Abba & Andy

This fun pic shows the reflection of Andy white illuminating that Abba was playing on the radio – ‘Fernando’ to be exact. The last time we had the twins over, I made a joke of Abba and I’ve been texting it to them ever since. An inside joke, it’s just something that makes me smile now, and Abba has become a code word for fun when talking with them. 

Further proof that Abba is timeless

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The New ‘It’ Girl… and She’s Green

Behold the Ficus umbellata!

Emboldened by the recent success of this Ficus ‘Audrey’, I’m trying my hand at the predicted plant superstar of 2022, the Ficus umbellata. Supposedly its care falls somewhere between the ease of ‘Audrey’ and the difficulty of the infamous fiddle-leaf fig. Unimpressed by the wrinkled form of the latter, I never bothered trying the fiddle-leaf, and I’ve had mixed success with the common Ficus benjamina (I currently have a variegated version of the weeping fig doing relatively well. It loses some leaves, but soon grows new ones.) 

As for the Ficus umbellata, its big, bright and beautiful leaves are the main attraction, getting larger the happier it is with its surroundings. Hopefully we can find enough light and humidity to keep it content. My finger are crossed. 

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A Baby Seal in Bed

When in the proximity of children and their playthings, one comes across all sorts of interesting scenes and scenarios, such as this baby seal tucked cozily into its little bed in the top floor of a dollhouse. I’ve never encountered such a thing, not even at the New England Aquarium. The idea is a fun one to entertain, though I’m guessing this bed may be a little dry for a real seal’s liking. 

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A Tea Cup of Contemplation

My Mom just gave us a few of her tea cup sets as she downsizes, and while these are more decorative than functional, my life was once about favoring decorative over functional, so let’s indulge. I did enjoy a cup of elderberry tea in this pretty little cup, so I suppose there is function here too – it’s simply about a third of the volume that one of our usual mugs would supply. For cocktails that might have been fine – for tea, I needed to refill for more, but there is mindfulness in that, and it’s a good check on how much we are indulging. 

These photos are also a good reminder of the imperfections of life, and how we should embrace and laugh at them. Notice the way the tea cup sits slightly off-center – something that would have irked me to no end a few years ago. When I noticed it here, I didn’t bother to change it. The universe wanted it to be just so, and I left it alone. So many things would be just fine if they were simply left alone. 

There are many lessons to be gleaned from a simple tea cup. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Paul Tonko

My first memory of Congressman Paul Tonko was of his family home’s Christmas lights during the holiday season. When the trees behind our house had shed their leaves for the winter, we could just barely make out the glow of that display, and we always made a point of driving by several times during the season. That glow merely hinted at the warmth and affection he has shown to our hometown of Amsterdam, and it grew into a lifetime of service in which he has consistently and unrelentingly championed the well-being of all his neighbors and constituents.

One of the greatest things about Congressman Tonko is that he shows up – and not everyone does that these days. He’s there for all the events that a Congressman should be at – engaging and talking and sharing – and he’s there for all the minor moments that don’t get the airplay, but remain important to the people he represents. That points to a heart of service greater than himself: for Congressman Tonko, it’s always been about the people, and making the world better for all of us. For that reason alone, he is our Dazzler of the Day.

Check out his website here for more of his accomplishments, and join me in supporting his campaign this year. He’s also on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram

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A Cheer for Spring

In keeping with this promise, here is the cheery spring thought/visual of the day: ranunculus. These flowers deserve a prettier name, though some might think ‘ranunculus’ is a gorgeous, if cumbersome, word. Personally, I don’t. They are too magnificently frilly and fancy, their petals softer and yet more voluminous than a rose. They personify the delicate beauty that spring can, at certain moments, so preciously embody. Their color is brilliant – coming in all shades of bright yellow, fiery orange, steamy scarlet, and thrilling pink, along with creams and whites for more elegant moments. They pop up sporadically in Trader Joe’s and Whole Foods Market, as well as the more decent florist shops, and they make great cut flowers, opening fully and staying fresh as long as they have adequate water. 

On this fourth day of spring, we celebrate the season. Pause and inhale, then let it all out. 

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Rising Like Oz In Downtown Albany

Rising majestically near the Hudson River in downtown Albany, this domed beauty is the New York State Department of Environmental Conservation, where I work as the Associate Director of Human Resources. Every now and then I pause on my lunch break and take it all in, along with remembrances of the journey that brought me to this Emerald City of buildings. It’s a source of pride that I am privileged enough to work at an agency whose work and mission to conserve and protect the environment is one that is both noble and necessary. Even better than that is the fact that I get to work with some great people, including good friends I’ve had for over a decade and a half. 

It is a gift, one that I consistently appreciate, and the gratitude I feel is genuine. It makes me want to do the best work that I can do, to contribute in some small way to the larger mission of what our agency does. When I started out as a Data Entry Machine Operator in the summer of 2001 just down the street at what was then the Department of State, I didn’t envision the turns and twists that my state career would take. Looking back during a sunny lunch break, I’m grateful for all of them. 

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When You Don’t Say Gay

When I was growing up, no one talked about being gay, and when you don’t see yourself in the world you wonder at your worth, your value, and your entire existence. #SayGay

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A Very Prim Spring

These spring primrose plants lit up a corner of the Faddegon’s greenhouse, heralding the season in cheery, colorful form. They are fleeting beauties, like the season they represent, and all the more beautiful for it. What doesn’t last is always loved a little bit more. 

