Tin for Ten

Today marks the 10th anniversary of the first Red Sox game Skip and I saw together – a memory he reminded me of with the FaceBook pic below. The traditional 10th anniversary gift for married folks is tin, but we are decidedly not married (to each other) and I don’t think aluminum foil counts as tin (or does it? Is tin foil still a thing?) so I wouldn’t know what to gift him.

We are gearing up for this year’s extended BroSox Adventure, padding in an extra day so as to allow for some precious downtime when we’re not running around trying to tick off every box in one of my ridiculously-ambitious itineraries. Our schedules have slotted this for the first weekend of Skip’s summer vacation (must be nice to be a school teacher – NOT) and our Red Sox game has typically been the kick-off for the summer season. Stay tuned, and hang onto your baseball hats…

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Dazzler of the Day: Jonathan Groff

Tony-award-winning (and currently nominated) triple-threat Jonathan Groff earns this egregiously-overdue Dazzler of the Day crowning thanks to a career of inspiring performances and indelible acts. From his scene-stealing antics as the King in ‘Hamilton‘ and his current reign as Bobby Darin in ‘Just In Time’, to his notable turns on ‘Glee‘ and the leads on ‘Looking’ and ‘Mindhunter’, Groff has amassed a deserved fan-base for his multitude of talents. He thrills and dazzles and impresses with every fiber of his being, the truest Broadway baby in the best possible sense of the term. 

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Today Aaron Samuels Wore A Red Speedo

A Friday smorgasbord as we head into (yet another) rainy weekend in beautiful and infuriating Albany, NY! This is Jonathan Bennett in his husband’s Speedo, which is really the main thrust of such a post, and we don’t need the whimsical links that will follow, but for those who want to look deeper, check out Jonathan’s original Dazzler of the Day crowning here, which features additional shirtless sportiness. 

Speaking shirtlessness, have you checked the Shirtless Male Celebrities category lately? 

Or, better yet, the Naked Male Celebrities category

Or just the Gratuitous Nudity category?

Whatever floats your boat, as we sail into the weekend…

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Dazzler of the Day: Auli’i Cravalho

“I’ve been singing and kissing mirrors since I was six.” ~ Auli’i Cravalho

Same! For that relatable reason alone, Auli’i Cravalho has my heart – she also earns this Dazzler of the Day thanks to star-making turns in ‘Moana’, ‘Mean Girls’, and ‘Cabaret at the Kit Kat Club’. Check out her Insta here.

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Mr. Sassy Pants Looks Fiercely Back

What am I even doing in this photo?!

Coquettishly covering my mouth like some coy geisha?

Channeling Bette Davis ferociously puffing away on some cigarette?

Blowing a kiss to an imaginary arena of adoring fans?

Preparing the world for the sassy express about to depart from Track F as in Fabulous?

Who fucking knows.

I will say that I would still wear this outfit if it came in my size, and I would rock it just as hard as I rocked it way back then. Despite a world that seems intent on destroying one’s inherent spirit, I ended up living my life in surprisingly unabashed ways, often because my own sense of fabulousness eclipsed the whispers and derogatory remarks that floated around me. Sometimes they got through, and sometimes they stung, but every attack built me up in some way. 

When I look at this picture, it fills me with pride, because it took guts to be who I was when the world was telling me to be someone – anyone – else. Sometimes it still does – and on those days I just put on my sassiest pair of pants and keep marching. 

Air kisses!

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The Road to Goodness Begins Here

The trailer for ‘Wicked: For Good’ is due to premiere just as I am writing this post, so by the time I plan for it to go live, you may have had your first look at the new ‘Wicked’ movie coming out on November 21, 2025 (I’ll come back to post it once it’s up). To say this is the movie I’m most excited to see this year is no surprise, especially after how many times I saw the first one. Fellow fans have been chomping at the bit for any new ‘Wicked: For Good’ info and promotional news, so this first trailer drop is a very big deal, as was this poster reveal, which finds Elphaba reaching out toward each other, or perhaps pulling away. There isn’t enough credit given to the complexity often at work in the movie, and especially the original book. Anyway, I’m eagerly awaiting the hints and teases to come, because I love the… anticipation. From now until November, I’m here for all the edging. 

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

When the credit card chickens come home to roost, May doesn’t feel as fun in June

PS – The Trump economy sucks. 

PPS – TACO.

