Hello from the Other Side

A wee bit early this year, this ‘holiday’ cactus (which manages Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter depending on its mood) is blooming right now, which may signify a quicker winter. Not that such a thing ever really exists. Winter will be winter, and for as long as it will be – as long as the dates tick away, and time cannot be banked or fooled in name or mission. But this cactus, blooming now on the other side of the New Year must sense a shift in light, meaning we have ticked up to where we were when last it bloomed, which was in October.

That doesn’t quite work out with where the sun is at, but this year it bloomed early, so maybe this re-bloom will follow that tracking. Upon checking the archives, it looks like this one usually blooms its repeat bloom in February. We’re not quite halfway done with January, so it is indeed early, but I’m not complaining. 

We need color and light and life, and this gorgeous little plant is putting on the show so desired. This is the time of the year when I start making weekly pilgrimages to Faddegon’s to simply walk through their greenhouses and marvel at their Australian tree ferns or olive branches, neither of which we could ever grow in our shaded and dry home. Instead, this cactus will have to do, along with a few other standard specimens like a Norfolk Island Pine, a spider plant, a philodendron, and a couple of ZZ plants. 

This cactus is the only thing we have that blooms, and so it’s highly prized and cherished. It’s about twenty years old, and I can no longer remember where it came from or how it came to live with us. Most likely it was a gift in a smaller pot, a throw-away supermarket find that I may have been gifted at some Secret Santa in some far-away and long-ago office world. Strange how much time has passed, and how little this little guy has changed. Strange and comforting – the way the world is when it’s feeling somewhat kind and generous.

 

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Dazzlers of the Day: Madison Hubbell and Zachary Donohue

Swizzling their way onto the road to the Winter Olympics, Madison Hubbell and Zachary Donohue earn their first crowning as Dazzlers of the Day, even if Zachary has been featured here previously. This is reportedly their last outing as a competitive ice dancing pair, which lends all of their programs an added gravitas and flare. I’m always here for both. 

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Feast of the Ass Day

Listen, I didn’t make this up. It’s Feast of the Ass Day, some religious commemoration that takes place on January 14, to mark donkey shit or something – not literal shit, I mean that as donkey stuff. It’s religious, I swear. See here. At one point the Catholic Church condemned the celebration, so I’m all for it. Feast on, my assified friends! 

In these parts, and on this website, Feast of the Ass means something wholly different. I won’t get into specifics, but you get my drift, you get my notion, you get my causing a commotion. At such a time, and in such a world, let us celebrate the Feast of the Ass in our own special way, delighting in its pagan leanings, finding joy in its absurd silliness, and remembering how nonsensical humans have always been. We can try to make order and sense out of things by playing with religion, but in the end we’re all just a little bit mad, and I’m so happy it should be so. 

In that spirit, sass out with your ass out!

(Also, these photos are from decades ago, which is when I really should have been celebrating Feast of the Ass Day. Better late than pregnant.)

 

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The Magic of Miranda

“I’ll always gallop with gay abandon, and I’ll always find a euphemism in anything. I’ll always sing if someone inadvertently speaks song lyrics and I’ll always love the word ‘plunge’ – and that is not being a child – it’s just sometimes the world needs to be jollied.” – Miranda Hart

Hello to you! One of the jolly joys this winter has already provided is the discovery of the genius of Miranda Hart. She’s been profiled briefly here as a Dazzler of the Day, but that only touched on the surface of her magnificence, particularly in these early days of winter when comfort and laughter and joy are so badly needed. While her main thrust in the world seems to be in making people laugh and spreading her now brand of infectious hilarity, there’s a deeper purpose if you peruse her website and take the time to watch her BBC sitcom ‘Miranda’ in which the main character somehow manages to find happiness and child-like wonder at the otherwise-harrowing crux of middle age. 

That series took me through the start of winter and introduced me to this marvelous woman whose online contributions are aimed at bettering the world through sheer example. She toils and troubles through life as most of us do, yet she is constantly in a state of progress and working toward making things better. She has a wonderful knack for accepting herself just as she is, of embracing her imperfections and having fun with life and every single moment of it. I need more of that

The other night, in a deep dive through her Instagram videos, I came across one in which she told of a woman who had written her and thanked her for allowing herself to let go and dance, which she had not done in years for fear of being called out for looking foolish. Miranda gave words of support, remarking how touched she was, and it was a reminder that some of us have been held back and reined in by our own worry of being less than perfect. We are scared of looking stupid and people poking fun at us. It goes back to the very primal urge of being accepted and loved for who we are, no conditions or bargains or requirements. I loved her advice to simply dance in the kitchen, for just a few minutes, to bring about some brief spot of joyful abandon, some reconnection to the very basic human condition of being silly and child-like, recapturing a state of wonder and carefree exuberance. 

