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A Glorious and Gorgeous ‘Gypsy’

How do you make a tyrant who manages to be both loathsome and lovable? That’s the hat trick at the heart of ‘Gypsy, A Musical Fable’ – perhaps one of the greatest pieces of musical theater ever written. This flawless fable of show-business that doubles as a dark treatise on family, fame, and ambition is currently playing at the Capital Repertory Theatre in downtown Albany, NY. With its triple pedigree (book by Arthur Laurents, music by Jules Styne, and lyrics by Stephen Sondheim) the musical suffers no lack of creative expertise, but it requires certain key players to make it soar. Luckily, the cast assembled at Capital Rep manages to do just that.

Mama Rose, a role written specifically for and originated by the incomparable Ethel Merman, has long been considered the MacBeth of musical theater. At turns seductive and menacing, heartbreaking and heart-stopping, the role is one of the most demanding, requiring an almost-scientific straddling of the razor-sharp line between love and hate. Rose must both seduce and slay the audience, and Mary Callanan is more than up to the task. Comical and cutting, diabolical and devious, vivacious with just the slightest whiff of vulnerability, Callanan cajoles then crushes her way through an evening that explodes with vocal pyrotechnics.

Any production of ‘Gypsy’ worth its weight in egg rolls depends not only on the showy performance of Mama Rose, but also on that of her daughter, Louise, who eventually becomes the title character. As Rose, Ms. Callanan dominates, but it’s Kelsey Crouch as Louise who exemplifies the greatest character development, revealing the heart of the show as it grows from something possibly tender, to something both icy and gorgeous. Crouch offers an initially meek but ultimately formidable foil to her mother (the stage-mother of all stage-mothers) and her second act transformation is simultaneously touching and terrifying. The plaintive and final plea she makes for her Mama before the stripping begins is gut-wrenching, but she never looks back, and the arc that the actress has masterfully crafted from her first moments on stage finds rich payoff in the final scenes.

Such a substantial evening of musical theater could not be so stunningly successful without a stellar supporting cast  – particularly Bob Walton as Herbie, Cara O’Brien as the Younger Louise, and Emily Louise Parker as June. Each, in their own way, serve to ground Rose’s outlandish ego and insatiable drive with humanity and touches of comedic gold. For the former, Walton evinces palpable affection in his efforts to stop or at least slow the maniacal train Rose seems hell-bent on leading full steam ahead, and for the latter a trio of strippers hilariously sleaze up the joint (including local audience favorite Benita Zahn) in the show-stopping ‘You Gotta Have A Gimmick’.

In the end, though, this is Rose’s show, and in the sizzling bring-the-house-down ‘Rose’s Turn’ Callanan lets loose with the true talent she rightfully says is now missing from the fading days of vaudeville acts. This final number begins as a grotesque act of desperation, turns into an almost-quaintly-sad realization, and ultimately burns out in a blaze of majestic pathos.

‘Gypsy’ offers little in the form of redemption, just the slightest glimmer of forgiveness, and possibly even less hope in the increasingly dark world where the innocence of vaudeville takes its last dying breath. But its soul, its white-hot showbiz pizzazz, sparkles enough to mask that pain, shining with such talent, musical might, and star power that it forges its own light.

 

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A Little Bit of ‘Mingle’ to Make the Taste Buds Tingle

On a still-frigid late winter’s night, one of the best ways to heat up is to find a good place for spicy food, and warm the body from the inside out. To that end, there was no better establishment to spend last night than at Mingle, a relatively new restaurant on Delaware Avenue. Andy and I finally got around to trying it, and as the sun went down and the outside temperature followed suit, we kept our hearts warm with the heat on hand at this Korean-influenced hot-spot. Here’s my TripAdvisor take on it:

Thanks to bookends Mingle and New World Bistro, Delaware Avenue now offers the hottest food (literally) in town. The spice index at Mingle may rival the renowned heat down the street at New World Bistro, thanks in large part to its authentic Korean influence, where hearty accents of kimchi accompany a number of dishes (on the evening I dined one of the specials was a side dish of kimchi fries.) Don’t be scared away by that, though, as there are more mellow offerings that are just as stimulating. A Five-Cheese Mac and Cheese (available with the five cheeses, or in versions featuring lobster, or chicken and spinach and marinara, or kimchi and pork belly) is one of those decadent alternatives, as is a Broiled Salmon with Cherry-Riesling reduction. A Chicken and Shrimp Cacciatore sounds like it lies on that mild but still flavorful side, while some spicy in-between options are the Chicken and Chorizo Creole, and the Mediterranean Paella – both of which utilize smoked chorizo sausage for their heat.

