Two Decades of Body Wear

Our posting schedule for The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale picks up again this weekend, as we return to the project I did twenty years ago, and I attempt to make sense of how two decades of time wreaks its havoc on the body and the mind. There’s a lot of wear and tear here, there and everywhere these days. Revisiting such blasts from the past is something I’m trying to embrace as I approach fifty. The universe has been whispering to slow down, and while I usually fight the universe in my infuriating way, it’s usually easier to listen and heed.

A few words of advice, then, to a selfie-obsessed youth culture that likely has no need for such words: if you’re going to be vain, be vain when you’re young.

Take all the pictures.
And take them of all your body.
Listen to the wisdom of Moira Rose.
I was way ahead of my time, taking my first selfie (a Polaroid) in 1986 (wearing a Reebok sweatshirt when it was all the brand new rage) and not stopping since.

Now, looking back to twenty years ago, I celebrate my vanity for ensuring that this word and torn physical vessel was preserved in some photographic fashion. It feels important, as every day seems to take away some form of physical living that once felt easy.

There are typos here and in my work because my eyesight is getting quickly and progressively worse (hence the need for progressive lenses that don’t seem to be doing what they’re supposed to be doing). My waist size has shifted toward the problematic and elusive 33 inches, which still seems to be a size that manufacturers don’t always make. My hair has gone from salt and pepper to predominantly salt, which is also bad for my blood pressure, even with the Lisinopril pills I’m on. And yet, somehow I’m more at peace with my body and my life than I’ve ever felt before. There are small regrets, mostly of discomfort and annoyance, but I’ve been lucky to be more or less healthy (according to my doctors). Looking back doesn’t trigger envy or the wish to return to my youth, because I value what little wisdom I’ve accumulated too much to go back to before.

Maybe I’ll freak out when I’m a little closer to 50 – but with a birthday in August how much closer can I get? In the meantime, there is the memory machine of this project, and stumbling upon a few more photos that weren’t printed out the first time around, and which I am sharing here.

~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~

  1. Pink Frilly Fairy: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three
  2. Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
  3. A Purple-Hued Interlude
  4. Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  5. Purple Puff Confection: Part OnePart Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  6. A Blue-Hued Interlude
  7. Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
  8. Bad Boy Bangs: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  9. Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  10. Sugar Plum Ballerina: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  11. A Pool Frolic: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  12. A Cemetery Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  13. Powder Blue Fur Doll: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  14. A Milky Interlude 
  15. Rock Out, Cock Out/ Hang Out, Wang Out: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  16. Cocktail Cocktale: Part One and Part Two.
  17. A Fairy’s Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  18. Willy Wonkers: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  19. A Peacock In Everything But Beauty: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  20. Swan Lake Fantasia: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, and Part Four.
  21. Black & White in Briefs: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  22. Weave of Basket, Weave of Rope: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, Part Four, and Part Five.
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Tin for Ten

Today marks the 10th anniversary of the first Red Sox game Skip and I saw together – a memory he reminded me of with the FaceBook pic below. The traditional 10th anniversary gift for married folks is tin, but we are decidedly not married (to each other) and I don’t think aluminum foil counts as tin (or does it? Is tin foil still a thing?) so I wouldn’t know what to gift him.

We are gearing up for this year’s extended BroSox Adventure, padding in an extra day so as to allow for some precious downtime when we’re not running around trying to tick off every box in one of my ridiculously-ambitious itineraries. Our schedules have slotted this for the first weekend of Skip’s summer vacation (must be nice to be a school teacher – NOT) and our Red Sox game has typically been the kick-off for the summer season. Stay tuned, and hang onto your baseball hats…

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Dazzler of the Day: Jonathan Groff

Tony-award-winning (and currently nominated) triple-threat Jonathan Groff earns this egregiously-overdue Dazzler of the Day crowning thanks to a career of inspiring performances and indelible acts. From his scene-stealing antics as the King in ‘Hamilton‘ and his current reign as Bobby Darin in ‘Just In Time’, to his notable turns on ‘Glee‘ and the leads on ‘Looking’ and ‘Mindhunter’, Groff has amassed a deserved fan-base for his multitude of talents. He thrills and dazzles and impresses with every fiber of his being, the truest Broadway baby in the best possible sense of the term. 

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Today Aaron Samuels Wore A Red Speedo

A Friday smorgasbord as we head into (yet another) rainy weekend in beautiful and infuriating Albany, NY! This is Jonathan Bennett in his husband’s Speedo, which is really the main thrust of such a post, and we don’t need the whimsical links that will follow, but for those who want to look deeper, check out Jonathan’s original Dazzler of the Day crowning here, which features additional shirtless sportiness. 

