Wigging Out: An Interlude

Ricocheting from the stereotypically-masculine to the stereotypically-feminine, the push and pull of The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale may be as profound as it is silly. One of the main tenets of that project was poking a little fun at myself, and looking as ridiculous as possible, while also positing some inherent questions on what makes a man or a woman. It sounded more superficial back then, which is precisely how I wanted it to be. These days, such questions take on greater resonance, as more and more people are being attacked for being different or other. That is way too serious for someone in a wig like this.

And lip gloss like that.

We won’t even get into the rest of the make-up…

Such a wigged-out state is ideal for this interlude, which constitutes our lone Divine Diva Tour entry for the week. Catch up on all previous entries below.

~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~

  1. Pink Frilly Fairy: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three
  2. Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
  3. A Purple-Hued Interlude
  4. Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  5. Purple Puff Confection: Part OnePart Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  6. A Blue-Hued Interlude
  7. Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
  8. Bad Boy Bangs: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  9. Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  10. Sugar Plum Ballerina: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  11. A Pool Frolic: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  12. A Cemetery Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  13. Powder Blue Fur Doll: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  14. A Milky Interlude 
  15. Rock Out, Cock Out/ Hang Out, Wang Out: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  16. Cocktail Cocktale: Part One and Part Two.
  17. A Fairy’s Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  18. Willy Wonkers: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  19. A Peacock In Everything But Beauty: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  20. Swan Lake Fantasia: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, and Part Four.
  21. Black & White in Briefs: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  22. Weave of Basket, Weave of Rope: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, Part Four, and Part Five.
  23. Chains of Gray to Color: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  24. Black Jockstrap: Back Entry: Part One, Part Two and Part Three.
  25. Super Fairy Interlude: Part One, Part Two and Part Three.
  26. American Psychology: Part One and Part Two.
  27. Jocks & Frocks: Part One, Part Two and Part Three.
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A Summer Island Playlist

Music and summer go hand in hand with making memories, second only perhaps to scent and fragrance in melding a sensory experience to a memory. This old-school summer playlist contains most of the classics that informed my youthful summers, and last year there was this trio of playlists that informed our Coquette Era:

This year, our summer theme is ‘ISLAND’, and I present to you a playlist that is more eclectic than usual, which directly mirrors the scattered nature of my brain these hot, hazy days… (click on the title for a link to hear the song)

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Yellow Moon

Perhaps you’ll think it strange that a post on the yellow moon is fronted by the day’s eye, but summer is for stranger things. This song, another selection from ‘The Mighty Quinn’ soundtrack that formed my bedrock of summer memories 35 years ago, is a mellow, late-night mood-fest of vibes designed to see us dreamers through a muggy summer night.

Summer spreads its mysteries wide and far, even beneath the shadowless flight of the sun.

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A Friendship Reunion Marking 30 Years

The lovely tribe that I wrote about in this post descends upon our happy home this weekend, cramming everyone into our little space like we did way back in our college years. It’s a celebration of us turning or about to turn 50, as well as the 30th year of my friendship with them. It also marks a rare summer gathering for us – we usually get together around the holidays in Boston – but summer is always lighter and more carefree.

They’ll be part of our Island Summer, escaping to our lovely little landlocked isle and all of its perfectly and quirkily contradictory aspects for a weekend. It’s a badly-needed moment of reconnection for my favorite people in the world, especially in the darkened and dim world we have going on right now.

Happy Friday – enjoy the weekend, and your chosen family.

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Here We Fucking Go

Mercury is in retrograde motion until August 11, and I’m already completely fucking over it. I think Mars is still in Virgo, so fuck around at your own risk. I’m not entertaining nonsense.

I am trying to go with the flow and let the fuckery happen without letting it get to me. The fun bottle featured here was a gift from Lorie, who knows just how ruffled my feathers can get whenever Mercury goes retro. Embrace the attitude, succumb to the drama, and stand back Buenos Aires – you oughta know what you’re gonna get in me – just a little touch of star quality!

And by star quality I mean back the fuck up and leave me be until mid-August.

Blessings.

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The Dainty Doughnut: A Donette

The grammatically-correct perfectionist I used to be would scoff at my embracing of these ridiculous sweet treats, called ‘Donettes’, and unexpectedly adored by Tom Ford. My decidedly imperfect current incarnation simply wants to enjoy their powdery, sugary sweetness, their simplicity and inherent unhealthiness, and the element of nostalgia they conjure. They’re somewhere in my childhood, but I can’t quite place where and when – and it’s ok to simply be moved backward in time, even if the precise placement remains unknown.

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A Milestone in the BlueSky

Social media is mostly awful these days, and I’m on it for posting these blog links and that’s about it. Hit it and quit it. So it was a happy surprise when I saw the number of followers I have on BlueSky tick up to the 10,000 realm. That’s almost twice my Instagram and FaceBook follower counts, and feels like more of a testament to the sanity and reason of the people on that site than any special draw I’m exhibiting. Would that it were the latter, but my youthful days were spent long ago. This is more validation that others share my views, which are for love and equality, which had earned the ‘woke’ moniker. I’m good with being awake rather than asleep or hateful. Wish more felt that way…

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

Is there a more enjoyable experience than eating cold, ripe watermelon on a hot summer day?