It’s the Korean influence that makes this restaurant a unique, stand-out spot, thanks to the magic of Chef Un-Hui Filomeno, who’s been imparting this sort of culinary magic to the Capital District for two decades. The Korean Tacos here – part of the lighter fare or appetizer portion of the menu – are a ravishing way to begin. A soft but sturdy corn tortilla is filled with your choice of beef or chicken that has been marinated and cooked in sesame oil and soy, tossed in gochujang and stuffed with apple-radish kimchi, Napa cabbage, scallions and a spicy yogurt sauce. The end result has a bite tempered with the perfect amount of tang to leave the tongue tingling and wanting for more.

Continuing my heat-seeking trajectory, I ordered the Korean Style Bulgokee (beef marinated in sesame oil and soy then broiled, served with sticky rice, house-made kimchi, gochujang and red leaf lettuce for wrapping.) The beef was perfectly cooked – tender and substantial of texture, rich and redolent of flavor and aroma – and proportioned amply enough to provide meat for every ruffled lettuce leaf (and even a bit more.) Additional home-style Korean fare includes Bibimbap, Chap Chae, Kimchi Jigae, and Ojingo Bokkum.

As mentioned, there are more-muted offerings on hand for the less adventurous taste-buds – a delectable-sounding Filet A Poivre, a Pan-seared Duck Breast with a Port Raisin sauce, a traditional Meatloaf, and a Pork Schnitzel – each served with a side of heat in the kimchi mashed potatoes. All of the entrees that were coming out of the kitchen looked significant of size, and the sizable lighter fare menu offers excellent choices for those desiring a little less – including an Asian burger (with cucumber kimchi), Pan fried Yakimandu (chicken dumplings with ricotta cheese, soy bean sprouts, scallions, and napa cabbage), and a pair of flatbread pizzas. In other words, there’s something for everyone.

Aptly named for its convivial atmosphere, Mingle offers exceptional food in a jovial setting: at the time I arrived a couple of strangers were becoming fast friends at the bar, and the tables were enjoying friendly exchanges with the staff. Good food and drink always seem to inspire an easy camaraderie, and a restaurant running on all happy cylinders seems to inspire such joy in its patrons. This is one of those places that has so many unique and varied dishes that you will need to go back over and over and over – and I’m not at all sorry that it is so.

Mingle is located at 544 Delaware Avenue and is open Tuesday through Saturday. Check out their website for exact hours, and some amazing menus.

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Vanity Forever

How could I not love an establishment whose slogan is ‘Vanity Forever’? GioExpressions is a Private Spa owned and run by Gio Falciano, offering a full line of services for both women and men. While there are a number of spas in the area that focus on the ladies, GioExpressions has found a niche among the gentlemen (while still providing a wide array of treatments for all genders). Single-handedly overseeing the operation, Mr. Falciano displays a drive and focused determination belying his young age, and the schooling and professionalism to back it up. He takes some well-earned pride in that:

“Two years ago when I was eighteen graduating high school all I really wanted to do was be a makeup artist, after being known as a makeup artist for photo shoots and branding myself in freelance modeling, I went to school to go into aesthetics and essentially was going to just be a professional makeup artist who would also practice aesthetics. But after being invited to share a building with “Jackson’s Barber Shop” based off my talents I felt I needed to open my own company. I guess the thing that I really do respect about myself is I didn’t have parents that bought my way to opening a business; I worked very hard from scratch to grow my day spa. It’s very hard for me to believe that I’m one of the youngest day spa entrepreneurs in my field of study.”

