A Sugar Plum Ballerina

‘The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale’ picks up where it left off – in flights of fancy and fantasy, all pink tulle and voluminous tutu and feathers in one’s hair. This sugar plum ballerina moment is silly and ripe for ridicule, but I learned a valuable lesson from all of it: tights and a tutu do not keep a package warm in the winter. We have reached the point where things may not be all sugary fluff and fun, but it’s not entirely clear yet, so we keep dancing, refusing to look over our shoulders at whatever menace may be lurking. 

If you want something more profound, may you find it in the words below of those far more talented than me. 

“To dance is to be out of yourself. Larger, more beautiful, more powerful. This is power, it is glory on earth and it is yours for the taking.” ~ Agnes De Mille

“A dancer, more than any other human being, dies two deaths: the first, the physical when the powerfully trained body will no longer respond as you would wish. After all, I choreographed for myself. I never choreographed what I could not do. I changed steps in Medea and other ballets to accommodate the change. But I knew. And it haunted me. I only wanted to dance.” ~Martha Graham

“The one important thing I have learned over the years is the difference between taking one’s work seriously and taking oneself seriously. The first is imperative and the second disastrous.” ~ Dame Margot Fonteyn

“Fine dancing, I believe like virtue, must be its own reward. Those who are standing by are usually thinking of something very different.” ~ Jane Austen

“Dance can reveal everything mysterious that is hidden in music, and it has the additional merit of being human and palpable. Dancing is poetry with arms and legs. It is matter, graceful and terrible, animated and embellished by movement.” ~ Charles Baudelaire

“Think of the magic of the foot, comparatively small, upon which your whole weight rests. It’s a miracle, and the dance…..is a celebration of that miracle.” ~ Martha Graham

“If I could tell you what it meant, there would be no point in dancing it.” ~ Isadora Duncan

“So many dancers feel that what they look like is more important than who they are. This is a real danger for dancers who focus for years on appearances and think of themselves as merely a body. The choreographer can’t work with them in the realm of ideas. It’s a huge problem if they haven’t been connecting internally. If they’ve decided that what’s inside is of little value, they can only try to approximate some kind of look. ” ~ Alonzo King

“Dance is for everybody. I believe that the dance came from the people and that it should always be delivered back to the people.” ~ Alvin Ailey

~ The Divine Diva Tour: A Fairy’s Tale ~

  1. Pink Frilly Fairy: Part OnePart Two, and Part Three
  2. Homage to Herb: Part One, Part Two and Part Three
  3. A Purple-Hued Interlude
  4. Style & Panache: Part One, Part Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  5. Purple Puff Confection: Part OnePart Two, Part Three and Part Four.
  6. A Blue-Hued Interlude
  7. Fuchsia Fabulousness: Part One. Part Two and Part Three.
  8. Bad Boy Bangs – Part OnePart Two. and Part Three.
  9. Vanity Under Where: Part One, Part Two. and Part Three.

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

Sometimes when I’m washing windows I hear the voice of R2-D2 in the squeaking of the glass. 

I’d like you to sit with me in the discomfort of all that I have just revealed to you

#TinyThreads

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A Pose that’s Lasted for 35 Years

From the moment she demanded us to “Strike a pose!” I have been enthralled and recaptured by Madonna’s song ‘Vogue’. Released thirty five years ago (sweet baby Jesus how old does that put us?!) it remains an epochal and iconic song that has stood the test of time, surviving and thriving in the various iterations Madonna has performed on tours and halftime shows. For me, and for many gay men of a certain age, it has always meant a little bit more than meets the superficial eye

Thirty-five years ago I was a freshman in high school. In our small town in upstate New York, the closest I could get to any sort of gay culture or lifestyle was Madonna, and ‘Vogue’ offered a glimpse of a world in which I sensed I might belong – a world of beauty, glamour, freedom, and dance-floor abandon. At a time when the AIDS epidemic raged and eradicated great swaths of the gay community, this was a space and a place to get away, even if the fabulousness and fantasy existed solely in our minds. Sometimes that had to be enough to get us through. 

A great pop song won’t ever save the world, but once in a while one comes along to save a moment and even a life

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Life Could Be A Bunny Dream

Our theme for the season is Spring Dream. It goes perfectly with this dreamy doo-wop bop that sees us into the first evening of spring. Greeting the green season is this fluffy bunny doing double-time and preparing the way to Easter. The world awakens with life and possibility. 

Life could be a dreamLife could be a dreamDo do do do, sh-boom!