Speaking shirtlessness, have you checked the Shirtless Male Celebrities category lately? 

Or, better yet, the Naked Male Celebrities category

Or just the Gratuitous Nudity category?

Whatever floats your boat, as we sail into the weekend…

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Dazzler of the Day: Auli’i Cravalho

“I’ve been singing and kissing mirrors since I was six.” ~ Auli’i Cravalho

Same! For that relatable reason alone, Auli’i Cravalho has my heart – she also earns this Dazzler of the Day thanks to star-making turns in ‘Moana’, ‘Mean Girls’, and ‘Cabaret at the Kit Kat Club’. Check out her Insta here.

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Mr. Sassy Pants Looks Fiercely Back

What am I even doing in this photo?!

Coquettishly covering my mouth like some coy geisha?

Channeling Bette Davis ferociously puffing away on some cigarette?

Blowing a kiss to an imaginary arena of adoring fans?

Preparing the world for the sassy express about to depart from Track F as in Fabulous?

Who fucking knows.

I will say that I would still wear this outfit if it came in my size, and I would rock it just as hard as I rocked it way back then. Despite a world that seems intent on destroying one’s inherent spirit, I ended up living my life in surprisingly unabashed ways, often because my own sense of fabulousness eclipsed the whispers and derogatory remarks that floated around me. Sometimes they got through, and sometimes they stung, but every attack built me up in some way. 

When I look at this picture, it fills me with pride, because it took guts to be who I was when the world was telling me to be someone – anyone – else. Sometimes it still does – and on those days I just put on my sassiest pair of pants and keep marching. 

Air kisses!

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The Road to Goodness Begins Here

The trailer for ‘Wicked: For Good’ is due to premiere just as I am writing this post, so by the time I plan for it to go live, you may have had your first look at the new ‘Wicked’ movie coming out on November 21, 2025 (I’ll come back to post it once it’s up). To say this is the movie I’m most excited to see this year is no surprise, especially after how many times I saw the first one. Fellow fans have been chomping at the bit for any new ‘Wicked: For Good’ info and promotional news, so this first trailer drop is a very big deal, as was this poster reveal, which finds Elphaba reaching out toward each other, or perhaps pulling away. There isn’t enough credit given to the complexity often at work in the movie, and especially the original book. Anyway, I’m eagerly awaiting the hints and teases to come, because I love the… anticipation. From now until November, I’m here for all the edging. 

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

When the credit card chickens come home to roost, May doesn’t feel as fun in June

PS – The Trump economy sucks. 

PPS – TACO.

#TinyThreads

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Where the Sun Warms the Sky…

A hint of our summer theme glistens on the surface of the pool, as the era of coquette has already drawn to its close. This year shall be lighter and looser, and perhaps a little more fun. The older I get, the less I know, and in acknowledging our limits and failings, there is freedom. Wouldn’t it be striking if we took a summer, designed it for fun, and found ourselves inadvertently leaning into mindfulness through the very essence of living in the moment and letting things go?

And so we shall begin in a few weeks, when summer officially arrives, and he veil of spring is lifted at last. It’s bee a trying one – we are headed for our 30th consecutive weekend of measurable precipitation and the soul is weary. Already, the peonies have powdery mildew, the garden is overgrown, and all the rain has prevented me from getting a handle on anything. It’s merely the universe telling me to let go and have a season of pure lazy enjoyment. If a bit of a jungle vibe sneaks into the official summer theme, it’s not entirely unwanted. We can go with the flow

Stay tuned – summer whispers on tonight’s warm breeze

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Dazzler of the Day: David Blue

Actor, writer, director, producer, vocalist, dancer, musician, podcaster, streamer, fitness trainer, coach, and consultant, David Blue wears more hats and performs more roles in a day than most of us do for any entire lifetime. That multi-faceted brilliance earns him this Dazzler of the Day crowning, because it’s further proof that we are always more than the one or two things that people want to think we are. Check out his website here for further evidence of his brilliance.
 
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Floral Miscellany

What is that bright blaring thing in the sky? 

It’s the sun! 

Where in fuck have you been?!?

{Excitedly checks the weather app after shutting the shit down on the 29th consecutive weekend of rain… and sees the upcoming weekend set for… more rain.}

Before that next weekend of rain arrives, let’s have our sun and eat it too.