His services include facials, body scrubs, enzyme and chemical peels, microdermabrasion resurfacing, hard and soft waxing, light therapy and spray tanning. As his only staff member, Falciano can offer the personal attention and one-on-one care that make an experience tailor-made and individually-pertinent, offering an intimacy not afforded by larger cookie-cutter spas. His grass-roots endeavor is growing by word-of-mouth and social media, with glowing testimonials from satisfied clients and returning customers.

“My entire life I have always been obsessed with beauty, science, and perfection,” Falciano explains. “I feel very happy to know I can fix problems instead of masking them for both skin care and makeup. It feels good to know people have so much faith in me based off how highly I take care of myself. I guess my passion of learning to love and respect myself has helped me to project self love to people through being able to take care of yourself and feel good about your appearance, I guess that’s why “vanity forever” is a quote that is on my company logo. But also I think me being knowledgeable on a science and medical level increased my passion dramatically.”

As for his largely male clientele base, Falciano considers it part of the evolution of his business. According to him, “When I opened my spa I thought I might get a few men because my building is shared with a barber shop. But after so many men discovered me, I guess they felt comfort in my spa based off it being personal sized and having only one professional who would constantly work on them. I guess in a nutshell I feel men overall are threatened or uncomfortable when they walk in a typical day spa with tons of aestheticians, woman, products and a big atmosphere that is generally always center focused for females. Out of all my clients 90% of them are men which is not really known by any other day spa in the upstate New York area.”

If his current growing success is any indication, Falciano appears poised on the brink of meeting even greater career goals, even if he feels he’s only just begun: “Well, honestly, after just turning twenty last week, I’m not satisfied with myself at all! I tend to be very multifaceted with what I want to do that I don’t want to ever hold back on living life to the fullest.” To that end he’s working on expanding his business with a new line of shirts, a larger piece of property, and possibly a second company coming in the next year.

 GioExpressions Private Spa is located at 113 Everett Road, Albany, NY. 

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The Heart of an Artist, And A Friend

He was, at first, the friendly guy who worked at the Dunkin Donuts in downtown Albany. Known to many of us downtown workers, he was perhaps best-recognized for his boisterous and infectious laugh – a bright, booming, glorious laugh – often accompanied by a slight throw-back of his head. It was one of those laughs that could veer from an insinuating chuckle to a full-blown guffaw, transforming into a lilting, musical peel or a gentle re-assuring cadence of bonhomie and grace. As a lonely worker in a new job, I found solace in that laugh, even if I didn’t frequent Dunkin Donuts on a regular basis.

I didn’t know who that mirthful creature was until a couple of years later, when I walked up the stairs to the Romaine Brooks Gallery of the Capital Pride Center, just off of Lark Street, and he stood there towering over all of us with a box of doughnuts, and a magnificent painting he had done of his work-place. This was the artist Kevin Bruce. Freed from behind the doughnut counter, he was even more grand than the larger-than-life person I had only watched from afar.

This was Mr. Bruce in his element – out and about at a gallery, hosting a solo exhibition of his paintings, and putting on a show as only he could. The box of colorfully-frosted doughnuts echoed the painting of people from the doughnut shop. It was quintessential Kevin Bruce – eye-popping and saturated with color and movement, shot through with humor, wit, and whimsy, and brimming with life, love, and a respectful nod toward community. Looking at that painting, one felt a little better about the world. Happier. Giddier. And more hopeful.

It was indicative of much of his work. Some artists have the enviable ability to perfectly translate their own exuberance for life into their work. You can tell instantly who did it, because it speaks in such a unique voice it could come from no one else. In Kevin’s case it comes across as a gregarious passion for the human condition. While there is humor and camp in much of his work, there are other elements as well. A sense of cunning and playfulness balances an edge of sexy naughtiness. More contemplative pieces feature somber pathos or the exploration of simpler, quieter moments. His body of work runs the gamut from laugh-out-loud hilarious to tear-inducing, thought-provoking reflection. It was this latter aspect that informed the piece I purchased a couple of years ago, seen here.

