My Husband’s Birthday

Today is Andy’s birthday, and while it’s not as big as last year’s surprise event, a birthday is still a milestone worth celebrating. Of course, that’s not quite in Andy’s nature, so he’s requested that we do nothing today and I have no choice but to honor that. It’s certainly not how I handle birthdays, but it’s his special day, so whatever he wants goes. I’ve offered to cook the first dish I ever made for him, and I’ve picked up two small cakes (one carrot and one chocolate) for whatever mood he’s in. His gift is more utilitarian than extravagant, but that’s how he would like it. And there’s something to be said for the good people, like my husband, who don’t need a fanfare and spectacle of things to be content.

Happy Birthday, Andy ~ and many happy returns of the day!!

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A Ben Cohen Shirtless & Workout Post

Continuing with the Straight Ally theme begun earlier today, here we have a bonus Ben Cohen shirtless post, for those who like to make their social messages a little (and a lot) sexier.

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The Daddy Dad Blog

My friend Skip runs the very cool DaddyDadBlog.com, and he just posted a pair of posts that almost melted my icy heart. It’s his personal take on what it’s like to be friends with a gay guy, but it carries some universal truths, and some hilarious and touching moments. His blog is a must-read if you have children, or know any, as it feature the chronicles of his stay-at-home parenting adventures. (I have the good fortune of working with his amazing wife, so I get to see the best of both worlds.)

Skip has been a long-time friend of mine, and one of my closest straight guy pals. A more detailed and thoughtful summary of what he means to me can be found here, as the first in our Straight Ally series. Part One of his witty list of what a gay guy makes a good friend can be found here, and it’s a funny touchstone of some familiar (and true) common perceptions. Part 2, which delves a little deeper while simultaneously exploding stereotypes, is here. Together, they are a nifty summation of the highlights of a friendship between a gay guy and straight guy.

The best part about having a friend like Skip, aside from getting to see a grown-man climb aboard a kid’s ride, is having my occasionally-cloistered life enriched by someone whose passion and intelligence is rivaled only by his integrity. To that end, I’ve asked (begged) Skip to write a couple of guest posts for this blog, because in addition to being a great friend, he’s also a brilliant writer. Be ready to be dazzled. (And head on over to DaddyDadBlog.com for further brilliance.)

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Madonna, Almost at 100

The next installment of the Madonna Timeline will be the 100th song I have featured. What started out as a whim, has grown into something quite more. Looking back on the early entries, they seem breezy, light, and supercilious – but somewhere along the line they took on deeper meaning, much in the way that Madonna’s own career has progressed from trifling pop singer to global force. If there’s one thing we have in common is an amusement and appreciation at being under-estimated.

This is the first mini-promo of that milestone, so I’ve gone over a few past Madonna Timeline entries and found some that slipped under the radar. The first is ‘Sky Fits Heaven‘, one of my favorite tracks from the epic Ray of Light album. If this song came up now, it would get a much better write-up, but back then I didn’t know what I was doing. And rather than pretend I was perfect, I’d rather let the past speak for the past.

Such as ‘Justify My Love‘. The pre-cursor to the big Erotica bang, ‘Justify‘ has never been a favorite Madonna song of mine, but it maintains a prominent place in the Madonna canon for all the controversy it courted and then fucked.

April in Boston – and ‘I’ll Remember‘. On an upper floor of the Copley Marriott, I wrote out a story, looking out over the Charles River, my mother and grandmother out on a shopping excursion, and me alone – always alone – and wondering.

The heat of summer released its gloriously stifling hold, and no one could deny ‘He’s A Man‘. Well, he was…

And sometimes summer was just one big ‘Celebration‘. Sometimes.

More often fall was where it was at, and fall was traditionally the time in which I fell. The number of times I wanted to say ‘I Want You‘ far exceeded the times that phrase was ever returned.

Yet winter was where spells were cast as well, or, rather, not quite well… as winter wishes were the cruelest of all. You’re ‘Frozen‘ when your heart’s not open. So… ‘Open Your Heart‘!

Summer always comes around again, but it’s never the same. Whenever that happens, I find it’s best to just ‘Turn Up The Radio‘.

And if it’s love that you’re after – and who isn’t? – check out ‘True Blue‘ or ‘Crazy For You‘. Love is never what you think it will be.

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All the Nights I Sleep Alone…

It feels as if I’m the least lonely when I’m by myself.

In a crowd of people, surrounded by friends, at a family dinner, sitting next to my husband – those are the times I feel lonely.

When I’m alone, I don’t worry about present company. There is no need to exclude, or to be excluded.

You’re my water
You’re my wine
You’re my whiskey
From time to time
You’re the hunger
On my bones
All the nights
I sleep alone

How I wish I could explain this better. How I wish to be someone better than I am.