Cue the music man.

#TinyThreads

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A Madonna Meditation Moment

While the Madonna Timeline has yet to hit ‘Has To Be’ – the B-side to Madonna’s ‘Ray of Light’ single – I’m including the instrumental version of this underrated track in this post for its tranquil properties. In my opinion, it could have easily slipped onto the ‘Ray of Light’ album, perhaps elongating the last section’s slowed-down meditative vibe. (It’s certainly superior to the currently-hyped ‘Gone, Gone, Gone’ demo that is part of the messy ‘Veronica Electronica’ release – that one feels decidedly unfinished, even if it’s exceptionally intriguing as a product of this artistically-fertile point in Madonna’s career.)

I’ve written about its pull previously in this post, and there will be a more comprehensive meditation on it for when the Madonna timeline makes its way there. For now, breathe in, breathe out, and say a little prayer.

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The Magic of Mushrooms

Our backyard is no stranger to magic mushrooms, and this muggy summer makes for more fungus hospitality. These beauties appears practically overnight – I thought some escaped bit of rubbish blew into the yard before I went out for a closer look and discovered them.

The decaying stump of an old Japanese maple, and a bit of rain, formed the happy home environs for this mushroom clump. There is something magical about how quickly and fleetingly such a thing happens. It will likely shrink and wither beneath the direct rays of sunlight – should they happen to strike.

After some perfunctory research online, it looks like these may be a variety of oyster mushroom, but I’m not someone who will take his life into his hands by trying that theory out. Nor would I serve this to a dinner party for shits and giggles (no matter how tempting that might be).

The garden has its dangers, just like summer does.

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A Little Bit of Joy

It’s difficult to get a moody teenager to smile, especially when you want to take their picture. I say this as someone who well remembers his moody moments (and who still succumbs to them even as he stalks and approaches 50). So without much analysis or reason, I present this fun pic that I managed to get of the Ilagan twins right after I took them to get Starbucks. Caffeine and sugar work for a brief window of time – just enough to pass them off to someone else for the crash.

Enjoy the smiles when they’re there.

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The Littlest Companion

Dwarfed by its immediate neighbor the cup plant, the size and daintiness of this oregano plant is enhanced by its accompanying giant. They make an unusual pair, but one that works, as the cup plant tends to retain its lower leaves no matter how high it grows. The oregano is usually topped off before it goes to bloom, but since we don’t use that much of it for food (Andy is strangely not a fan) I let a few stalks go to exquisite flower. They make a gorgeous alternative for the ubiquitous baby’s breath in any bouquet.

One of my favorite fresh oregano recipes is a basic sheet of roasted potatoes – cut into bite size chunks, drizzled with olive oil and sea salt, then topped with some feta cheese and sprinkled with fresh oregano leaves. It’s deceptively simple, delicious and divine.

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A Robust And Dainty Friend

This week we welcome back the first blooms of an old and dear friend – the cup plant. Extolled many times on this blog over the years, this is one of my favorite plants. Whimsical, imposing, delicate, robust – it carries all kinds of connotations, and provides habitat and food for some of our favorite visitors (yellow finches).

Rising dramatically over eight feet in height, it is impressive of size and stature, yet its blooms are delicate and small. Its immensity means that it does best with a couple strong cords of rope tied around its midsection when it’s about four feet tall as these get so high that they bend (though rarely break) in rain and wind.

These are statement plants that will take up a lot of space – a boon to gardeners looking for impact and size – while their daisy-like flowers in the brightest gold rise well out of reach of smaller hands or rodents. A winning plant on all fronts, and one that comes into bloom just as the first flush of summer bloomers is fading. We are in that initial lull, which is somewhat of an unhappy reminder that summer moves quickly. Too quickly. Stop and examine the flowers.

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

Am I the only one not hate-watching ‘And Just Like That‘ right now? I still haven’t seen any of the new season yet. My admiration is on ‘The Gilded Age‘ – it’s the guilty pleasure of our household and I’m not sorry about it in the least.

#TinyThreads

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Island Interim: A Weekly Blog Recap

Mid-July and summer turns to high

The fun snack bowl trio and their palm tree holder seen here was a gift from Lorie, in honor of our Island Summer. It fits in perfectly, and formed the festive arrival set-up for dinner with some dear friends. Our weekly blog recap commences now, as another week begins, with the wind-up for a weekend of hospitality with other old friends…

A Tom Daley Speedo appreciation post.

Son of a Virgo.

Summer dinner guesting.

Mars is still in Virgo. Fuck around at your own peril.

The beauty of a bundt cake.

The secret to a bouquet.

Whispering walls.

A summer higher love.

A message for the children.

La Habanera.

The lone Dazzler of the Day was Justinian Huang.

Ice cream summer, just a taste.

Tres deseos.

Don’t buck with me fellas – this ain’t my first time at the rodeo!

Jocks and frocks.

Locker room scene.

Putting the masc on.

Subtle yet stunning.

The trick to putting bread pudding over.

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