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Dear Noah & Emi ~

You won’t be old enough to understand any of this any time soon, but one day you will, and if I don’t write it down now it’s likely to be forgotten.

You have a long winding road ahead of you, and until your thirties you’re going to want to speed up the journey. Try not to do that.

You’ve got a pair of parents that absolutely adores you – never forget that. Even when you get mad at them, remember how much you are loved, and everything they have done has been because of that love. But also remember that no one is perfect, especially parents – you have to love them anyway. There is no tried and true manual for the raising of children, and mistakes will be made by all (even perfect Uncles). Be forgiving, and willing to accept others for their foibles. We do not have a hand in choosing family, but you’ve been blessed with a pretty good one.

You have an assortment of Uncles and a very special Aunt, all of whom love you dearly. Remember that we will always be here for you whenever you need us. I didn’t get to see my extended family as often as I would have liked, so don’t ever take that for granted.

Never be anything other than who you are, and never make any apologies for it. You will become the person you are destined to be no matter what. There will be good people, and some bad, to guide you on your way, but in your heart you will know what is right. It will not always be an easy decision, and no one makes the right choice every time. Own up to the mistakes and learn from them. Don’t get bogged down in shame and embarrassment.

You are about as close in age as a brother and sister can get, and that’s going to lead to a few fights. My brother and I were a year and a half apart and we fought like crazy – I can only imagine what being a twin will be like when all you want to do is be alone. But whenever you feel the slightest bit of resentment or anger toward your brother or sister, remember that not many people get to be born with an automatic best friend, and there is no one else on earth who will be able to understand absolutely everything you’re going through or who will have the exact same set of growing experiences and background. That will be a treasure when the rest of the world doesn’t always get you.

Finally, there are some things you should never skimp on: stationary and luggage. Both will reward you for life.

Love, Uncle Al

My favorite part of elementary school was the arts and crafts moment of every day, where we would dissemble throughout the classroom and work on whatever project the teacher had taught us to do. I liked the mostly-solitary aspect of these projects, though I always managed to socialize and visit with others during this time. My work was mine alone, executed solely from and for my vision, and untainted by the ideas or inspiration of another.

I remember doing a diorama in class, then rummaging my Mom’s closet for more shoe boxes so I could make them at home. Whereas others dreaded such artsy-fartsy stuff, I reveled in it, even if my enthusiasm for it often far exceeded any artistic capability. There were yarn pom-pom sculptures, watery pastel-chalk Easter eggs, and impressionistic tissue paper paintings.

During the Christmas holidays, our creative output reached its zenith – angels of corregated poster board topped with tinsel halos, Santas with disproportionately-long cotton ball beards, and Christmas trees doused in so much glue and glitter that a drag queen would cut a kid over it. And then one of my favorite, albeit simple, craft projects of all – paper link chains of garland, in every conceivable color and combination. Back then they seemed to take forever to make, as we had to use paste instead of staples, creating one link at a time, and holding it together long enough to have the paste stick. (We used the paste that wouldn’t kill you if ingested, or give you a sniffing high if inhaled – in other words, it didn’t work. How could it when you put a mound of it on a paper towel and it’s still pliable the next morning?)

The idea of that paper garland has stuck with me all these years, and when faced with the prospect of making wedding decorations it came back in an inspired rush. Having had to square a thousand sheets of eight-and-a-half-by-eleven colored paper for that number of paper cranes, I was left with a thousand excess bands of said paper, which I piled up and saved in the event that they might be of some use. I trimmed them down a bit, stapled them together (much easier than paste), and quickly created a simple, cost-efficient, and surprisingly elegant decoration. Homemade, a little humble, and completely from the heart – just like our wedding celebration next month.

I think I first heard word of the creek from my brother. He had traveled there by bike, ducking into a roadside forest and happening upon it by accident. He said it was just around the corner from where Van Dyke met Golf Course Road. That was a long trek on foot, but I couldn’t get my bike through the forest, (and I was afraid it would be stolen if I left it by the road) so I had to get there by walking.

Setting out in the morning after everyone in the house had gone, I could be back before anyone questioned my whereabouts, and still have much of the day left. At the top of my parents’ street, I turned left onto Van Dyke, and from there it was a straight, albeit hilly, walk to the end.

I looked at the gardens of the houses I passed, examining and making mental note of how they used their annuals in various color schemes, while cicadas buzzed ominously out of sight. A golf course rolled out its green carpet to my left. We had gone hunting for golf balls there once, climbing over a dilapidated portion of fence and hiding from the golfers along the forest’s edge.

Nearing Golf Course Road was the most treacherous part of the journey. Cars whizzed along the straight stretch of road, and no one walked here. The sun was high in the sky, beating down with no shade around me. A dusty stretch of pebbles and dry dirt afforded little sustenance at the edge of the road, not even for the most hardy of weeds.

I thought about turning back, but I had come so far it would be a shame to waste the effort. I looked both ways, and when no cars could be seen for a mile in either direction, I hurried across the road to the side where the creek was supposed to be. Here there was moisture, and the grasses and weeds were up to my knees. The land dipped away from the edge of the road, and I bounded down over the ditch to where the border of brush and trees began.

It was like a verdant curtain that opened into another world. From the blindingly bright sun-drenched stretch of parched roadside to the dim cool shade beneath a leafy canopy, the distinction was immediate and immense. I was suddenly enveloped by a mossy forest, soft beneath my feet and quiet after the crunch of gravel and pavement – even the cicadas were muffled here, drowned out by overlapping veins of chlorophyll and beams of moist wood.

The forest opened up before me as I adjusted to the difference in light. Shielded from passing cars and prying eyes, I was alone in the stillness, and there ahead of me was the creek. It was not rushing or tumbling along some rocky incline, so it barely made any noise. Instead, it twisted and turned silently, the water gently drifting from shallow pool to shallow pool. I had brought along a small container that once housed Cool Whip in case I might be able to catch a crayfish, and set it down alongside the creek bed.

The water was cool and clear, and I dipped my hands into it. A group of tadpoles darted away, their tiny legs just beginning to protrude. I moved a few rocks around and there was a large gray crayfish. It too shot quickly away, burying itself deeper among the rocks. There was no way of getting at it without using my bare hands, and though I was a scrappy boy, I was not about to get torn up that way.

I moved a little further along the small stream, enjoying the hidden tranquility. In another small pool I managed to corral a couple of tadpoles into my container, having given up on the crayfish. In my childish wisdom, however, I had not brought along a cover to the bowl, so it was a feat keeping the water contained and balanced, and the tadpoles within the confines. I vowed to walk steadily and carefully home.

The way back usually seems to go by a lot quicker than the way there. That was not the case on this day. Trying to balance a relatively flat pool of water, watch the road, and walk home is not an easy task, simple as it made seem. The container splashed its precious cargo around, and soon one of the tadpoles had disappeared.

About halfway home I lost a couple more, and eventually all I had was a bit of creek water and some sand, which I promptly dumped. The rest of the journey went by a little faster with no more need for such care in my step, and I made it home in time for lunch. My summer day ended as it began, with an empty container and an unquenched yearning for adventure.