#TinyThreads

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Where the Sun Warms the Sky…

A hint of our summer theme glistens on the surface of the pool, as the era of coquette has already drawn to its close. This year shall be lighter and looser, and perhaps a little more fun. The older I get, the less I know, and in acknowledging our limits and failings, there is freedom. Wouldn’t it be striking if we took a summer, designed it for fun, and found ourselves inadvertently leaning into mindfulness through the very essence of living in the moment and letting things go?

And so we shall begin in a few weeks, when summer officially arrives, and he veil of spring is lifted at last. It’s bee a trying one – we are headed for our 30th consecutive weekend of measurable precipitation and the soul is weary. Already, the peonies have powdery mildew, the garden is overgrown, and all the rain has prevented me from getting a handle on anything. It’s merely the universe telling me to let go and have a season of pure lazy enjoyment. If a bit of a jungle vibe sneaks into the official summer theme, it’s not entirely unwanted. We can go with the flow

Stay tuned – summer whispers on tonight’s warm breeze

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Dazzler of the Day: David Blue

Actor, writer, director, producer, vocalist, dancer, musician, podcaster, streamer, fitness trainer, coach, and consultant, David Blue wears more hats and performs more roles in a day than most of us do for any entire lifetime. That multi-faceted brilliance earns him this Dazzler of the Day crowning, because it’s further proof that we are always more than the one or two things that people want to think we are. Check out his website here for further evidence of his brilliance.
 
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Floral Miscellany

What is that bright blaring thing in the sky? 

It’s the sun! 

Where in fuck have you been?!?

{Excitedly checks the weather app after shutting the shit down on the 29th consecutive weekend of rain… and sees the upcoming weekend set for… more rain.}

Before that next weekend of rain arrives, let’s have our sun and eat it too.

A few miscellaneous flower shots from our recent trip to Maine, and now I’m heading into the light… for the moment…

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The Law of Blueberry Shit

You know how when you drop a blueberry on the floor, it takes up, what, maybe 1/10,000 of actual floor space? Like, it’s the smallest amount of floor space compared with the vast expanse of non-blueberry-covered floor. 

Why is it, then, that of all the fucking floor space available without a blueberry on it, that is the exact space where your bare foot decides to land? 

(There’s a real blueberry shit story from my childhood, but that one deserves its own post. This one comes to you from a rainy weekend of agitation brought on by all the rain.)

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A Proudly-Gay Recap

My friend Chris – straight, white, cis male friend Chris – wished me a Happy Pride yesterday, and without thinking I snapped/texted back, ‘Pride is dead.’ (In my defense it had also just started raining a-fucking-gain and my mood was decidedly homocidal in a fabulously homosexual way.) I followed it up with a more lengthy explanation of how, after 49 years of fighting (because when you’re gay every day can be a fight when you are being raised in a hetero-centric social world construction and always out of your element) I was simply worn out and exhausted. In the face of the regression that this country seems to be embracing, I am genuinely too disheartened to do any sort of pride stuff.

I realize this is exactly what oppression is, and what it wants, and why it works – I just don’t care at the moment. Someone else will have to take up that mantle – for my own mental health, and my own happiness and well-being, I can’t do much more than try to live this pretty little life with Andy and my friends and family, and hope that the bulk of America does something to make things better. (Voting for Republicans, or not voting at all, is clearly destroying this country.)

But as these pictures will attest, just because my pride isn’t blatantly apparent or on parade all the time doesn’t mean it’s not there. It’s in me always, in every single way I live my life – openly and unabashedly, defiantly or acceptingly, loudly or quietly. I don’t need a sanctioned month of token allyship or corporate posing to make me feel worthy or whole. That said, Pride month still matters, perhaps now more than ever, so keep celebrating, keep parading, keep doing what we’ve been doing for decades in the hope of something better happening. My denim-clad rainbow ass will always have your back. On with the weekly blog recap (and one more subtle pride pic below…)

In the name of comfort, a pink doughnut. 

Objects for every room.

For those who need a little pump and bump.

Scented by spiced tea.

Four male celebrities in white briefs.

Let’s go TACO!

Three decades ago I met my tribe.

Let’s get popping.

A brief pubic pause in the name of divinity.

This is Wicked Fabulous!

A scent on the verge of summer – this is Tilia.

A midnight post to share with you.

Our Ogunquit Adventures began in the rain

and ended quite happily in the sun.