I vowed then and there to do more dancing (because I do still enjoy a spirited romp on the dance floor, wherever that floor may be these days) as well as to begin another tradition of spirited galloping. Yes, galloping. 

“We all have our worries about our bodies and our looks. We just need to make the best of our lovely, wonky selves. The key is never to compare and try to be something you’re not.” – Miranda Hart

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Dazzlers of the Day: Madison Chock and Evan Bates

We began our journey to the Winter Olympics in Beijing next month with this Dazzler of the Day, and today we continue on that ice-laden path with a joint Dazzler crowning for the US ice dancing team of Madison Chock and Evan Bates, who have been featured here before for previous Olympic glory. They are an exquisite pair to watch, and the ice dance competition is fierce, so they have their work cut out for them. 

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The Dark & Wee Small Hours

An early riser, I’ve always been one to get up long before I actually need to get up in order to get into the offie on time. Part of this has been to allow for the mental preparation required for a baseline introvert to simply face a bunch of people, part of this has been to get some writing and website work done, and part of it, at this stage in life, is simply older age. So here I sit at the dining room table, right at the 5:46 AM mark, having already put my contacts in, made a cup of matcha, and lit a couple of candles. 

The only sound is the heater kicking on, this being the most frigid of mornings thus far this year, and my own clicking on the keyboard. On some days I will meditate to begin the day, but not today. 

Today I will sit quietly and listen to my breathing, perhaps reading a bit from ‘The Book of Hygge’ by Louisa Thomsen Brits (gorgeous little book if you’re looking for a calm read). I will watch for the first gray shades of light to grow brighter in the sky. Maybe I’ll make myself a second cup of tea, something different – hot and comforting to stave off the morning chill. And, most definitely, I will sit with myself, being alone with myself and attending to the joy of being quiet and still – the every best way to begin a new day. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Nathan Chen

Hot off the blades of his 6th US Figure Skating Championship title, Nathan Chen kicks off this year’s Winter Olympic extravaganza with his first Dazzler of the Day crowning. He leads the hopes for US Gold at this winter’s Olympic Games. There’s a lot of pressure riding on that, yet he has the champion’s focus to deal with it in a way that I cannot even begin to fathom. 

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Ice Visions

The idea of ice has always captivated me. Equally enthralled by its danger as much as its beauty, I’ve always been seduced by its off-putting allure. The way it forms simply from water and air has been a source of wonder and amazement, rivaling the most beautiful blooms of the garden at the height of summer, challenging the most exquisite perfume from a flower at the onset of dusk. Ice makes the gardens of winter sparkle and shine – the balm of something beautiful in the face of danger and darkness. 

Such visions deserve their own song, here in a piece by Andrew Souter. Entitled ‘Melting Icicles’, may it portend the spring to come, even if that feels far away, even if the winter has only just started. 

One relies on hope at this time of the year, because one cannot rely on beauty, especially the beauty of ice. The briefest thaw will decimate the pretty scene here, as will a relentless drying wind. Ice isn’t all-powerful – it’s probably one of the most fleeting of nature’s beauties. 

And so when I see it, and it’s safe to be out and about, I will pause to appreciate it, like a rare bloom gone by the end of a hot summer day. Winter holds its enchantments differently than summer in some ways, and remarkably the same in others. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Michael Breyette

Artists make the most impressive dazzlers, and so this Dazzler of the Day was an obvious and much-deserved choice. Here is Michael Breyette – one of my favorite living artists – and what a thrill and joy it is to be alive when someone so talented is working and producing art that will surely endure long into the future. We don’t appreciate people when we should. 

Breyette has been featured here in a few previous posts, such as this artist profile and a cheeky Hunk of the Day crowning. He was also gracious and kind enough to capture me back when I could fit snugly into a Speedo

He recently posted the following on his lovely website, offering an inside look into the process of an artist in winter: 

It’s great to have a busy holiday season, but it seems like forever since I was at the drawing board. I also have this ‘dream’ of coming up with a whole bunch of ideas and outlines now to carry me through the whole year. The hope would be that I’d be more proficient and could quickly finish up one work and move right on to the next, without waiting for inspiration or taking time to develop an idea. Knowing how I usually work though, I don’t think I’ll make it happen. In the past when I’ve planned out several pieces at once, I’ve only managed to complete a few of them. Maybe I lose interest, my head is just not in the same place it was when I was creating the concept.