Life could be a dream (sh-boom)If I could take you up in Paradise up above (sh-boom)If you would tell me, I’m the only one that you loveLife could be a dream, sweetheartHello, hello again, sh-boom and hopin’ we’ll meet again, boom (ba-boom)
Life could be a dream (sh-boom)If only all my precious plans would come true (sh-boom)If you would let me spend my whole life lovin’ youLife could be a dream, sweetheart (do do do do, sh-boom)
Every time I look at youSomething is on my mindIf you do what I want you toBaby, we’d be so fine
Oh, life could be a dream, sh-boomIf I could take you up in Paradise up above, sh-boomYou’d tell me, darlin’, I’m the only one that you loveLife could be a dream, sweetheartHello, hello again, sh-boom and hopin’ we’ll meet again, boom (ba-boom)

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Dream A Little Spring Dream

Every winter Andy and I wait for the bedroom lamp on his side of the bed to throw its rainbows against the wall, as it signals that spring is almost at hand. We’ve been watching these rainbows grow in strength and saturation the past couple weeks. Soon, the oak leaves will obscure the sun, meaning that summer is almost here, and the rainbows will go away until another winter. 

Stars shining bright above you
Night breezes seem to whisper, I love you
Birds singin’ in the sycamore trees
Dream a little dream of me

Say nighty-night and kiss me
Just hold me tight and tell me you’ll miss me
While I’m alone and blue as can be
Dream a little dream of me

For now, spring has arrived, and the rainbows are here again. A covenant, a promise – just like spring itself. A feeling, a romance, a memory – and all in a song. While Andy eagerly plans the opening of the pool at the first sign of any stretch of warmer weather, I play the music that brings the season of hope to mind. 

Sweet dreams till sunbeams find you
Leave the worries behind you
But in your dreams, whatever may be
You’ve gotta make me a promise, promise to me
You’ll dream, dream a little dream of me

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A Beautiful Spring Dream Begins

The Melachrino Strings ever-so-sweetly start off our spring season – the twenty-second spring we’ve celebrated on this blog – with this mash-up of ‘Beautiful Dreamer‘ and ‘Moon River‘. There’s a freaking harp in this, to give you an idea of the fantastical heights of whimsy we aim to achieve as we head into the loveliest season of them all. My intent to provide enthralling escapism in a world that grows more dangerous and ever-dimmer by the day will continue for as long as I am allowed to do this. (And to wonder whether our freedoms will exist in the near future is no longer such a far-fetched worry.)

This spring, the light and loose theme for the blog will be that of a dream. Especially in the earliest days of the season, there is still a winter haze that hangs over the cold nights and mornings, offset by the thrill of warming days and the bursting of spring bulbs through the wet earth. It is a dreamy sort of crux, where winter and spring do their awkward hand-off – one not quite ready to leave, one not quite ready to arrive. And us, not quite watching somewhere, all averted eyes and downcast gazes. The sheepish, happy conundrum of spring. Welcome…

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A Dream Too Much Alone

One of my favorite date nights with Andy was when we got to see an advance screening of the HBO version of ‘Grey Gardens’ in a Boston movie theater. It was a magical spring evening, and we stopped for a night cap at a Copley bar that would only be around for a season or two. We walked back to the condo on a perfect April night, slower than usual, not wanting the spell to dissipate

You cannot guess
What loveliness
Belongs to you
If you would dance
We’d have a chance
To share it too

On this last night of winter, I find solace in the springs we’ve had, and the one about to arrive. In dreamy entrancement, there is a giddy sense of possibility – the greatest gift that spring provides
I am not gay enough
To share a waltz
Tonight I boast
One of my most, unhappy thoughts
I dream too much
But if I dream too much
I only dream to touch your heart again

What lovely thoughts as we see winter gently out the door, and what gratitude I feel for a winter that did what winter was supposed to do. She kept her chill, blanketed the gardens with a healthy cover of snowfall for most of the coldest days, and provided us the slumber needed to barrel through the rest of the calendar year. Winter, we bid you farewell, knowing you will come again when it is time. 

We dance and sing
We steal a touch of spring
I dream of everything
We two have known
And yet my dreams have shown
Perhaps I dream too much alone

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

Saw this online somewhere and wanted to hypocritically share it with you – you, who are actually good enough to be visiting my website if you are reading this now:

“Some of you need to log off and touch grass.”

That warning is as much for me as anyone else. We have been scolded. What we do about it now is entirely in our hands. (Come back for a pre-spring song in a few hours.)

