Category Archives: LGBTQ+

Dazzler of the Day: Tommy Dorfman

Being your most authentic and genuine self is not always easy even for the most confident and secure among us. Whenever I see someone stepping into a more honest representation of themselves, I’m inspired and often awestruck. The courage it takes to be different should never go unnoticed or underestimated, and sometimes just being you in a world that wants to make everyone the same takes an enormous amount of energy and effort. Tommy Dorfman recently exhibited such courage when she revealed she was a trans woman. The star of ’13 Reasons Why’ earns her first Dazzler of the Day honor thanks to such bravery:

“It’s funny to think about coming out, because I haven’t gone anywhere. I view today as a reintroduction to me as a woman, having made a transition medically. Coming out is always viewed as this grand reveal, but I was never not out. Today is about clarity: I am a trans woman. My pronouns are she/her. My name is Tommy.”

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Pride & Panache

“My silences had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you.” – Audre Lorde

As Pride month nears its closing days, I decided to get dolled up for one stroll around the backyard, just by myself. Pride need not be a crowded scene of thousands of people – a party of one is all you ever really needed. This year we slipped deeper into the habit of not celebrating things on a grand, public scale, and I feel more calm and tranquil because of it. Social media is all the outlet I require these days – and to be honest, these photos will likely be seen by more eyes than if I were to parade around Albany all day. 

Thus we enter the last week of June, and the final days of Pride month. More than enough of an excuse to get decked out, I think. And more than reason to heed the words of the legendary Audre Lorde: “When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.”

I don’t know why I don’t wear this jacket more often. It cheers me up and makes me immensely happy. The colors alone fill me with joy. It’s a bit bulky in the suit closet, but who can be mad about taking up a little extra space when it’s for something so beautiful? Its frills and sumptuousness belie the very serious power beauty holds in this world. The right jacket is more than sartorial splendor: it is armor for the vanquishing of the scared and close-minded haters. The formidable floral fighter raises a fist of posies

“Next time, ask: What’s the worst that will happen? Then push yourself a little further than you dare. Once you start to speak, people will yell at you. They will interrupt you, put you down and suggest it’s personal. And the world won’t end.
And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you. And you will still flirt and paint your nails, dress up and party, because, as I think Emma Goldman said, “If I can’t dance, I don’t want to be part of your revolution.” And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.” ~ Audre Lorde

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Dazzler of the Day: Bright Light Bright Light

With an epic new compilation just released in time for the end of Pride Month, the musical magnificence that is Bright Light Bright Light has been named Dazzler of the Day. The new collection of songs – 24 in all! – is entitled ‘So Gay. So Dramatic.’ And that’s about all that needs to be said. Already a Hunk of the Day here, this is the next step in pop world domination. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Carl Nassib

Heralded as the first active NFL Player to come out as gay, Carl Nassib earns his first Dazzler of the Day for that always-courageous act of being true to oneself, especially in a profession that has never felt very embracing of difference. That may be changing, and if this first step will help other football players making similar difficult choices, then so much the better. (But always keep this in mind too.) 

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A Powerful Quote for Pride Month

“Ballet dancers and hairdressers and drag queens made it safe for football players to come out and not the other way around. Effeminate men who couldn’t hide who they were and were constantly told they were weak—because our misogynistic culture associates femininity with weakness—those guys made it safe for masculine men to come out.” ~ Dan Savage

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Dazzler of the Day: Andrea Jenkins

Continuing our celebration of Pride Month, Andrea Jenkins is our Dazzler of the Day, thanks to their impressive quest on bettering the world through art, activism, and politics. Andrea’s website offers a more detailed glimpse into their powerful, current, and ongoing legacy:

Andrea Jenkins is a poet, writer and multimedia visual and performance artist, author of two chapbooks, “tributaries: poems celebrating black history” and “Pieces of A Scream”.
 In 2011 Andrea was named a Bush Fellow, and received the Many Voices Fellowship at the Playwrights’ Center and The Cultural Community Leadership Institute Fellowship through Intermedia Arts. Most recently she was published in the anthology Gender Outlaws II: The Next Generation. She has been a part of the local poetry community for several years, earning awards, fellowships and commissions during that time, including the 2002 Loft Literary Center Mentorship Series Award.
She is a Senior Policy Aide to the 8th Ward City Council Member Elizabeth Glidden and serves on the boards of OutFront Minnesota, Forecast Public Art, and SMARTS.
She has one beautiful daughter, Nia, and two equally beautiful granddaughters, Aniyah and Kennedy. Andrea co-curates Intermedia Arts’ Queer Voices Reading Series with John Medeiros, one of the longest running LGBT reading series in the country.

In 2010, she was awarded the Naked Stages Grant from The Jerome Foundation and Pillsbury House Theater and the Verve Grant for Spoken Word from The Jerome Foundation and Intermedia Arts. She is a 2008 Givens Foundation Black Writers Fellow, 2005 Napa Valley Writers Conference scholarship winner, 2002 Loft Mentor Series Fellow and a four-time Cave Canem Regional Fellow. She has studied with many notable poets and writers, including Amiri Baraka, Alexs Pate, J.Otis Powell!, Elizabeth Alexander, Cornelius Eady, Wang Ping, Harryette Mullen, Mary Jo Bang, Nikky Finney, Natasha Tretheway, Major Jackson, E. Ethelbert Miller, Haki Madhubuti, Deborah Keenan, Patricia Kirkpatrick, and Tyehimba Jess. 

“Art serves many purposes; it can heal, educate, entertain, and challenge. Art is a tool for speaking out because it has the ability to transform people. I try to use my art to give agency and dignity to Transgender people and Black people all over the world.” Andrea JenkinsAndrea Jenkins is an out Transgender poet, writer, visual artist, and community activist. She holds a Bachelors of Art degree in Human Services and Interpersonal Communications from Metropolitan State University, a Masters of Science in Community Economic Development from Southern New Hampshire University, and a Masters of Fine Art in Creative Writing from Hamline University.   

Her work has appeared several journals and local newspapers, including most recently, Gender Outlaws: The Next Genderation, edited by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman, Pear Press, 2010. She has two chapbooks, “tributaries: poems celebrating black history”, and “Pieces of A Scream”, Purple Lioness Productions. 

Active in the local, national and international arts scene, Andrea has performed at HousingWorks Bookstore in New York City, and at Toronto Pride in Toronto, Canada. In the Twin Cities you’ve likely seen her at the Loft Literary Center, The Guthrie Theater, Penumbra Theater, Pillsbury House Theater, Intermedia Arts, The Center for Independent Artist, Intermedia Arts, Patrick’s Cabaret, The Black Dog Cafe, Metropolitan State University, Macalester College, University of Minnesota, and several other venues too numerous to name.

As a visual artist Andrea has exhibited in group shows at: 

-Pillsbury House, Obsidian Arts, “Balls”, September 2010

-Rau & Barber Studios, Kingfield Neighborhood Association, “Thinking Outside The Box”, February, 2010

-Minnesota State Fairgrounds, Curator, Roslye Ultan “Recycling Art”, May 2010

-Minneapolis Institute of Arts (MAEP), THE FOOT IN THE DOOR SHOW’, February, 2010

-Soap Factory, “Soul on Ice: Fifty African American Minnesota Artists”, 2008,

-Andrea serves on several non-profit boards including Forecast Public Arts, SMARTS, Outfront Minnesota, and The Metropolitan State Alumni Board. She co-curates the Queer Voices Reading Series with John Medeiros at Intermedia Arts and works for the 8th Ward City Councilmember, Elizabeth Glidden.