How wonderful it is to have him in this world, making it more beautiful, making it more resonant, making it more bearable. Visit his website here for more magic and enjoy the seasonal selections of his work below.

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Hygge Flame Dance

We have arrived at the coldest day of the year thus far, and the only thing to do is light a candle, do a flame dance, and pray that it all keeps you warm. This is the time for frozen pipes and frozen ears and noses, and suddenly a mask mandate doesn’t feel so awful when you’re outside making your world today takes everything you’ve got… a run-on sentence that segues into the ‘Cheers’ theme is not quite I had in mind when crafting this post, but the blog will take us where it wants to go. (Insert incorrect sitcom theme song link here.) Back on the hygge track, as hygge is what I’m hoping sees us through these brittle days, even if I’m due in the office and all I will have is a chunky cardigan and Tibetan wool blanket between me and a drafty window. My my my… I just wrote ‘My, my, my’ as if I’m someone’s grandmother… whoopsie daisy!

Refocusing on the original intent of this post, which is to provide a little flame of warmth on this brutally frigid morning, and a sliver of hope in the idea of hygge. If you can hunker down in a nest of cozy blankets and pillows, by all means do that. If you can’t, try to slip into something warm and fuzzy, like a sweater or chunky knit scarf. Failing that, perhaps you can find solace and comfort in a cup of hot chocolate or steaming tea. And if that isn’t possible, maybe you can find the spirit of hygge and hold it in your head and heart, taking a few deep breaths no matter where you might find yourself. 

I don’t know – I am out of practical suggestions so maybe this post is a bit of a failure. 

As for me, though I have a full day in the office ahead, I will eventually return home, and while it will be dark when I make my way into the warm comfort of our house, there will be the chance to light a few candles, put on a kettle of tea, and unwind in a moment of decompression. Andy will be watching the news in the den, the comforting drone of muted noise and the occasional ruffling of a grocery list will be its own form of music. I may meditate then, to ease the transition of the day, or I may save it for right before bed, as I’ve done of late, to set a peaceful tone for sleep. 

This is winter. We make our way in shuffling steps, guarding against the cold outside by making things cozier inside. This is hygge. 

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Tea For Thought

There are about 70 days left of winter, so the vast bulk of it is yet to come, but rather than view it that way, I’m focusing on the subtle joys of the season, doing what I can to embrace or at least accept the present moment, one day at a time. That means finding happiness in the simple act of sitting down to savor a cup of tea. 

If taken slowly and mindfully, the mere act of making tea can be a therapeutic and almost meditative experience. One begins with a kettle on the stove-top, and the life-nourishing addition of clean, pure water. As the water heats, a mug is chosen, along with the tea. I find mint or ginger or lemongrass works well for me at this time of the year. For something slightly more floral I’ll go with an Earl Grey and occasionally a chamomile or lavender for evening enjoyment. 

Once the water is near boiling, I’ll let the tea steep for the recommended time (and timing is important with tea, as various teas want differing steeping periods to avoid bitterness). Then there is the minor and all-too-under-rated moment of waiting for the tea to cool slightly. This is a moment ripe for meditative contemplation, a built-in check of the universe to force us to slow down, lest we burn ourselves on scalding tea. Most people fill it with something else – scrolling through their phone or computer, reading the mail or a magazine, rushing to complete some other task that can wait – instead of simply sitting with themselves, their thoughts and their tea. But this is precisely the most magical part of the tea tradition – the moment just before one actually takes the first sip. All hope and promise and possibility are in that pregnant moment of time, and we all too often rush right by it, letting it go. 

So let this be a reminder, as much, if not more, for myself than anyone else who may read these words. Slow down. Savor the moments before, during, and after a cup of tea. Give your mind a break from the rush of the world and the rage of the winter. We deserve to be more mindful of ourselves. 

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A Hyggelig Recap

Moving into winter proper means it’s time to embrace the notion of hygge as a way of making it through the season of slumber. It’s been a bit of a rollercoaster week, so 2022 looks to just pick up the terrible ferocity that was 2021 and aren’t we all the lovelier for it? Anyway, have fun navigating this minefield of posts as we hope for some more calm and tranquil fields in the near future.

Losing my mind in a song of comfort.

Entering one year and exiting another in a state of mindfulness.

This is the Lodge. (As opposed to the Dodge. Or the Rodge.)

A New Year’s tradition

Cozy sleeper.

Morning matcha with a side of Tchaikovsky

Crying by the Christmas tree: a holiday sob story that Hallmark will likely pass on. 

Picking up the pieces and getting on with it again. What choice have we?

A bloody mockery.