#TinyThreads

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The Last Sky of This Winter

We have arrived at long last at winter’s final day. How many weeks has it been? Count the weekly blog recaps below and see for yourself. In total, it wasn’t a horrid season. We had some snow storms, and then the temperatures remained steadfastly below freezing, ensuring the insulating blanket of snow cover for the gardens and the grass. We didn’t lose electricity for any stretch of time, so we will count this as a relatively benign season. Peruse the weekly recaps below for a more detailed glimpse into how we made it through the winter wilderness, then look to the Eastern sky for the dawn of spring tomorrow… 

12/23/24 ~ A Recap Bordering on Holiday Joy

12/30/24 ~ A Holiday Recap in Limbo

1/6/25 ~ A Recap Filled with Comfort Food

1/13/25 ~ A Toasty Recap

1/20/25 ~ A Recap Slightly Later Than Usual

1/27/25 ~ A Recap Clad Only in Underwear

2/3/25 ~ A Recap Fronted by David Beckham’s Bulge

2/11/25 ~ A Day Later Recap Due to Divinity

2/17/25 ~ A Super Bowl Recap

2/24/25 ~ A Floral February Recap

3/3/25 ~ Already A March Recap

3/10/25 ~ A Lost Hour Recap

3/17/25 ~ A Recap with Outtakes

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

When you’re just trying to conquer Block Blast and this emotionally-cloying ad pops up to hit you like that Sarah MacLachlan animal cruelty commercial… it’s not right. And who are the sick fucks playing this kind of game? My Lord. 

#TinyThreads

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The House Where Anneke Died

When I get out for a lunch walk, I often pass this ancient building on State Street, right beside the building where I started my state career almost twenty four years ago. It stands somewhat incongruously with more modern buildings surrounding and towering over it, and I love it all the more for that. There is a plaque on it denoting its historical significance as the place where Anneke Jans Bogardus once lived. She was one of Albany’s more notorious denizens, having earned herself the nickname of ‘The Vulture’ and cultivating a reportedly cantankerous personality during the 1600’s, when she is said to have come into swaths of impressive land in New York due to a surprise gift left her in a family will.

Disputes and questionable records left the whole story a little bit muddy, which is somewhat fitting, as mud would one day save Anneke’s ass. Her rumored ornery disposition with others was on full display when she allegedly got into an exchange when passing several local men out for a break of pipe-smoking. The story is that she lifted her skirt and presumably mooned them, for which they took her to court. She was cleared when she explained she was merely attempting to keep the hem of her skirt out of the mud. 

That’s a woman after my own heart. Leave them with something to talk about and end up with your name on a plaque that survives for centuries. And who doesn’t get a kick out of a good mooning?

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Bad Bunny In Nothing But His Calvins

Calvin Klein has engaged Bad Bunny as the body and face of his spring campaign, so we have these sizing shots by photographer Mario Sorrenti to rival the recent display of Jeremy Allen White in his own Calvins. Bad Bunny has already been a Dazzler of the Day here, and he cements that status with this turn in the iconic boxer briefs.

See also:

Shawn Mendes in his Calvins.

Noah Centineo in his Calvins.

Maluma in his Calvins.

Salomon Diaz in his Calvins.

Jeremy Allen White in his Calvins.

Justin Bieber in his Calvins.

Nick Jonas in his Calvins.

Aaron Taylor-Johnson in his Calvins.

Bad Bunny body, Bad Bunny Calvin Klein, Bad Bunny underwear, Bad Bunny bulge

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In the Waning Light of Winter

Only a few more days of winter remain, and though the technical arrival of spring doesn’t instantly equate to better weather, I’m allowing myself some hope. The pool is thawing out and Andy is eager to get it open. The last few years we’ve been opening it early to catch that first spell of 80-degree days that have been creeping up earlier and earlier. I don’t know if that will be the case this year, and I’ve made my peace with enjoying it if it happens, and not being disappointed if it doesn’t. There is wisdom, and contentment, in learning to roll with the punches. 

On a deeper level, it’s like the proverbial rock at the bottom of a river bed. The trick is to sit still and be ok with whatever washes around you, no matter how wild and crazy and mucky it might get. Especially when Mercury is in retrograde motion. 

I’ve been religious about maintaining my daily meditations this winter, and it’s been a consistent and comforting respite. For that little section of the day, I sit in complete silence and reverence. Every day we are alive deserves such an honor, even if it’s just for fifteen minutes. Even if it’s just counting breaths and letting other thoughts fall away

Winter’s waning light rises from a candle, in a purple-tinted bit of glass that once belonged to my grandmother. 

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