At the time, I was managing the Romaine Brooks Gallery, and wanted Kevin to do another solo show. He mentioned he’d be interested, and soon set about to cultivating a collection for which he’d recently been inspired. It would have a sexy harlequin theme – artistically fertile ground and perfectly suited to his style. It was as fantastic as most of us expected – a gorgeously-executed exhibition that expounded upon a familiar theme, yet turned it gleefully on its head a number of times. A few of the pieces were created in honor of those gallery managers who had come before me (of which Mr. Bruce was one of the first.) He managed to work our names into those pieces in whimsical ways, fitting into the harlequin theme of the show. On mine, a stack of blocks spelled out my last name, while a small jester sat on a pile of books. The figure is pensive and solitary, looking off to the side. Below, a ball emblazoned with a striking yellow star steals most of the focus. It is a bright spot in a dimmer, brick-backed microcosm, and marked the first piece of Mr. Bruce’s that I purchased.

I finally found the perfect space for it in the Boston condo last week. I’m guessing I’m not the first person to have Kevin Bruce in my bedroom, but I may just be the most excited.

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Showdown at Starbucks

The first thing I heard was a man yelling on his cel phone. In a raspy, gravelly voice that boomed through the lobby, he slurred words of love and anger to whomever was on the other end. The second thing I noticed was the rancid scent of stale beer, which I then saw originated in a garbage bag spilling forth beer cans and bottles, and a puddle of beer wherever he set it down. (This isn’t one of the cool Seattle Starbucks that serves beer, and being that it doubled as the lobby to a bank and a law firm, beer is not something that is usually on hand.) I sighed and went back to my book, trying vainly to block the obnoxious conversation out of my brief lunch break. [This wasn’t my first incident at the downtown Albany location, nor is it likely to be my last.]

The phone call completed, the man stood, a bit wobbly, and proceeded to go around asking people for money, saying he got his GED and was not going to do cocaine anymore or steal anything. He tapped every patron on the shoulder, leaned in to them with the warning, “Don’t be afraid,” and asked brazenly for change. Shifting my shoes before he dripped beer on them, I shook my head and said I didn’t have anything. He moved on to the next person.

A few seats down, the “security guard” for the bank sat at a table having a conversation with a parking meter attendant – or, as I like to call them, the two most useless people on the planet. As the beer man continued pestering people, I went up and asked if the guy dressed like a security guard, with the security emblem on his shoulder, was, in fact, some sort of, like, security. He said yes hesitantly, and I asked if he might be able to do something about this guy spilling beer everywhere and begging for money. After a meek attempt at asking the guy to leave people alone, he went and sat back down. Ten minutes and more harassment later, the security guy asked me if the other guy had left. Based on the yelling that was still going on I said no, he was still there. Mr. Security then loudly told his conversation partner that he only worked for the bank and Starbucks was responsible for their side. He also went on to say that if someone was robbing the bank, he wouldn’t try to stop that either. Mainly, in his words, he was there to sit and be a presence. A big, useless presence. (Attention would-be-robbers: have I got a job for you!)

Finally, after the beer guy approached a table of two young women and asked for money, one of the Starbucks baristas – a female (because the three hulking males working there proved as hapless as the security guard) told the drunk guy he couldn’t do that and asked him to leave. Instead of going on his merry way, he said the following, which I happened to get on video because I knew he would not go quietly or without a fight. It’s the final part of their exchange, word for upsetting word:

Beer Guy: I’m asking everybody. I ain’t stealing, I ain’t robbing nobody no more.

Barista Girl: Sorry sir, you can’t do that in here.

Beer Guy: I do what I want in here. Get your fat ass back there.

Barista Girl: All right, that’s nice. Get to stepping.

Beer Guy: Who the fuck is you? I only like white girls.

Barista Girl: Get out. Get out. Go ahead.

Beer Guy: Treat me like I’m white, bitch! Get on your knees!

Barista Girl: Go. Get out. I’m going to call the police.

At that point he left. And the rest of us sat there, quietly stunned. Near the end, the security guard shows up on the video, tentatively approaching the scene, watching but not doing a thing. As race played a rather ugly part at the end of the confrontation, I will disclose that both parties involved were African-American. (The useless security person was white.)