A few miscellaneous flower shots from our recent trip to Maine, and now I’m heading into the light… for the moment…

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The Law of Blueberry Shit

You know how when you drop a blueberry on the floor, it takes up, what, maybe 1/10,000 of actual floor space? Like, it’s the smallest amount of floor space compared with the vast expanse of non-blueberry-covered floor. 

Why is it, then, that of all the fucking floor space available without a blueberry on it, that is the exact space where your bare foot decides to land? 

(There’s a real blueberry shit story from my childhood, but that one deserves its own post. This one comes to you from a rainy weekend of agitation brought on by all the rain.)

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A Proudly-Gay Recap

My friend Chris – straight, white, cis male friend Chris – wished me a Happy Pride yesterday, and without thinking I snapped/texted back, ‘Pride is dead.’ (In my defense it had also just started raining a-fucking-gain and my mood was decidedly homocidal in a fabulously homosexual way.) I followed it up with a more lengthy explanation of how, after 49 years of fighting (because when you’re gay every day can be a fight when you are being raised in a hetero-centric social world construction and always out of your element) I was simply worn out and exhausted. In the face of the regression that this country seems to be embracing, I am genuinely too disheartened to do any sort of pride stuff.

I realize this is exactly what oppression is, and what it wants, and why it works – I just don’t care at the moment. Someone else will have to take up that mantle – for my own mental health, and my own happiness and well-being, I can’t do much more than try to live this pretty little life with Andy and my friends and family, and hope that the bulk of America does something to make things better. (Voting for Republicans, or not voting at all, is clearly destroying this country.)

But as these pictures will attest, just because my pride isn’t blatantly apparent or on parade all the time doesn’t mean it’s not there. It’s in me always, in every single way I live my life – openly and unabashedly, defiantly or acceptingly, loudly or quietly. I don’t need a sanctioned month of token allyship or corporate posing to make me feel worthy or whole. That said, Pride month still matters, perhaps now more than ever, so keep celebrating, keep parading, keep doing what we’ve been doing for decades in the hope of something better happening. My denim-clad rainbow ass will always have your back. On with the weekly blog recap (and one more subtle pride pic below…)

In the name of comfort, a pink doughnut. 

Objects for every room.

For those who need a little pump and bump.

Scented by spiced tea.

Four male celebrities in white briefs.

Let’s go TACO!

Three decades ago I met my tribe.

Let’s get popping.

A brief pubic pause in the name of divinity.

This is Wicked Fabulous!

A scent on the verge of summer – this is Tilia.

A midnight post to share with you.

Our Ogunquit Adventures began in the rain

and ended quite happily in the sun.

Dazzlers of the Day included Chris Colfer, Vincent Chong, and Ricky A. Schroeder.

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Spring in Ogunquit: Rain and Shine – Part 2

Eventually the sky brightened – glimpses of blue and peeks of sun emerged – though storms and rain were encroaching and surrounding us at all times, occasionally rearing some rainy moments. One time we were at the beach, just skirting the entrance, when the skies turned dark so we had to hurry back to the inn – there’s a photo below of that, but before we got there we did manage to find some lilacs in full bloom – their scent evocative of childhood and happiness and springs that came before

Not only were the traditional lilac lilacs in bloom, but the more rare white lilac was putting on a show – an elegant and slightly softer-scented version of its ubiquitous cousin.

They held their heads up in the face of incoming stormy patches, when the sky started spitting rain and the wind picked up in slightly menacing fashion. It was just enough drama to keep things interesting – and as long as it wasn’t a steady downpour for hours at a time, we managed to be in and out and variously about to make the most of this precious part of Maine. 

Breaks of sun made for pockets of bloom time for some of the understory flowers and shrubs, who lit up the cloudy sections with their pastel prettiness. 

By Sunday, our last full day in town, the stormy patches had passed and the Marginal Way was sunny.

The waves were still being dramatic, which made for wonderful moments of wave-watching

Having made our way to Perkins Cove, we picked up a few gifts for Mom, including a fabulous scarf from Kiki’s (where I once found a glorious blue boa that will one day fill a blog post as promised).

The walk back was as beautiful as the way there, only it felt like it went by faster, as is usually the case with pleasant experiences. 

The whole long Memorial Day weekend went by that way… the way life should be. 

Our last morning dawned in sunny and fine fashion – the way every single departure day from Ogunquit has always gone – I’ve a mind to schedule an extra day in the future just to play with fate. As we checked out with Anthony at the Scotch Hill Inn, we booked our fall visit – a little bit of hope to ease the end of summer when it comes.

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