This spring I intend to take each day as it comes, finding a little ray of hope – the essence of spring – at every turn. In this blustery stretch of March, these primrose blooms will suffice. May they cheer your day too. 

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Put Your Hands Together… and Pray

Today marks the anniversary of Madonna’s epic ‘Like A Prayer’ album. For those of us old enough to remember the spring of 1989, this will always harken to that heady time of burning crosses on MTV, and a darker, more somber and serious Madonna than we’d ever encountered before. It remains a masterpiece that holds up – a timeless classic rooted in solid songs and musical brilliance – and it has endured because of its universal themes. Let’s revisit its track-list, link by exuberant link:

  1. Like A Prayer
  2. Express Yourself
  3. Love Song
  4. ‘Til Death Do Us Part
  5. Promise To Try
  6. Cherish
  7. Dear Jessie
  8. Oh Father
  9. Keep It Together
  10. Spanish Eyes
  11. Act of Contrition

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A Recap in Green Underwear

St. Patrick’s Day came and went, and the first day of spring was right behind it. This week has exciting events coming up too, but rather than get ahead of ourselves, let’s take a peek at some seasonal verdant underwear by Burberry, and recap the week that ended this winter. 

Winter wasn’t going without a grand finale, so we weathered this storm with family and friends

The birds were hinting at spring with a new song.

Echoes of an amber jewel

A pause decked out in purple and pink

As Liza Minelli would say, ‘Balls!’

Wearying of winter

The humble and magnificent quahog

The last day of winter, here at last. 

Waiting for the winter exhale

Winter ended as it began – with a meditation. 

They say it’s spring

Dazzlers of the Day included Chuck Miller, Nathaniel Gray, Dominick Purnomo, and Pati Jinich

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They Say It’s Spring

When I was young I lived in a world of dreams
Of moods and myths and illusionary schemes
Though now I’m much more grown up
I fear that I must own up
To the fact that I’m in doubt of
What the modern cynics shout of…

Hello Spring!!! We have been waiting for you. Winter was fine, and far less upsetting than anticipated, and for that we are grateful. But to have spring here is better. It adds a bounce to the steps of a day, even if the weather is slow to turn. It will come eventually. A song for the moment:

They say it’s spring
This feeling light as a feather
They say this thing
This magic we share together
Came with the weather too

Last night, a thunderstorm rumbled as if winter was still grumbling about the regime change. Spring often defers to winter’s wrath, sometimes right through April, but given winter’s comparative kindness this year, let it rumble. The daffodils are already pushing through the sunnier spots of the yard. 

Could it be spring
Those bells that I can hear ringing
It may be spring
But when the robins stop singing
You’re what I’m clinging to
Though they say it’s spring
It’s you

Soon the strappy leaves will rise, with the buds of flowers not far behind. The snow will melt away, and one day we will marvel that it ever had the conditions to stay. Crocus and snowdrops will push the door open, and then the stampede of jonquils and tulips will follow suit. Then it will be May, possibly the happiest month of the year. 

Yes, we are grateful that spring is here. May it take its time, and may we find joy in each of its days. 

Did I need spring
To bring the ring that you bought me
Though it was spring
That wondrous day that you caught me
Darling I thought we knew
That it wasn’t spring
‘Twas you

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A Meditative End to Winter

The season of slumber ended as it began: with a meditation in the dark of night

As I started the session, Andy came into the living room to crack open a window. He returned to the kitchen as I settled into deeper breathing, and the happy sounds of a pasta sauce coming together could be heard. Such noise was a comfort – a glad drone of background commotion that didn’t phase me, even in meditative mode. In fact, it was a comfort.

One of the things I longed for all those years ago when I was alone was the simple presence of a partner, the safety and warmth of having someone you loved in the same home, going through the same winter’s night, and offering support when needed. As the sounds of the stove carried in from the kitchen, I continued my meditation, and soon was lost in the breath. 

A calm and cooling shift of air floated in through the cracked window – outside, a thunderstorm was thrillingly beckoning the arrival of spring. Winter would depart in subdued grace, a new old friend whose presence made hygge possible, and with whom I’ve reconciled after years of misunderstanding. In a strange way, I will miss it, even though we will meet again when the summer sun tires. 

For now, spring is at hand, and with a flourish we turn this blog over to a new season. 

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Waiting for the Winter Exhale

The sun came pouring in the living room the other morning, the way it does only at the end of winter, when branches are bare and the air is crisp and clear. It illuminated a simple bunch of hydrangeas, which caught the sunlight and held it there, letting it warm the spirit and the room. 

Since we’ve had a decent supply of hydrangea blooms during recent summers, I don’t think of purchasing them as cut flowers at any other time of the year, but on this particular week I craved their simplicity and easy elegance. And they reminded me of happy summer days, so I indulged. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Pati Jinich

She is one of my favorite chefs, and that might come down to a single, simple, epic recipe: the Señor Breakfast Sandwich. It’s become a staple on weekends when breakfast/brunch is the most important thing happening. Pati Jinich has a number of epic recipes, many of which I’ve tried – and all have been happy successes (which can’t be said for some of my kitchen endeavors). As host of ‘Pati’s Mexican Table’ she offers a glimpse of a multi-cultural world that enriches the brain-numbing drivel on every other television channel. Today she earns the Dazzler of the Day because her personality and spirit are as inspiring as her recipes – she just makes everyone feel a little happier. We need that more than ever. Check out her website, and more foolproof recipes, here. 

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