I can’t say I was much more than useless myself, too scared to confront the guy myself (and two feet shorter than him too.)

There’s no happy ending to this post, only the uncomfortable words hanging in the air, and the memory of it all lingering in a disturbingly stubborn way. Even when not directly involved in incidents like that, I’m left feeling icky. Disappointed in humans ~ haunted by all our demons.

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Is This The Trashiest Thing I’ve Ever Worn?

In public, perhaps. In private, far from it. Yet for all the nudity I post here, in person and in public I’m usually rather demure, or at the very least fully-clothed. This was the most exposed I’ve ever been, but for an event like The Gay Soiree, where gender-bending and over-the-top decadence were the order of the evening, I felt the need to step-up and represent. Hence the fishnets and the lace, the corset and the guy-liner, and, of course, the butt-for-lace glimpse of my derriere.

While not the most ideal ensemble for a chilly night in February, it was fun as hell (if a little tight – that corset is over ten years old, and unlike my waist it has not expanded over time). And the stockings? They don’t stay up without garters, which, hard to believe, I did not have on hand. No matter, the motion of having to constantly pull them up all night added to the sleazy look.

Accompanied by my friend Josie (who donned a wig, and that amazing coat from my own private collection – later given to her because she looked so much better in it than me), we made a somewhat amusing scene to Andy, who’s used to such shenanigans.

By the way, while I’ve always appreciated women, and what society demands of them, I have even more empathy now. Having seen the cost of eyeliner ($10 for a pencil? I can get two hundred #2’s for that!) having felt the tight tug of a corset (there’s a bugle bead still embedded in my back, I just know it) and having wobbled around in high heels (there’s a bloody toe somewhere in one of those shoes) my hat (clipped torturously into my hair) goes off to the ladies, and anyone who has the balls to dress like a lady. That takes a lot of work, a lot of time, and a lot of money. Here’s to the ladies!

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A Night to Remember in Albany

Red spotlights lit the sky-high columns of The State Room, while candles glowed intimately among the cozy vermilion-accented tables. A bar in the corner served wine and cocktails, while sharply decked-out servers whirled hot appetizers ranging from Beef Wellington to bacon-wrapped scallops around the space. A virgin bar for the non-boozers among us (of which I counted myself last night) was located in another corner, offering several scintillating concoctions, including the ‘Mommie Dearest’ (served with a wielding of a wire hanger – for real!) It was The Gay Soirée, and I was sitting and watching it all unfold with my friend JoAnn who drove in from Cape Cod to be part of the spectacle.

As the guests arrived, in one fabulous outfit after another, the room filled with a collection of Albany’s finest in their most fashionable get-ups. After seeing such a wonderful and diverse group of people enjoying themselves on the dance floor, JoAnn remarked that the night gave her hope. It was such a simple statement, but so powerful, and an indication that the evening was accomplishing much more than a presentation of pretty people.

As Honorary Chair of this party, I didn’t do much other than lend my name and some FaceBook and website promotion to the event, so I want to thank all the people who did most of the work that resulted in such a fabulous party. First and foremost is everyone at the Capital Pride Center – especially Executive Director Curran Streett and Deputy Director Michael Weidrich, as well as the burgeoning staff of that great organization. As the oldest continually-operating Pride Center in the country, they have a legacy that they continue to nurture and embolden, and this event was further proof that they are at the top of their game.

Next, thanks to the amazing musical performers of the evening. Sonny and Perley opened the night with their cabaret act of romantic standards, sultry torch songs, and velvety smooth vocal performances that warmed the winter night. It was followed by the bass-pumping mastery of DJ Robb Penders, who set the dance floor on fire with an evolving mix of music that ran from classic tracks (‘Lady Marmalade’) to the most recent crowd-pleasing hits (‘Get Lucky’). He and his dancing dynamo of a husband Jason (who showed off moves I never dreamed existed) kept the evening on a high-octane shuffle.

