Walking on Fallen Leaves

Pulled down by the wind and rain, most of the maple’s leaves had been deposited on the walkway before us, where they were further tamped down by the footfalls of humans. It seemed like such an ignoble ending to what had been a lovely journey, yet this very act of destruction and degradation was all a part of the process. From the decay and disintegration came a covering that would once again become one with the soil, nourishing the next crop of leaves that were waiting to bud and unfurl in chartreuse glory come spring. 

On the edge of a forest, where a stream maintains its gentle flow even when it rains, this bed of leaves is a blanket that will ultimately provide sustenance and support to the very tree from which it came. To some it is a sad sight – the embodiment of summer’s end and ruin – to others it is a happy sign of a cozy slumber to come, and the chance to rejuvenate and rest for the next year. 

We all need a winter blanket. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Laverne Cox

It was her scene-stealing performance in ‘Promising Young Woman’ that turned me into a Laverne Cox fan, and resulted in this Dazzler of the Day feature. She’s been carving an unprecedented career in Hollywood, from her star-making contribution in ‘Orange is the New Black’ to her too-long-to-mention lists of firsts as a transgender trailblazer. 

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Solace of Sky: Living Light

Lately I’ve found some tranquility and solace in the work of Sophie Hutchings and her exquisite piano pieces, such as this one titled ‘Living Light’. It is lovely meditative music for before or after a meditation session. Returning to meditation has been one of the gifts I’ve given myself during this fall. It seems necessary when the season turns, and will hopefully guide me through the winter. When the world feels heavy, and the wind starts to chill, it’s time to take a little more self-care. 

Searching the sky is a practice to induce peace, even when the sky is of turbulent nature, churning and swirling with storms like ocean swells in the air. What we seek is solace. Maybe the more violent the air, the less tumult we feel in our hearts. Or maybe we seek to match the somersaulting of the heart with a complementary tumbling of the sky. Everyone finds their own path to their own idea of calm. 

It brings to mind a wickedly wonderful quote from Gregory Maguire: “When the times are a crucible, when the air is full of crisis, those who are the most themselves are the victims.

Maybe that’s darker than this post was intended to be, but in darkness there may be serenity as well. Sometimes darkness carries a deeper beauty, running like an undercurrent beneath clear, still water. It’s a sort of beauty that can’t fully be seen, only felt. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Shangela

Shangela stormed onto RuPaul’s Drag Race in one of the early seasons I happened to watch, and left all too early, only to be brought back. And brought back again. And again, until she conquered with her indefatigable spirit and refusal to be anything but a survivor. Such resilience and defiance, coupled with the tenacious spirit to get back up after every fall and carry on, is why she earns this Dazzler of the Day honor. Nowadays she is starring in the powerful and poignant ‘We’re Here’ on HBO, empowering others to join in her journey, and branching off to things like her very own Shanitizer product in these dangerous days. 

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Lavender Stars, Purple Explosions

These luscious asters have been everywhere this season – from Maine to Manchester – and they have brightened the darkening fall days, somehow sensing how badly we needed beauty right now. Their centers ripen from bright yellow to a gorgeous shade of rust then almost into a deep maroon, as if each one were a little encapsulation of a sunrise and sunset – a single day’s sun-journey for each set of lavender radials. The flowers seen here are all at different stages of the journey, something that adds another layer of enchantment to the presentation. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Madonna

She recently said that the most controversial thing she has ever done has been to simply stick around, and when you read any commentary on her from the past five years you’d be hard-pressed to argue against that. The vitriol and hate from an ageist stance is ridiculously plain to see. It’s rather infuriating as well, considering all that Madonna has accomplished. Why we are not celebrating this woman who is still an icon among the living is a complete mystery to me. And so we have this rather trite and cliched homage to her, as if being named Dazzler of the Day could ever capture what she has meant in my life, and in the lives of so many others. Still, let’s make it official, let’s make it formal, and let’s christen her as the Dazzler she’s been for four decades strong – and let’s do it by revisiting the seminal thing she does: making and mastering the perfect pop song. If you’ve ever enjoyed one of her masterpieces, you know the ultimate joy there is to be found in her music. See the following: Like A Prayer, Vogue, Express Yourself, Crazy For You, Deeper and Deeper, Live to Tell, Music, Rebel Heart, Like A Virgin, The Power of Goodbye, Papa Don’t Preach, Sooner or Later, Don’t Tell Me, Hung Up4 Minutes, Dress You Up, Rain, La Isla Bonita, Nothing Fails, Crave, Give it 2 Me, Ray of Light, Spotlight, You Must Love Me, Into the Groove, Open Your Heart, Frozen, You’ll See, True Blue, Secret, Material Girl, Cherish, Justify My Love, I Want You, I’ll Remember, Celebration, Masterpiece, Ghosttown, Dark Ballet, Lucky Star, Where’s the Party, Secret Garden, Survival, Take A Bow, Impressive Instant, Drowned World: Substitute for Love, Who’s That Girl… and the list goes on…