-In 2009 she was the winner the “Power of One Award”, by P-Fund LGBT Community Foundation

-Intermedia Arts named her a “Changemaker”, and Twin Cities Black Pride awarded her the Social Justice and Advocacy Award in 2010.

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Boston x Pride

It says a lot of wonderful, amazing things that this is the current FaceBook profile pic for the official Boston Red Sox account. It seemed like such a matter-of-fact thing, and for a moment I wondered what my younger life would have been like had something like this existed when I was just growing up and learning who I was. When you don’t see yourself anywhere, part of you doesn’t truly believe that you’re even there. 

Seeing it now – the colors of LGBTQIA+ Pride intertwined with the Red Sox logo – I feel a thrill of how far we have come. Our BroSox Adventure, starting tomorrow, coincides with Pride week in Boston. 

“As a gay man, I think the role of culture is central to how you change politics – culture is politics.” ~ Jose Antonio Vargas

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Dazzler of the Day: Orville Peck

It’s amazing what a little fringe and a Lady Gaga cover can do for a person: witness the miraculous alchemy of Orville Peck’s cover of ‘Born This Way’ just in the nick of time for Pride Month. Peck earns their first Dazzler of the Day with their unique brand of country sparkle and creamy-smooth country vocal prowess. 

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Dazzler of the Day: Eli Lieb

His celebratory ‘Boys Who Like Boys’ song just got a fun fan treatment as seen below, and just in time for Pride month. Even better, Eli Lieb has a formidable career as an openly-gay artist, trailblazing the way for many burgeoning acts in his wake. He’s been a Hunk of the Day here previously, and now he gets to add Dazzler of the Day to his already-sparkling curriculum vitae. 

 

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The Marvelous Words of Bayard Rustin

“I believe in social dislocation and creative trouble.” ~ Bayard Rustin

“If we desire a society of peace, then we cannot achieve such a society through violence. If we desire a society without discrimination, then we must not discriminate against anyone in the process of building this society. If we desire a society that is democratic, then democracy must become a means as well as an end.” ~ Bayard Rustin

“Let us be enraged about injustice, but let us not be destroyed by it.” ~ Bayard Rustin

“When an individual is protesting society’s refusal to acknowledge his dignity as a human being, his very act of protest confers dignity on him.” ~ Bayard Rustin

“Every indifference to prejudice is suicide because, if I don’t fight all bigotry, bigotry itself will be strengthened and, sooner or later, it will return on me.” ~ Bayard Rustin

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Pride on the Sabbath

 “When you hear of Gay Pride, remember, it was not born out of a need to celebrate being gay. It evolved out of our need as human beings to break free of oppression and to exist without being criminalized, pathologized or persecuted. Depending on a number of factors, particularly religion, freeing ourselves from gay shame and coming to self-love and acceptance, can not only be an agonising journey, it can take years. Tragically some don’t make it. Instead of wondering why there isn’t a straight pride be grateful you have never needed one. 
Celebrate with us.” ~ Anthony Venn-Brown

With Pride Month in full swing, and a large number of Pride events happenings as the vaccinated among us move more freely than we have in well over a year, I’m taking a moment to be both serious and silly about this special month. Hence these photos, taken so I could update my social media profiles with something more seasonally gay

Next weekend is when some of the main Pride events are happening in Boston, including Pride Night at Fenway Park with the Red Sox. More often than not, Skip and I would find ourselves there for such an event, and it always thrilled me to see the rainbow flags flying at Fenway and on the Boston Public Library. While we mostly skirted the big parade (we did it properly once) it was good simply to be in town for such celebratory fun. Boston enjoys an electric-like excitement in June, whether from the residual glow of graduations, or the exuberant arrival of summer, or probably a bit of both – and it’s sort of a glorious finale right before the city seeps into its sleepy summer slumber (which I tend to appreciate even more). 