Finally, my most important bit of thanks goes to everyone who came out and made the evening what it was. I can’t list everyone, but it’s you who made this matter. I loved seeing friends from FaceBook and real life collide and meet – and it was wonderful meeting and talking to some of my favorite people – Jeze Bel, Gloria, Peter, Ken, Lauren, Gene & Jeff, Rosy, Curran and Corbin, David, Scott, Pilar, Jim, Rick, Janet, Jim, Michael, Eric, Joe, Steven, Vinny, and Ulysses.

Let’s do it all again next year.

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Tonight’s the Night…

Hopefully I’ll be seeing you (and you and you) at The Gay Soirée this evening. I’ll be in something lacy and frilly as befits the gender-bending atmosphere, and if we’re lucky we’ll heat things up so the cold air won’t make a dip in our nip. From its 1930’s cabaret setting to its high-fashon gender-bending ambience, this looks to be a spectacular evening of entertainment, enchantment, and divine decadence. Please join me for all the fabulous fun at the hottest event of the winter season!

WHAT: The Gay Soirée

WHEN: Tonight, Saturday, February 8, 2014 – 7 PM (with VIP Reception at 6 PM)

WHERE: 142 State Street, Albany, NY

DRESS CODE: Funky-formal, but all are welcome and anything goes.

VIP Tickets are available for an additional cost and include a VIP Wine Reception from 6 to 7 PM. 

All ticket proceeds go directly to the Capital Pride Center.

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One Week Away from The Gay Soirée

The hottest event of the winter social scene is just one week from tonight ~ The Gay Soirée. Just in time to stave off the chill and heat up a Saturday evening, it will be a gathering of the most fabulous, most fashionable, most fun, and most gender-bending folks that this city has seen in some time. Everyone is welcome (the ‘Gay’ in the title is a throw-back to its original ‘happy’ definition – as in the ‘Gay Twenties’) and that always makes for the most exciting kind of party.

Funky-formal is the suggested dress code, but anything with a bit of fancy flair will fly. (Personally, I’m injecting a bit of black lace into my ensemble. The Honorary Chair has to do something special, and this time it’s lace. You’ll have to attend to see where it’s incorporated, but you know I like to be cheeky.)

So don your daring bootylicious best, dust off your tux or your fanciest dress, and prepare for an evening of exquisite enchantment to chase the winter blues away. Also, be sure to order your tickets early, as door tickets will come at a higher cost.

The Gay Soirée

Saturday, February 8, 2014 ~ 7 PM

142 State Street, Albany, NY

Advance tickets are available here.

VIP Tickets are available for an additional cost and include a VIP Wine Reception from 6 to 7 PM. 

 

All ticket proceeds go directly to the Capital Pride Center.

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The Gay Soirée: Fashionable Indulgence

In the barren stretch of this drab winter, everyone needs a beacon of sparkling hope to see us through. For me, that’s going to be The Gay Soirée – and you are cordially invited to join me. In keeping with the glamorous nature of the evening, I’ve been working on an outfit that is designed to be both funky and fabulous, with a racy juxtaposition of masculine and feminine to go with the gender-bending bohemian acceptance of the night. Drag queens and drag kings will bump padded shoulders with the most fashionable style harbingers of Albany (and beyond).

When dressing for a party as spectacular as this upcoming one, it’s important to plan your wardrobe in advance. It gives you time for tailoring, time for accessorizing, and time for taking test photographs. There’s nothing worse than realizing your nipples (or your junk) can be seen in the harsh light of a camera flash. Though for this event, that may not be a bad thing. (Also, if you get your tickets in advance of this event, you can save $20 on each. In other ways, it pays, literally, to plan ahead.)

For an event like The Gay Soirée, over-the-top excess is expected, and the more glamorous and flamboyant, the better. This is not an evening to blend in. This is a chance to show off – and I intend to do just that. In other words, get your tickets now.

{ The Gay Soirée will take place on Saturday, February 8, 2014 at The State House located at 142 State Street. VIP Tickets are available for $75, which includes a VIP reception hour with a wine bar; Regular tickets are available now for $45. If tickets remain, they will be available the night of the event for $65. All proceeds go directly to the Capital Pride Center.}

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Come Join The Party!

