Wielding of Crop, Laced of Glove

“Why should we cherish “objectivity”, as if ideas were innocent, as if they don’t serve one interest or another? Surely, we want to be objective if that means telling the truth as we see it, not concealing information that may be embarrassing to our point of view. But we don’t want to be objective if it means pretending that ideas don’t play a part in the social struggles of our time, that we don’t take sides in those struggles.

Indeed, it is impossible to be neutral. In a world already moving in certain directions, where wealth and power are already distributed in certain ways, neutrality means accepting the way things are now. It is a world of clashing interests – war against peace, nationalism against internationalism, equality against greed, and democracy against elitism – and it seems to me both impossible and undesirable to be neutral in those conflicts.” ~ Howard Zinn

“The power of a bold idea uttered publicly in defiance of dominant opinion cannot be easily measured. Those special people who speak out in such a way as to shake up not only the self-assurance of their enemies, but the complacency of their friends, are precious catalysts for change.” ~ Howard Zinn

“You can’t be neutral on a moving train.” ~ Howard Zinn

~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~

  1. Pink Frilly Fairy: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three
  2. Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
  3. A Purple-Hued Interlude
  4. Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  5. Purple Puff Confection: Part OnePart Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  6. A Blue-Hued Interlude
  7. Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
  8. Bad Boy Bangs: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  9. Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  10. Sugar Plum Ballerina: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  11. A Pool Frolic: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  12. A Cemetery Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  13. Powder Blue Fur Doll: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  14. A Milky Interlude 
  15. Rock Out, Cock Out/ Hang Out, Wang Out: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  16. Cocktail Cocktale: Part One and Part Two.
  17. A Fairy’s Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  18. Willy Wonkers: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  19. A Peacock In Everything But Beauty: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  20. Swan Lake Fantasia: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, and Part Four.
  21. Black & White in Briefs: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  22. Weave of Basket, Weave of Rope: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.

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A Slipping of Hope

“To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness.

What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places—and there are so many—where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction.

And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.” ~ Howard Zinn

“If there is no struggle, there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom, and yet depreciate agitation, are men who want crops without plowing up the ground. They want rain without thunder and lightning. They want the ocean without the awful roar of its many waters. This struggle may be a moral one; or it may be a physical one; or it may be both moral and physical; but it must be a struggle. Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will.” ~ Frederick Douglass

“In a system of intimidation and control, people do not show how much they know, how deeply they feel, until their practical sense informs them they can do so without being destroyed.” ~ Howard Zinn

“The world now seems a stunningly ignoble place. It has not really grown all that much worse but appears to have done so because we know so much more about it than we did. Communication, which the class magazines are always telling us we lack, is in fact an epidemic.” ~ Quentin Crisp

“Everything that happens anywhere is told to everyone in great detail, at once and in color, and since, as the cliche goes, good news is no news, never a day passes but by proxy we are choked with tear gas, bludgeoned with sticks, robbed of millions, raped at age eleven, and starved for a lifetime.” ~ Quentin Crisp

“I’m worried that students will take their obedient place in society and look to become successful cogs in the wheel – let the wheel spin them around as it wants without taking a look at what they’re doing. I’m concerned that students not become passive acceptors of the official doctrine that’s handed down to them from the White House, the media, textbooks, teachers and preachers.” ~ Howard Zinn

The challenge remains. On the other side are formidable forces: money, political power, the major media. On our side are the people of the world and a power greater than money or weapons: the truth.

Truth has a power of its own. Art has a power of its own. That age-old lesson – that everything we do matters – is the meaning of the people’s struggle here in the United States and everywhere. A poem can inspire a movement. A pamphlet can spark a revolution. Civil disobedience can arouse people and provoke us to think, when we organize with one another, when we get involved, when we stand up and speak out together, we can create a power no government can suppress. We live in a beautiful country. But people who have no respect for human life, freedom, or justice have taken it over. It is now up to all of us to take it back.” ~ Howard Zinn

~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~

  1. Pink Frilly Fairy: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three
  2. Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
  3. A Purple-Hued Interlude
  4. Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  5. Purple Puff Confection: Part OnePart Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  6. A Blue-Hued Interlude
  7. Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
  8. Bad Boy Bangs: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  9. Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  10. Sugar Plum Ballerina: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  11. A Pool Frolic: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  12. A Cemetery Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  13. Powder Blue Fur Doll: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  14. A Milky Interlude 
  15. Rock Out, Cock Out/ Hang Out, Wang Out: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  16. Cocktail Cocktale: Part One and Part Two.
  17. A Fairy’s Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  18. Willy Wonkers: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  19. A Peacock In Everything But Beauty: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  20. Swan Lake Fantasia: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, and Part Four.
  21. Black & White in Briefs: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  22. Weave of Basket, Weave of Rope: Part One and Part Two.

