Category Archives: Gardening

Closing in on these final months of my 50th year on earth, I find myself in consideration of all things temporal, such as this aptly-named daylily. Each blooms lasts only a day, but what joy can be found in a single day. As I get older and the days seem to slip by faster and faster, I feel the fleeting things to enjoy, the things that I know won’t always be in abundance – the ease of movement (though that’s already dwindling), the head of hair (though that’s gray), the relative health (though I need a bigger pill box for the statins and prils). It also makes me want to do all the things I’ve been putting off – traveling, spending more time in Boston, finally finishing my “new” project that’s been in the works since 2019. There’s an urgency to the days now, and I’m reminded of that in the face of this beautiful daylily. 

Perhaps I need to get back to growing daylilies – for some reason I never quite got back into them after planting a collection from Wayside Gardens at my parents’ home several decades ago. I wonder if they’re still there – this is a tough plant that can last for decades, sometimes into a century if divided and cared for well enough. I’d put in six or seven plants to form a border between the well-kept and manicured lawn and the more wild forest behind the house. Each summer morning I’d go out and pull off the blooms that had expired in the night before and examine any new ones that had come into bloom that day.

While each bloom may only last a single day, each stem usually produced a number of buds that open over the course of a week, spacing themselves out to give a decent-enough showing. Some varieties have been bred into giving regular repeat blooms, with a second blooming season later on. The strap-like foliage remains fresh and vibrant the whole summer season, making this a lovely addition to any garden plan. I think I’ve about talked myself into finding room for one. 

This last week of spring has seen the garden ease into a more consistent style, as the ephemerals of early spring have mostly faded away in their entirety, as if they were never even here in the first place. It’s startling how quickly they go when the heat hits. And startling how quickly they depart from memory as well, especially as other plants come into their own. The shifts and gradations of a garden in June can be extreme, so I welcome the bit of consistency that regular heat and sun will bring.

We were lucky to have had some torrential downpours in the night, as the ground was in dire need of a deep watering. I set the scene, fortuitously fertilizing and watering a bit in the afternoon before the rain arrived, allowing water to soak in before the deluge so it wouldn’t just run off.

Successful gardening is largely about timing, and reading signs of what a plant wants, and when it needs it. There’s also a bit of luck involved, particularly when we have just so much control over the weather and environment of a garden. We can water all we want; during periods of drought though, it’s often never enough. We rely on the rain. And the sun. And while we can water, we have no way of adding sunlight to the mix – we are at the mercy of the sky and cloud cover.

Gardening is work. Hard work. Sometimes guess work. Always good work.

It’s been a number of years since I’ve grown phlox, but this variety looked so promising in the nursery that I picked up a pair and put them into the space where I recently dug out an unruly Rosa rugosa. It’s a perfect substitute – a strong pink for another strong pink – minus all the thorns and invasive tendencies. Phlox have often been marred my mildew in these humid summers, but this one is said to be more resistant to that annoying malady. We shall see…

This is a shorter variety – doesn’t require staking and isn’t in danger of falling over even with the wind and rain that is still a part of the season. Its color is potent, and the leaves are a dark green tinged with some burgundy to make for a handsome combination. Beauty is all around…

The Itoh peony is a cross between an herbaceous and a tree peony, and it’s a marvelous bridge between the bloom times for each. I also admire its handsome foliage, which stays mildew-free all season long, unlike its diva-like herbaceous cousins. They came into bloom this week, and only lasted a couple of days thanks to the high heat and heavy sun.

It was a quick blooming session – arriving late and leaving early – which is not how I like to roll, but nature won’t be denied. We bend with her, or we break.

The beauty that doesn’t last always feels more beautiful. An unfair act of childish disagreeableness. The steady and stalwart – the flowers that last for more than a season – are too dependable and consistent to be considered more than dull, and there’s something awful about that silliness.

These pretty Itoh peony blooms bring out deeper questions in need of deeper answers.

I’m ill-equipped to complete the job at hand.

Dahlias were opine of the first plants I ever planted as a kid – drawn solely to the picture on the label, I expected grand dinner-plate-sized blooms and every day that summer I went out and inspected them for growth and buds, all to no avail. I didn’t read the fine print about how late they started blooming, and for a kid that was an interminable exercise in patience and waiting. Throughout that summer, I watched them slowly rise, but by the time it took to get to the blooms it was already August, and the light and wind had change, signifying fall and taking away some of the summer joy that was only present on the front end of the season.

These days dahlias carry different meanings and memories ~ some sorrowful, some hopeful and bright, and some promising of some future assignation for blooms to come closer to fall. A good flower – the kind that lasts for centuries – carries shifting resonance and meaning, offering varied readings as life shifts and changes.

It is their scent that usually alerts me to their bloom before I see them.

Convallaria majalis, better known as lily-of-the-valley (despite the fact that is in no way a lily of any sort) is currently perfuming the garden with its heavenly aroma, and does so in a way that almost shy. Its bell-like blooms dangle mostly just below the tops of the pretty foliage, bashfully hiding their faces from prying eyes. It’s a plant I understand better than most.

It also carried great nostalgic significance – my Gram loved lily-of-the-valley – she’d use the fragrance in her soap and lotion, finding comfort in its sweetness. My love for my Gram inevitably spilled over into a love for lily-of-the-valley. Yes, they are invasive in conditions they enjoy, but the foliage is handsome throughout the dogged days of summer, when some fall victim to drying out or decay – these keep going until the frosts of fall, when the foliage turns ghostly pale before almost evaporating into paper-thin tissues.

A battle between these and the sweet woodruff would make for an especially lovely woodland war, but so far our swaths of each are removed from one another. There’s enough war in the world right now.