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An Erotic Anniversary

While yesterday was all about my husband Andy, it also marked the anniversary of Madonna’s ‘Erotica’ album – as much an influence on my youth as anything else, and so it merits this post, which will mostly be a linky look back at that heady time in my life. Shaded with the drama that typically accompanies October, and the drama that goes with simply being a senior in high school, the ‘Erotica’ album was about so much more than sex – even if sex was also a big part of it. 

Leading off with the title track, Madonna whispered huskily to us that Dita would be our mistress, and we fell in line to serve with gleeful and submissive abandon. There was so much more at work at the time, and this is one of those albums that likely means more to me than most because of how it accompanied a time period fraught with the danger of self-annihilation, depression, redemption, and growing into a version of myself no longer commandeered by parents or adults or peers. 

Madonna ushered in the most controversial period of her artistic life and gave me the inspiration to do likewise, unafraid and undeterred by a society that felt increasingly against the very person I was struggling to become. No one else was doing that in my life, and in many ways she was the lifeline that got me through that wilderness. As for the ‘Erotica’ album, let’s revisit the track list – much of which has already been chronicled in the Madonna Timeline, and worth a look back at today:

  1. Erotica
  2. Fever
  3. Bye Bye Baby
  4. Deeper and Deeper
  5. Where Life Begins
  6. Bad Girl
  7. Waiting
  8. Thief of Hearts
  9. Words
  10. Rain
  11. Why’s It So Hard
  12. In This Life
  13. Did You Do It?
  14. Secret Garden

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Dazzler of the Day: Andy VanWagenen

We continue our celebration of Andy’s birthday with this post, featuring Andy VanWagenen as our Dazzler of the Day. Having already waxed rhapsodic about his attributes and magnificence here, I’m going to allow these handsome pictorial reminders of the past speak for why he has been a Dazzler in my life for over twenty years. PS – Don’t forget to wish him Happy Birthday today! 

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Happy Birthday, Husband!

Like many retired and current police officers, Andy likes to keep his online presence rather quiet and discreet, and for the most part this space has tried to honor that, but at least once a year I insist on putting him up here and celebrating all that he has done for me, and for the world. Today is his birthday, so he deserves all the happy well-wishes and congratulations for surviving another rip around the sun on this wacky planet. 

In ways too numerous to mention, Andy has provided the foundation and stability that our home has needed. For many years I relied on him for that core of safety and security – it was as much a part of his make-up as his care and compassion for others when he was an officer. While I’m the last person on earth who thought he’d end up married to a retired cop (having had more than my fair share of traffic tickets alone) it turned out to be the best thing for me. In exchange, I hope I’ve introduced him to things he never would have experienced in his world. 

As a beloved member of our family, he has also been indispensable when times are tough and life gets difficult. My parents are getting older, and every day comes with greater challenges and obstacles. Having gone through losing his own parents, Andy’s experience and guidance through these moments has proved a comfort in more ways than I have probably acknowledged, so I’m taking today to remind him of that, and of the gratitude and gratefulness we all feel toward him. 

As we get older, I’ve noticed our love runs in a deeper way, its grooves softened and honed by the accumulation of years and shared moments together. Where some fear and dislike comfort and safety, we pull ourselves closer to it with each advancing year, and if the last two years have proved anything, it’s how dark and depressing this word can sometimes get. Andy and I have survived partly because of the life we have created for ourselves. There have been times when it’s just been the two of us against what felt like the whole world, and on this day I want him to know how much that has meant to me. 

Happy birthday, Drew – I love you. 

