall fragrance – something I’d missed during the stay-home doldrums of 2020 – was dampened with a disappointing first time out. It smelled more synthetic and harsh than I remembered, and then it tapered quickly off – the worst of both worlds. Luckily, that may have only been the first few squirts of the bottle, for the next few times I tried it, the magic of that first try was back in full effect.
This is testament to the notion that the mark of a decent perfume or cologne – and how it performs – depends on numerous individual factors, and requires time to fully appreciate and understand. When this goes on me now, it still develops differently each time, and it varies based on whether it lands on my clothing or skin. The last time I tried it there were elements of Tom Ford’s ‘Soleil Brulant’ in the best possible way, when it rose up after a full day on the front of my shirt. On quiet days, and when it stays close to my skin, the leather is what comes out most. I like such unpredictability in our vastly unstable world, and I’ve come to appreciate it more than ever.
September
2021
Hints of the Holidays
We didn’t really have a holiday season last year, and it’s much too soon to know what this holiday season will be like, but I’m hopeful. While it’s a bit too soon to be diving into Christmas and ho-ho-ho shit, despite what the stores would have you believe, I’m not going to hate on anyone who wants to get a hump start on the season if it makes them happy and gives them a bump of joy. We are in far too much despair to begrudge anyone that. And to be honest, I may be indulging in extra holiday celebration this year, even if it means sitting alone in the Boston condo, listening to Christmas music and decorating the fireplace mantle for the first time in two years. This summer, after a typical rainy day, I found these holly leaves glistening in the overcast light, and they seemed like a harbinger of the year to come. Pretty, with a bit of sparkle, yet soaked in the melancholy tears of the universe.
What will this upcoming holiday season bring? Hopefully cozy times with my husband and family and friends, and the simpler joys of life for those of us with the luxury of still being here. Last year was a complete and total bust, and we are all still feeling it. May this season be a little better. May we be a little kinder. May we love a little more.
September
2021
Dazzler of the Day: David Pevsner
This rather naked day on the blog feels especially fitting for the Dazzler of the Day, David Pevsner, who earns his first crowning thanks to a decades-long show-business career, as chronicled thrillingly by his book ‘Damn Shame: A Memoir of Desire, Defiance, and Show Tunes’ – which just about says it all. With another penchant for modeling in the buff, Pevsner appeals to the spectacular space where art and beauty and the human body collide. A Renaissance man in the truest senses of the term, Pevsner has just about done it all – and all of it pretty magnificently.


















