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Weave of Rope…

The current concerning corner of our fairy’s tale finds us located within fields queasily tinted of green – not verdant, fresh, summery green, but a decidedly sickly green, hinting at an acid green – a poisonous tone that comes soaked in forewarning and danger – something ominous, something disturbing, something that portends an irrevocable shift.

Something deadly.

There are faint echoes of a Weimar element at work here, and it makes me wonder: how far are we from that now? How far were we from it twenty years ago? And has this always been who we are? What a dismal, horrifying notion – and yet it’s something I have long suspected. When you’re been called faggot, when you’ve been ridiculed and attacked for how you look, what you wear, or the way you talk, then you tend to be a little suspicious of how intrinsically good people actually might be. 

Horror is already at hand, and it’s not some silly flight of dress-up fancy.

Back in 2005, it seemed safer to play with such images. It felt like we’d never slide into that sort of world.

Now that feels quaint, and somehow both innocent and overly-trusting of our fellow citizens. 

~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~

  1. Pink Frilly Fairy: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three
  2. Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
  3. A Purple-Hued Interlude
  4. Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  5. Purple Puff Confection: Part OnePart Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  6. A Blue-Hued Interlude
  7. Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
  8. Bad Boy Bangs: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  9. Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  10. Sugar Plum Ballerina: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  11. A Pool Frolic: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  12. A Cemetery Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  13. Powder Blue Fur Doll: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  14. A Milky Interlude 
  15. Rock Out, Cock Out/ Hang Out, Wang Out: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  16. Cocktail Cocktale: Part One and Part Two.
  17. A Fairy’s Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  18. Willy Wonkers: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  19. A Peacock In Everything But Beauty: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  20. Swan Lake Fantasia: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, and Part Four.
  21. Black & White in Briefs: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  22. Weave of Basket, Weave of Rope: Part One.

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Weave of Basket…

This is the tale of how people change ~ even foolish, young, vain ones.

He was handsome, he was popular, he was adored,

but always something was missing.

He shirked off the compliments.

They meant nothing. 

He was Awakening.

He looked at the world around him of the first time,

not with any concern about his place in it, but of the world as its own self.

It was heartbreaking to see.

It hurt to look.

But he stared and studied and threw off his shallow vanity.

… no matter how much he was loved …

– From The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~ circa 2005

Reading over these words that I wrote twenty years ago, I am somewhat pleasantly surprised at how prescient and timeless they proved to be, while cringing slightly at the vestiges of vanity and self-importance that still seeped into much of what I did back then. Curiously, that adds an element of paradoxical tension to the moment, and I love a tension that condemns our personality quirks while playing them up at the same time. 

We have reached the sharpest turn of this project, where we have rounded the corner that puts us into a plane that doesn’t allow us to go back to the superficial glamour that informed the earlier entries. You can never go back to before, as some newly-awakened diva once sang in a musical called ‘Ragtime’. Awakening is part of the theme at work here; growing up is the other side of that coin. 

“In a society of complex controls, both crude and refined, secret thoughts can be found in the arts…” ~ Howard Zinn

~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~

  1. Pink Frilly Fairy: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three
  2. Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
  3. A Purple-Hued Interlude
  4. Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  5. Purple Puff Confection: Part OnePart Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  6. A Blue-Hued Interlude
  7. Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
  8. Bad Boy Bangs: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  9. Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.
  10. Sugar Plum Ballerina: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  11. A Pool Frolic: Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  12. A Cemetery Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  13. Powder Blue Fur Doll: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  14. A Milky Interlude 
  15. Rock Out, Cock Out/ Hang Out, Wang Out: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three.
  16. Cocktail Cocktale: Part One and Part Two.
  17. A Fairy’s Interlude: Part One and Part Two.
  18. Willy Wonkers: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  19. A Peacock In Everything But Beauty: Part One, Part Two, and Part Three.
  20. Swan Lake Fantasia: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, and Part Four.
  21. Black & White in Briefs: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.

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The Lamp is Low

Friday night, and the lamp is low, but the music is on, and the evening is young. 

A young evening, wanting and waiting only to unfurl its splendor, whatever form that might take, whatever fun or love we might make – and an especially young point, as the weekend is an extra-long holiday weekend, making Monday into Sunday – and Sunday a glorious bonus.

A dream of a spring evening, on the eve of our unofficial kick-off to the summer season with the Memorial Day festivities – and a dream of a song, fit for a lamp on low. 

Dream beside me in the midnight glow, the lamp Is low
Dream and watch the shadows come and go, the lamp Is low
While you linger in my arms, my lips will sigh “I love you so”
Dream the sweetest dreams you’ll ever know
Tonight the moon is high, the lamp is low

We won’t be launching our official summer theme for a couple of weeks, so seek out last summer’s ‘Coquette’ celebration if you are so inclined. (The archives are a good place to start.)