These happy blooms, and their accompanying fragrance, remind me of Gram, of being a boy in the spring and happening upon them in my solitary adventures through the backyards of neighbors, of finding them bleeding into the woods and stealing a few pips for my own garden.

Galiuum odoratum, more commonly known as sweet woodruff (love that name), forms a handsome carpet if you give it space and semi-shady moist conditions. Some might say it’s a little too aggressive, and I can’t disagree – I just happen to love it so much I don’t mind a little expansive colonization of the beds where it lands. It works especially well in a woodland setting, where it might roam free, producing these little white blossoms at the most beautifully tender time of the year. The flowers almost feel like an added bonus, because the foliage is so handsome in its own right.

We have several patches of this, and I’m planning on transplanting several clumps to fill in some tricky bare areas – places where tenacious aggression is actively encouraged. Gardening is a battle – some might say a war – and troops must be deployed where they are needed most.

Some years aren’t spectacular when it comes to the lilac bloom, especially when late winter storms kill off the trusting buds that showed too bravely and too early. It used to break my heart when that happened, especially considering how many winter days we spent waiting and watching for these precious blooms. After a few years, I learned that even when the weather conditions were kind and gentle, some springs simply didn’t produce a banner crop of blooms, as if their shows were too grand to produce every single year. That only made us love the ones that did appear a little more, taking a few extra moments to take in their exquisite perfume in ways that we might have foregone in more floriferous years.

This is one of those light springs, due to the weather and a decent crop last year.

And that’s ok, because the perfume is true, the color is as lilac as we remember, and it sets things up nicely for next spring.

After filling our front pots with everything from arborvitae, papyrus, and elephant ears to palm trees, ivy, and ferns, this marks the first year we are indulging in the ‘timeless tradition‘ of planting rosemary at our entryway. Bestowed with protective enchantments against ill-intending spirits, as well as a more practical magic to ward off pests, rosemary has myriad advantages when planted near the home. Its pleasant aroma rises like lavender when brushed by visitors, and it’s also said to be lucky. A wonderful notion for the month of May – and the summer to follow.

The cultivation of rosemary is simple when you know how to control yourself; these plants actually do better under neglect and duress than with a well-watered and overly-pampered high-maintenance routine. A sharp, well-draining soil on the alkaline side is preferred, and you should let the top two inches of soil dry out before doing a deep watering. A full day of sunshine is desired so branches don’t grow leggy, but you can also prune heavily to retain a bushier shape.

See this summer mocktail for another rosemary idea, or this holiday drink, or this Christmas cocktail for the stronger palette.

Thalictrum rochebruneanum is the lengthy scientific name for what is more commonly known as lavender mist meadow rue, or just plain meadow rue. It’s an enchanting plant, one I’ve had for well over a decade and one that performs well despite some neglect due to its inconvenient corner location away from the more-frequented areas of the backyard. Its foliage is this beautiful mixture of shades and textures, a somewhat-underappreciated aspect of its overall magical effect. These leaves will evolve and change over the next month, turning more uniformly green with an elegant silvery sheen and almost grayish aspect, like the leaves of a bleeding heart (Dicentra).

When the flowers come later, in tiny light-lavender-hued single-baby’s-breath type blossoms, a cloud of blooms will envelop the tall upper echelon of the garden – sometimes six to seven feet high. I love a cloud of flowers, especially when they are as delicate and demanding of close inspection as the blooms of the Thalictrum. Watching the plant first emerge, cradling some rain droplets from a spring shower, is a gift of the season.

This is one of the fern stages I love best – when the fiddleheads are just starting to unfurl and their feathery show is about to begin. On a sunny Saturday (at long last!) I waded into the Ostrich fern stand and inspected their progress. It was a good day for garden work, and I’d just amended the soil with 240 pounds of cow manure and compost – like Prince said, this is the glamorous life.

The big pots of bamboo (the only safe place for a running bamboo) that I overwintered in the garage were also brought out – they’re on their own for whatever frosts may be left to the season. I’ll clean the deck on the next sunny day and then the backyard will be just about ready for pool season. We need it early this year.

Notoriously difficult to photograph, this little stand of Scilla siberica has faithfully delivered some of the earliest blooms of the season, despite threat of snow (and often several inches of follow-through). One of the steadfast spring ephemerals, it rises, blooms, and falls in relatively quick succession, completing its entire show by the time summer begins in earnest, then disappearing from view and mind until early next spring. There is something exquisitely tender and sweet to such an effort, made perhaps more poignant by its fleeting timeframe. Maybe such beauty simply wasn’t meant to last – maybe that would take away too much of what makes it so beautiful. My mind isn’t wired to accept such things, and for most of my life I’ve sought out only that which might last.

Pure folly. Pure foolishness. Pure fucking idiocy.

And so I endeavor to change my perspective, to shift my way of thinking, at this later stage of life. When beauty is too often the sole balm in a world gone so completely mad we must cherish and embrace it whenever it arises, no matter how quick and fast it may be gone. How could I have entertained the idea of not having such moments at all simply because they wouldn’t last? There is grace in the briefest exchanges of kindness and pleasantry, grace in the merest brushes with beauty and love.

“And maybe we’ll meet again somewhere
Somewhere things don’t have to have an ending…”

It’s seed-buying season at the garden centers, preamble to the most wonderful time of the year, and I picked up a few packets for people to grow for me. As green as I like to think my thumb is, seeds have never taken to my expectations or preparations. Mom and Suzie will be responsible for bringing this collection of beauties to life, and I save a single packet of dill to try in our garden one more time (which marks about my fifth attempt, with never a single harvest for all five times).

Maybe the trick is just to not care – I tend to pamper and produce the perfect plot of carefully-cultivated soil – and some seeds, morning glories for instance, do better when ignored and practically abused.

Another lesson of the garden, learned the hard way. Just stop caring, and the rewards may come.