Dazzlers of the Day included Chris Colfer, Vincent Chong, and Ricky A. Schroeder.

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Spring in Ogunquit: Rain and Shine – Part 2

Eventually the sky brightened – glimpses of blue and peeks of sun emerged – though storms and rain were encroaching and surrounding us at all times, occasionally rearing some rainy moments. One time we were at the beach, just skirting the entrance, when the skies turned dark so we had to hurry back to the inn – there’s a photo below of that, but before we got there we did manage to find some lilacs in full bloom – their scent evocative of childhood and happiness and springs that came before

Not only were the traditional lilac lilacs in bloom, but the more rare white lilac was putting on a show – an elegant and slightly softer-scented version of its ubiquitous cousin.

They held their heads up in the face of incoming stormy patches, when the sky started spitting rain and the wind picked up in slightly menacing fashion. It was just enough drama to keep things interesting – and as long as it wasn’t a steady downpour for hours at a time, we managed to be in and out and variously about to make the most of this precious part of Maine. 

Breaks of sun made for pockets of bloom time for some of the understory flowers and shrubs, who lit up the cloudy sections with their pastel prettiness. 

By Sunday, our last full day in town, the stormy patches had passed and the Marginal Way was sunny.

The waves were still being dramatic, which made for wonderful moments of wave-watching

Having made our way to Perkins Cove, we picked up a few gifts for Mom, including a fabulous scarf from Kiki’s (where I once found a glorious blue boa that will one day fill a blog post as promised).

The walk back was as beautiful as the way there, only it felt like it went by faster, as is usually the case with pleasant experiences. 

The whole long Memorial Day weekend went by that way… the way life should be. 

Our last morning dawned in sunny and fine fashion – the way every single departure day from Ogunquit has always gone – I’ve a mind to schedule an extra day in the future just to play with fate. As we checked out with Anthony at the Scotch Hill Inn, we booked our fall visit – a little bit of hope to ease the end of summer when it comes.

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Spring in Ogunquit: Rain and Shine – Part 1

How fitting that I am writing about our latest Ogunquit adventures on a very rainy Saturday morning. Rain is very clearly our spring theme – forget about dreaming – and to be frank, this rain is BULLSHIT. Anyway, even with the wet stuff, we can never have a bad time in Ogunquit, so let’s revisit our visit.

 

Our Thursday entry into town was – surprise! – a rain-soaked endeavor, reminding us of the first few years we started coming to the Beautiful Place By the Sea, where every trip was accompanied by steady rain. This marks our 25th year of visiting Maine together, and it’s always a treat. This was the very first trip that Andy and I took as a couple. It felt right 25 years ago, and it still feels right today.

While the drive through Massachusetts was a rainy one, once we arrived in Ogunquit the sky was only spitting a bit. Heavier rain would return for our dinner at Walker’s later that night, but for the first few minutes there was a little reprieve. We made a quick walk across the street for a lunch snack, while a wind, decidedly too cool for a spring visit, danced around us. The sky threatened rain again, so we hurried back to the Inn.

We settled into our favorite room at the Scotch Hill Inn, which is a sanctuary of comfort at every time of the year and in every sort of weather condition. Coupled with the amazing breakfasts by inn-keeper Anthony, we could be happy simply staying in, and for the rainy periods that’s largely what we did – it was heaven.

While the rain allowed for guilt-free lounging, it also afforded blooms and water-accented leaves of beauty for passers-by who happened upon them.

The town was largely in full bloom – apple blossoms and iris and azaleas were all putting on a splendid show, even through the rainy weather. 

I found my way to a favored woodland walk, where wake robins were in their charming bloom – usually by the time we arrive their show has already taken place. The weather worked in our favor this time, as they were at the pinnacle of their floral magnificence. 

What we gained from the trilium, we lost in the form of very few Rosa rugosa blooms, though we managed to captured this lone white version. It had to carry all the charm of the spring in a single blossom, and it did.

We don’t take many vacations, so it takes a while to get into a vacation groove. While I pretend to be hard-wired for lounging and ease, the truth is I’m a hard-working Virgo who rarely just relaxes. That takes a while to calibrate, and I remember a former co-worker many years ago telling me that she needed two weeks for a proper vacation – because the first week was simply learning how to decompress – and I totally get it. 

It’s a little easier to more quickly find vacation bearings in Maine, where the living and eating is so good. As Friday dawned, the sky looked a little lighter…

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