After a day of posts celebrating those who defy the norm, the brave and courageous folks who march to the beat of their own drummer, who dare to be different – damn the restraints of society! – it seems a fitting time to remind you that you’re most cordially invited to the hottest (and sexiest) party event of the winter season ~ The Gay Soirée. On Saturday, February 8, 2014, the most fabulous folks of the Capital Region (and a few guests from afar) will come together at The State Room for a night of funky formal fashion, gender-bending, general merriment and gleeful abandon as we celebrate in high style.

Get your tickets early before they’re all gone, and get going on your outfit for the event, because it’s going to be a memorable evening of fashionable funkiness, and other outrageous wonders. In fact, I’ve been working on my outfit for that night, and it’s going to be a floozy, I mean doozy. Well, perhaps a bit of both, and it must be seen to be believed. They always do…

Keep in mind, this is not only going to be a great party, but it’s for the Capital Pride Center, so your ticket cost will not just be buying you a fantastic time, it will be helping others to get the programs and services they need. So mark your calendar and join me for a night to remember!

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The Gay Soirée: An Invitation

It will be, quite simply, the hottest social event of the winter season, and you are cordially invited to attend.

Decadent, delightful, and nothing-short-of-divine, prepare for an evening of wild fashion, beautifully-blurred gender, and over-the-top eros – where everyone is welcome and no one is alone. As Norma Desmond once proclaimed over flaming red satin, “Let’s make it gay!” And so we shall… This will be The Gay Soirée.

One month from tonight ~ Saturday, February 8, 2014 ~ at a fabulous venue – The State Room – located at 142 State Street, Albany, NY ~ from 7 to 10 PM, we will return to the deliciously debauched world of the 1930’s, when cabarets spilled over with beautiful bohemians, sexy clientele, and to-die-for fashion. The music was hot, the cocktails were cool, and the guests were glitteringly gay (in any sense of the word).

That same magic will be conjured for The Gay Soirée. Ambiance and atmosphere provided by 1930’s cabaret music from Sonny & Perley, with dance music by DJ Robb Penders. Tickets may be purchased at www.capitalpridecenter.org or by calling 518-462-6138, and are $45 in advance, or $65 on the night of the event. There are also VIP tickets available at $75 which includes a 6 PM VIP Reception (during which complimentary wine will be on hand). All proceeds go directly to The Pride Center of the Capital Region, so you can feel good about feeling good.

Even if I wasn’t the Honorary Chair for this event, this is a party I would most certainly attend. (Since I am, you should see what I’m going to wear.) Get your tickets early so you don’t miss out!

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Caffeine & Forgiveness

A few months ago, you may recall this tiny fiasco at Starbucks, when I was unceremoniously booted from the premises on the one day I had not purchased a Starbucks product. (Not a stand-alone store, I reiterate, but a kiosk in the public lobby of a building not owned by Starbucks). My post must have been seen by someone at Starbucks, because I received a few free drink coupons and several profuse apologies for the way I was treated soon thereafter. I was also contacted by the Regional Manager who asked for details on the visit, which I gladly provided.

A genuine apology goes a long way with me, and I’d forgiven Starbucks for the foible, but I stayed away from their stores all summer because the friendly nature the company has always gone out of its way to cultivate had been dispelled – most likely by an isolated downtown Albany employee, but dispelled nonetheless. I held onto the drink certificates until this week, when I ventured into the same Starbucks.

On my first trip back, there were two new baristas working. I ordered an expensive salted caramel mocha (hey, I’m not going to waste a coupon on a plain coffee) and sat down right near where I had been asked to leave a few months earlier. I finished my drink and left, unbothered.

The next day I returned, and the employee who had been next to me when I was told to leave took my order. She called me by name (I hadn’t thought she’d known my name) and apologized for what had happened last time. I thanked her for that, and said it was fine. (Usually when I say something is fine, it is decidedly anything but fine, but this time I meant it.)

Forgiveness doesn’t come easy for me, but over the last few years I’ve gotten better at it. This trivial matter may be further proof of that. (And proof of the power of the written word. Don’t ever be silent if you’re treated unfairly. Yes, a sizable social media presence can help, but even without that you can write to company executives, regional managers, and everyone all the way up to the CEO. That’s the beauty of living in this country. Make the most of it.)