For anyone trying a Dry January, or something more lasting, a reminder that it’s ok not to drink

My new favorite cocktail

Like a prince. A naked prince. Many, many years ago… 

Hygge hibernation.

Lawrence Welk, chiffon and Geritol – what life is like nowadays. (And when the word ‘nowadays’ is employed earnestly, you know I’m old – though I still don’t know what Geritol does.)

The Dazzlers of the Day were Katy Perry and Amy Schneider.

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Dazzler of the Day: Amy Schneider

She’s that rare Jeopardy champion who becomes an absolute joy to watch as she racks up wins into and beyond the million dollar mark. This is Amy Schneider, who earns her first Dazzler of the Day honor thanks to the way she’s captured the heart of the gameshow-watching world. I don’t know how one person can know so many things – it’s a success if I get one question correct per round, and I’d be that one person who wages $0 on a Daily Double just to be safe. Congrats to Ms. Schneider on this win.

Amy Schneider – Jeopardy! Contestant
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Lawrence Welk, Chiffon, and Geritol

These are a few of my favorite things? Continuing the idea of an afternoon cocktail hour as posited in this post, I’m putting up the New Year’s episode of ‘The Lawrence Welk Show’ as brought to you by Geritol. (Should I be looking into whether I need Geritol? Seems like something that should be part of my pill program at this age…) 

My family used to watch this every week when I was a wee one, and I still recall some of the songs (especially the classic good-night closing theme). It’s ideal background fodder for passing a winter evening, recalling a time that feels very innocent and easy when compared to today’s world. Nostalgia never held much appeal for me, but I’m slowly coming around to it. Any other time feels better than the present. 

It’s easy to poke fun at old Mr. Welk and this earnest show that teeters into cheesy territory, but then something like ‘Try to Remember’ comes along and I’m reminded of the way things used to be. A wistful, faded memory, packed away in crinkled tissue paper with the faintest scent of lavender that is probably more imagined than actually present, it brings me back to an era I didn’t even experience firsthand, yet somehow I remember…

With its kitschy living room sets, lacquered sky-high hair, and divine dresses beaded with beauty and shrouded in chiffon, the setting and style may seem crazy to modern audiences, but I absolutely adore it. It appeals to an idea of our champagne dreams – once so pure and simple – when dressing up and having a conversation was enough. 

For anyone who needs a bit of escapism, and almost everyone I know is in that boat, this one’s for you. I’m going to put on some ridiculous caftan, make a mocktail in some nonsensical cocktail glass, find a sparkly necklace, and luxuriate the afternoon away. (Helpful hint: if you want to just fast-forward to the best part, hit 33:51 and watch that lady go!) 

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Hygge Hibernation

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Definition of hygge

– a cozy quality that makes a person feel content and comfortable
 
“During the long, dark winters when Danes retreat inside their homes, hygge is what brings them a great sense of comfort and joy.” — Mary Holland
“I believe now—in the midst of this pandemic—is the perfect time for people to embody hygge by focusing on the present moment, spending quality time with people who make them happy, and ultimately finding peace,” [Christine] Christensen said in an email.— Courtney Kueppers

Embracing the idea of hygge was an integral part of what got me through last winter, and it made the season, dare I say it, almost enjoyable. I’ve long maintained that without the slumber of winter, the gardens in spring and summer would not bloom as brilliantly. Yet even with that sobering concept in mind, it’s difficult to find enjoyment when the wind is as cutting as it’s been these past few days. The weather looks only to intensify as far as cold temperatures go, so to brace ourselves for the seasonally-appropriate dip, this is a post to make things as hyggelig as possible.

Our attic loft space is lit by a number of lamps and candles, and one of Andy’s Christmas gifts to me was a space heater that is gentle but effective, creating a cozy nook in our home that lends itself to hygge. There are plenty of thick blankets, a chaise lounge, an antique bed in the center of it all, and I’ve left the pair of little Christmas trees up with their white fairy lights twinkling. In keeping with the Danish origin of hygge, here’s some music with the Danish String Quartet. 

One needn’t have a Scandinavian retreat or attic loft to indulge and enjoy the idea of hygge. A cozy sweater and pair of plush socks is enough. A favorite blanket and comfy chair will do. A cup of hot tea or a mug of hot chocolate will work as well. It’s about finding that place of warmth and coziness, tucking yourself safely against the brutal weather raging outdoors, and slipping into a mindset of serenity and comfort. In a sense, and if done with a bit of mindfulness, it can be a method of meditation. 

“Happiness consists more in small conveniences or pleasures that occur every day, than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom.” – Benjamin Franklin

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