 

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Social Media Round-Up

Social media is toxic shit these days – I go on about three times a day, and for just a few minutes each time – only to link to whatever blog post is up. The comments are absurd, the news is unconfirmed, and people are just awful. Unfortunately, that seems to be where large swaths of ignorance originates, and I’m not the person to stop it or even care at this point.

Sometimes, however, I’ll give my social media feeds a little extra love – a photo not seen on the blog, a meme I found funny, or some other nonsensical thing. If you’re interested in such random tidbits, follow me and my handles on all the following:

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In and Out of the Foxglove

We begin within the hairy bloom of the foxglove plant, speckled with dark blood-red markings as accentuated by a pale surrounding aura of creamy white. It demands that we peer closer, lean in, and probe more deeply into its mystery and beauty. This is what I so adore about flowers – the tease, the flirtation, the invitation, and the seduction. More happens in the garden than most people realize, and I pity those who miss it because they are no longer thrilled by natural and simple beauty. 

There are stories and fables and fairy tales that gave the foxglove its common name, and sometimes writing them out or explaining them in great detail ruins the magic inherent in a name. We may have lost an appreciation of such nuance, such subtlety, and maybe we need to stop speaking so much to return to that state of gratitude

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A Decade Ago the BroSox Adventures Began…

It was ten years ago that Skip and I were planning our very first Red Sox adventure, not knowing quite how it would go, whether it would be a one-off trip to tick off the bucket list of being a close friend, or maybe turn into something we would want to do again. As history has shown, this became one of summer’s grand traditions, and this year marks a decade since that first fateful trip. We are working on honoring that, as well as simply having another chill adventure next month, because summer means baseball… and a BroSox Adventure. Here’s a look back at our most recent journeys:

BroSox Adventure 2021: Part One and Part Two.

BroSox Adventure 2022

BroSox Adventures 2023

BroSox Adventures 2024: Part One and Part Two.

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Dazzler of the Day: Bella Ramsey

Joining co-star Pedro Pascal in this honor a couple years later, Bella Ramsey earns her first Dazzler of the Day thanks to her ongoing quest on ‘The Last of Us‘. While I’m still not over the dirty they did us in this season’s second episode, Ramsey continues to enthrall and fascinate with her tender and tortured travails, giving her character the kind of nuanced, volatile, and heartachingly visceral ferocity of an atypically typical teenager on an impossible journey. 

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Stars of Green

While I’ve been behind on much of the spring garden maintenance, and the ferns and cup plants and fountain grass have already overtaken the bounds I should have previously delineated, I am ahead of the game on capturing the starburst-like “blooms” of the Chinese dogwood. Usually, I don’t get them until their sepals have turned creamy white, all but demanding to be captured for posterity. The wayward weather of this spring has many of us playing catch-up. 

This is the general state of things I like best – the time before the real show. 

The anticipation, the lead-up, the excitement – and all of it with an idea of perfection just around the corner. 

This is the moment when all of that is possible. 

A moment of green. 

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Oh Hello, Rhody, Old Friend

When we first moved into our current home, a grand rhododendron bush stood in front of our bay window, blocking out much of the light and view for all of the year (except on those exceptionally frigid days when even the evergreen foliage saw fit to curl up and into itself). It was such a large and healthy specimen that we left it there for several years, until it stopped reliably flowering, and I had to make the difficult decision to dig it out. It was the common magenta variety that it everywhere at this time of the year, and in its place went a viburnum, and then the Japanese umbrella pine that is currently being wrangled with rope to keep it upright. The winding journey of a front yard is never completely done. 

Whenever I see a rhododendron in bloom, I remember this bit of our past, and I pause whatever I’m doing to appreciate its prettiness. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Darren Criss

Currently making beautiful music and romantic magic with Helen J. Shen in the refreshingly novel musical ‘Maybe Happy Ending‘, Darren Criss earns a long-overdue Dazzler of the Day honor for a career of musical glory. This marks the first time he has originated a role on Broadway, after astounding audiences in stage roles as varied as ‘Hedwig and the Angry Inch’ and ‘How To Succeed in Business Without Really Trying’. He’s perhaps best known for his role on ‘Glee’ and the subsequent Ryan Murphy series ‘The Assassination of Gianni Versace: American Crime Story’ for which he won seemingly all the awards (Emmy and Golden Globe). For his charmingly robotic role in ‘Maybe Happy Ending’ he has been nominated for a Tony Award. Check out the enchanting show at the Belasco theatre while he’s in it – you won’t be disappointed.