How I wish I didn’t make such a mess of things by trying to be right and perfect and pretty.

How I wish I could stop.

Sweet intoxication
When your words
Wash over me
Whether or not
Your lips move
You speak to me

Are you out there? Are you listening? Are you the Hunter’s Moon or the starlight? Or are you the setting sun?

I will wait for you to rise, whatever you are, wherever you are.

Yes, I will wait.

Like an ocean
Without waves
You’re the movement
That I crave
And in that motion
I long to drown
And be lost not to be found

Leave me to this melancholic madness, I will lose myself and be fine.

We all wake in a fog. For the lucky ones, it clears as the day progresses.

For the unlucky ones, the ones who don’t get enough sun, the fog never lifts.

It’s my fault, and it’s your fault, and it’s no one’s fault.

But there is a fault, and a fissure, and I will not wait for it to grow.

You’re my water
You’re my wine
You’re my whiskey
From time to time

‘Drunkard’s Prayer’, Over the Rhine

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Over the Rhine and Through the Woods

It was a pass day from work for me, so I went on a hike in Thacher Park (more on that later), and tonight we’re scheduled to see Over the Rhine at The Egg. It’s a quiet Friday in fall, the very best kind of Friday to have. Here’s the song ‘Sacred Ground’ by Over the Rhine.

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Woodland Walk

A fallen leaf, mottled with red and yellow, facing up on a moss-speckled stone.

A pathway curving around the edge of a wooded, blanketed by leaves, buffered by dew.

A wooden bench, empty but for more fallen leaves,

A bit of forest, then a little clearing. Small pines making the start of their skyward journey. Fledgling oaks long before they turn mighty.

A pair of birdhouses, hung high on the trees.

The forest begins again.

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Fall Scenes from Ogunquit, ME

This is why I love ME in the fall.

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Family Fun in Ogunquit

Mom and Dad joined us for this year’s Columbus Day weekend in Ogunquit, Maine, and it was one of the more relaxing and enjoyable jaunts of late. We all needed a break, it seemed, and the weekend provided that in lazy walks along the Marginal Way, leisurely shopping excursions in nearby Kittery, and a lofty look at the summit of Mt. Agamenticus. Of course, my favorite part was just spending some time with my parents and Andy, at breakfast or dinner, or cocktails with friends.

Ogunquit is one of the few places where I can relax and not worry about what I’m wearing or what I have scheduled or what needs to be written for this blog. I don’t have to think about work issues or family drama or impending kitchen renovations. It’s a place of surrender and contentment, ease and comfort, balm and beauty.

It’s always good to see my parents and Andy interact – sometimes he gets along better with them than I do, but such is the benefit of distance. We had a great time, removed from the rest of the world, in a paradisiacal place by the sea, enjoying fine food and settling into a weekend of peace – and family fun.

Here we see Andy and Dad walking up from Perkins Cove, and then posing in front of the giant pumpkins.

Our family holiday weekend in Ogunquit had begun…

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The Baddest Witch in Town

My favorite show this season (and the only one I’m watching right now) is ‘American Horror Story: Coven’.

God knows I love a good witch – and a bad one is even better.

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Ben Cohen, Bulging in his Briefs

It’s been a good week of shirtless male celebrities here, despite my lack of interest in things of late. First we had a very naked Zac Efron, legit, and here we have Ben Cohen in his tighty-whities on the cover of ‘Attitude’. Talk about a bountiful harvest. While Zac Efron has been featured a number of times, (also in his tighty-whities) he still pales in comparison to the number of Ben Cohen underwear posts – the guy even has his own Category. His cover shoot is in well-deserved honor of his work as an ally. When you’re hot, you’re hot, but when you’re good you’re hotter.

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My Head’s Not In It

Apologies, but I’m still mentally on vacation and not quite ready to return to the daily upkeep of this blog. But some (many) of you are new here, so if I throw out a few links of where we were last year, it might be funky fresh like that. Starting with this Maine visit that got posted exactly a year ago yesterday. That and our recent trip to Mt. Agamenticus (post to come) are the inspiration for a possible hiking expedition. (Another post to come.)

Maine was also home to this little show-off, a creature after my own heart.

Last year I posted about my first retail job – a job that to this day I count as one of my favorites. It was at Structure, at their Faneuil Hall location, before it got downgraded to an Abercrombie & Retch Fitch.

Still, I miss Maine, or at least the state of mind that I seem to find only there.

Tomorrow I’ll be back on track… stay with me.

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Zac Efron, Naked – For Real

This is a shot from Zac Efron‘s upcoming film… I can’t even remember what the title is. It does’t matter what the title is. This is Zac Efron naked. Butt naked. Buck naked. However you want to say it naked. You’re welcome.

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