On the serious side, all the rainbows and unicorns and fluffy party scenes mask the heartache of the history that we in the LGBTQ+ community have endured and survived – and it’s worth a moment to recognize and remember the many of us who didn’t make it this far. It’s also worth challenging ourselves in analyzing the privilege and distinctions among intersectional groups and individuals within our widely-varied community. We are making progress, but this is a long journey, and it’s largely in its infancy. Let’s keep going, and growing, and learning. 

“As a young gay African, I have been conditioned from an early age to consider my sexuality a dangerous deviation from my true heritage as a Somali by close kin and friends. As a young gay African coming of age in London, there was another whiplash of cultural confusion that one had to recover from again and again: that accepting your sexual identity doesn’t necessarily mean that the wider LGBT community, with its own preconceived notions of what constitutes a “valid” queer identity, will embrace you any more welcomingly than your own prejudiced kinsfolk do.” ~ Diriye Osman

 

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We Are Not Alone

“We don’t come out for heterosexual people to know. We don’t come out for the ones who hate us to know. We shout and make as much noise as possible just so other people like us who are scared and can’t be themselves would know that they are not a mistake and they are not alone.” – Artem Kolesov

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Dazzler of the Day: Ellen DeGeneres

The announcement sent shockwaves through the entertainment industry: Ellen DeGeneres was ending her wildly popular television show after nineteen years of entertaining and giving her unique gift of humor, wit, and kindness to a world that wasn’t always appreciative of it. Her very public coming-out in the 90’s (that ‘Time’ magazine cover story and bold proclamation of ‘Yep, I’m gay!’ was a formative part of my own coming out – and likely countless others) was as celebrated as it was momentous. It moved the cultural stigma that was still afflicting the world, even as it seemingly harmed her sitcom career. The courage it took to do that should not be underestimated or forgotten, and if that was all she ever did she would have left an impressive legacy. Luckily for us, that was only the beginning, and she has since go on to host some of the biggest entertainment gigs that exist, and then establishing a hit show that put the LGBTQIA community on full, unfussy display every week-day. There was glory in that, and it’s something that we will all miss. She earns her first Dazzler of the Day in the hopes that she embarks on the next chapter of her journey with all the hilarious gusto and dazzle she’s given us so far. 

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Love Thy Neighbor

When I first heard that my pals LeeMichael and Bryan had been harassed with homophobic mailings for the last five years in their hometown of Milton, MA, I was doubly incensed. First of all, the fact that homophobia is still a thing is reprehensible on its own. Second, that it was done via abuse of the postal service is diabolical. I have a special place in my heart for the US Postal Service (as LeeMichael circa 1997 will attest) and I absolutely abhor anyone who abuses such an agency for nefarious purposes. 

For all the horrors and fears stoked by such harassment, and for all five years of living in such worry, this story has a very happy ending, and not only because they caught the individual responsible. Bryan summed up the experience like this:

I am so very excited to announce that LeeMichael and I are announcing a fundraiser for our local Gay Straight Alliance in the high school and middle school. As some of you know, our family faced many years of harassment via mail from an individual that would subscribe for magazines and services with offensive and homophobic names directed to our address. This was a time of apprehension and sadness for our family. This year, after a hiatus, the individual again signed us up or a subscription under the name Michelle Fruitzey. For the first time, we were able to get a handwriting sample. Our town as a community and with the help of the local police was able to identify the perpetrator and arrest him for years of criminal harassment. Our family decided to turn a bad situation into a great situation by “owning” the name Michelle Fruitzey and having a fundraiser for the local GSA in our town schools by selling t-shirts. Let’s educate against bullying in all forms, especially against GLBT youth… You can also order t-shirts to support our cause at https://fundly.com/iammichellefruitzey. We are so very grateful to the Town of Milton and our many friends and neighbors that provided us so much support. Thank you!

A more in-depth article on the whole saga is here, while you can purchase the t-shirts directly at this link. In this month of Pride, it warms my heart to see that some neighbors still care, and that people, at their best, will always work to help and protect one another. 

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