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The Balm of the Beautyberry

Callicarpa, commonly known as beautyberry, is coming into its glory just as the season of the sun is preparing for the slumber of winter. I happened upon this one while in Manchester, VT – and that’s usually how it happens. I don’t grow any in our yard because the payoff comes too late in the season to be fully enjoyed, but I love seeing these glorious purple berries against their light green foliage in other gardens. 

There are a few in the Southwest Corridor Park in Boston, and they’ve always been a comfort to see. Whether it’s because they recall sunnier days, or offer an extension to the warmer season, I find their beauty very much a balm at the time of the year when the cold clicks in for the long haul. 

 

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Glimpse of Grace

On the way to Amsterdam, with a feeling of gratitude for Andy being behind the wheel so I can watch the fall color go down with the sun, I sink back into the seat and let the last light of the day lull me into the briefest of naps. 

A quick little peek of water provides a glimpse of Sunday afternoon grace, a piece of what it once felt like to be in the hush of church at those moments when faith and spirituality became something tangible, something I could touch and wrap around me. It didn’t happen often, but it did happen. It’s how I understand the power of religion – those little brushes with grace

When the light is just right, or the wind is just so, and you let yourself let go of the cares and concerns of the wickedness of this world, you may find the grace like a sliver of the sublime. It’s a bittersweet thing, because it doesn’t happen all the time – at least, I haven’t been lucky enough to manifest it all the time. That tells me there is more to learn, secrets that might reveal a more regular method of brushing against the sublime

The sky was unsettled, and the best thing about an unsettled sky, despite the rain it may bring, is that it’s a often a thing of dramatic beauty. It brushes that beauty upon the trees and the water and the land beneath it. One of the best-kept secrets of the universe is how it is the sky that decides what sort of day we are having, not the sun: that sun is shining day and night – it’s the stuff that comes between us that makes all the difference. 

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Woolly Key

The question of what the banding on the woolly bear caterpillar indicates as far as winter goes is answered (at least one version of an answer) in the helpful diagram below. Based on what I can see of the specimen I found earlier this fall, this may be a mild winter. From this caterpillar’s fur to Mother Nature’s ear. 

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Before the Madness Departs, A Recap

Mercury is scheduled to slip out of retrograde emotion at long last, hopeful ending this recent spate of insanity and difficulty. It’s been a doozy of a few weeks, and I’m ready to put it all behind us and move into the latter half of October. Godspeed, Mercury, to the return of your typical trajectory. On with the weekly recap…

Last week began with the haunting memory of Matthew Shepard

A watery reprieve.

Phasing out Facebook feels like the right thing to do at this moment. 

A scarf and a belt

Colors of October.

A lackluster Madonna Timeline.

A flower on Newbury Street.

My Uncle died of COVID, and he wasn’t vaccinated

A cat sleeps in Manchester.

Go easy on me

Chilly fall start.

Arborvitae in the afternoon light

The Dazzlers of the Day were Polo Morín and Lynda Carter.

 

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Afternoon Arborvitae

Throughout my 46 years, I’ve had a love/hate relationship with the arborvitae. My earliest memory is a rather sour one, based on its initially off-putting aroma coupled with a neighbor’s harsh and ugly pruning technique on the bush that stood between our yards. That first impression stuck, and when I saw it used so ubiquitously in yards and landscapes around the world, the distaste was only re-enforced. 

Over the years, however, my taste changed. My assessment evolved. The usefulness of the arborvitae began to change my mind. Coupled with a re-examination of its form and attributes, the transformation was complete when I watched a hedge of it going up in Ogunquit, Maine, and upon closer study I noticed its beautiful scale-like foliage, and the way it could so gorgeously accentuate its chartreuse overtones in the afternoon sunlight.

It is possible to change, to refine taste, to offer another chance at something you once disliked. I like that lesson. I like that possibility. 

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Chilly Fall Start

A chilly start to the morning is ameliorated by the cup of matcha which gives off little tendrils of steam beside me. We haven’t hard a hard frost yet, and the mornings have been rather pleasant, but Andy has noticed the geese already heading South. Maybe they know more than we do about the weather to come. 

It is dark when I get up for work now, something that will change slightly when we move the time back by an hour in a couple of weeks. We’ll have earlier morning light then, but it will go away sooner at the end of the day, and then the dark will almost arrive by the time I get out of work. Fall and winter often offer no-win situations like that. There’s always a trade-off for the glories of spring and summer.  

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