As for Starbucks, it’s always been an admirable company and has consistently done good things with its money and power. The fact that several people reached out to me to discuss what happened and worked to rectify it are indicative that the company does in fact care. Because of that, I feel good about patronizing their business again. (A gift card and the return of holiday drink offerings helps too.)

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A Message to the Stranger at Stagecoach

I was sitting at Stagecoach Coffee eating a macaroon and wearing purple pants but feeling decidedly less than fabulous, when she walked into the place, looked me up and down and said simply: “You’re fantastic. You’re just fantastic.”

I crinkled my brow in amused wonderment, and asked why.

“The pants. The shoes. The whole outfit.”

I didn’t have the power to muster anything beyond a smile and a heartfelt, ‘Thank you.’ But I’d like to say a little more to her here:

You couldn’t know how such a simple statement would move me so much, but I wanted to express that you were a bright spot in my otherwise-drab day. You couldn’t have known that when I walked into work that morning, I passed two people smoking outside the building, and as I strode by in my purple pants and orange coat I heard one of them whisper, under her breath, “Oh boy.” It wasn’t a good “Oh boy”, it was an “Oh God, what on earth is that?” kind of comment. I almost – almost – stopped to address the two of them, but I didn’t. At this point in my life I’m not unaccustomed to whispering, but some days I’m not up for it. Some days I’m too tired to stage a come-back.

And then you walked in and said what you said. Unprompted, out-of-the-blue, and to a complete stranger. You almost made me cry – it had been that bad of a day – and you turned it around for that moment. It was probably just another flippant compliment that you didn’t even think much about, but it meant the world to me. Not that you were impressed by my clothing, but that you so openly gave that little gift, as I imagine you give to others without a second thought.

Thank you for doing that.

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Helping Out Friends In Need: Albany Damien Center

One of the more noble organizations in the area, the Albany Damien Center, experienced a devastating fire last week, destroying the building which had previously provided life-saving services for a number of individuals living with HIV/AIDS. These are just a few of the things that the Albany Damien Center has done in the last year alone:

• Provided over 22,000 meals combined with nutritional health education.

• Facilitated support and access to care for 421 people and an additional 1,000 family members with over 6,700 visits to our drop-in living room setting open 5 days a week.

• Helped 172 pets and 104 pet owners with in-home care, 12,800 pounds of pet food, and veterinarian assistance from PAWS.

• Gave over 1,800 household items from the Treasure Chest to members in need.

• Provided prevention education sessions to over 1,203 people and distributed 17,000 condoms.

• Began helping people return to work and school while ensuring they are stably housed through the launch of our new Foundations for Living Program.

Without a base of operation and without immediate assistance, many of these programs and services will be severely compromised. It’s difficult enough to maintain an organization like this with the dwindling support of the government’s financial aid – something like this fire could be enough to effectively end the good work they are doing. Luckily, the support of the Albany community, and the center’s own volunteers and workers, particularly the unfailing spirit of Executive Director Perry Junjulas, are making sure that this admirable work continues.

There are a number of ways to help this organization get back on its feet. The easiest and most direct way is to donate through their 2013 Annual Fund, now more important than ever, at this link: http://www.firstgiving.com/fundraiser/perry-junjulas/albanydamiencenter2013annualfund

On September 8, 2013 at 5 PM there is a benefit drag show at Rocks at 77 Central Ave. hosted by two of the best in the business, Duchess Ivanna and Penny Larceny. A whole gaggle of illusionists are showing up in support of this event, and it looks to be a fantastic show.

On October 11, 2013, A Fashion Show and Art Auction will take place at 11 North Pearl Street in Downtown Albany to benefit the Damien Center, featuring fashion, food, and drinks, complete with a red carpet.

On October 12, 2013, Valentine’s will be putting on a benefit show for the Damien Center featuring some great bands, with doors opening at 6 PM.

If you can contribute anything to help the Albany Damien Center at this time, it would be greatly appreciated, and badly needed. As much as I sometimes slag off Albany, I know that our community always comes together to help each other out – especially for a place that has so selflessly done so much for other people.

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