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The Pull of Magnetic Wood: A Fragrance Review

It was on this charming trip to New York last fall that I discovered the gorgeousness that is ‘Magnetic Wood’ by The Harmonist. I wasn’t even on the hunt for a new fragrance when I quite deliberately stepped into Bergdorf Goodman and found my way to their bustling fragrance counter. I was just seeking out confirmation that ‘Promise’ by Frederic Malle would be my holiday cologne, but the salesperson eyed me up and set up The Harmonist – a brand I hadn’t discovered until that moment. He sprayed some on a sample card and waved it in the air before presenting it to me. 

Immediately, I noticed the sweetness of mimosa and the freshness of something like bergamot or citrus, and my initial instinct was to politely back off. It was fall, and I was in the mood for something darker and spicier, and this was not it. I slipped the card into my pocket and went back on the ‘Promise’ prowl. Apparently he was pushing The Harmonist, so he showed me ‘Hypnotizing Fire’ but that wasn’t quite my jam, so I thanked him for his help and made my way back down Fifth Avenue. 

As I did so, I pulled the scented card out of my pocket and tried it again, knowing how perfume changes and evolves and becomes something quite different the longer it wears. I brought it to my nose and it felt like a rush of warm air suddenly broke through the cool fall air of October. ‘Spring’ it whispered, and the bright yellow blooms of mimosa filled my head with their sweetness. My introduction to the scent was from a bouquet that a friend had brought to another friend’s party – I kept smiling something delicious in the air, and circled about until I realized it was coming from the little yellow sprays of mimosa flowers. From that moment on, I loved the scent, even as it bordered on being too sweet for my decidedly drier tastes. 

That said, a little mimosa goes a long way, particularly when one is easy agitated by sweeter florals that border on cloying. The small bottle of Jo Malone’s ‘Mimosa & Cardamom’ I have on hand is almost all entirely still accounted for because I can only take it in small doses on those rare days when I’m feeling uncharacteristically soft and sweet. The card I suddenly couldn’t stop smelling was giving me a different vibe, and my nose was drawn back to it over and over again, haunted by its harmonious combination of the mimosa with something green and woody. At that moment, on some cold concrete corner of New York, I stopped and inhaled ‘Magnetic Wood’, and knew it to be my next spring fragrance.

It opens with those bergamot and green mandarin notes – fresh and crisp in the citrusy way that smells much too fine to last – and then the heart of mimosa and iris opens up into the main attraction. If you enjoy mimosa, this is a gift from the heavens for you. After that, it begins settling down into something with tinges of sandalwood and cedar – just enough to keep the sweetness from becoming sickly. I get a few aquatic waves from this too, which gives it some extra freshness and mellows the sweeter aspects. It’s a precariously fine balance, one which it manages to sustain in part by fading away right before it becomes too smug. Knowing when to pull back is the hat trick of the more challenging perfumes I’ve tried – and the mark of something that’s not going to annoy the wearer, especially in the warmer months. 

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Bring Back The Cheesecake Boys!

Right when the world needs some delectable escapist entertainment and activity, along comes artist Paul Richmond to save the day. Arriving with not one but two books of adult coloring brilliance, Richmond brings back his popular Cheesecake Boys for another round of scintillating and cheeky fun. This time around he expands the original conceit into a second volume, while adding to the body and age positivity that has been a hallmark of his work for years in ‘Cheesecake Daddies’. 

These are darkly dizzying times, and Richmond is a breath of fresh air, optimism, and the fierce ongoing fight for equality and freedom, all done with a sexy veneer of eye candy and colorful inspiration. He invites us to color within the lines, while celebrating those who push the boundaries and challenge hate and homophobia. The artist as healer, the artist as social changer, the artist as a hero and champion for the marginalized – all of it falls within the talented touch of Richmond’s work. Sharing that and inviting engagement is an extra step in his artistic expression, and possibly the most important and profound of what he’s done in his career. It’s what sets him apart from other artists, and informs his work in truly egalitarian form. 

{Check out Richmond’s website here for further evidence of his brilliance.}

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Dazzler of the Day: Helen J. Shen

She provides the desperate impetus that sets the plot of ‘Maybe Happy Ending’ into gloriously romantic motion, bringing Darren Criss’s Oliver to life in a way no robot thought possible. She is Helen J. Shen, currently starring in the rapturous new musical ‘Maybe Happy Ending’ currently playing at the Belasco Theatre. Thanks to her winning turn, Shen earns her first Dazzler of the Day crowning for a stunning Broadway debut. It’s a performance that wins over the loudest laughs of the show, and some of the most moving moments as well, all as her battery is slowly draining away. She embodies the survival of the human spirit, and the insanely insatiable search for love in all of its absurd poignance.

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