Transitional Journeying

Transitioning from summer to fall is happening in a big way here – most of it behind-the-scenes as I prepare for a new look and theme for this seasonal shift. It’s a re-invention in a way, as well as a stepping into some new shoes that instantly felt like old ones – more on that to come. In the meantime, this purgatorial pause is a good point to stop and assess where we are – something in service to the old adage than an unexamined life is not worth living.

The journey into the next level of consciousness and life is fraught with such landmines – tricky spots where you might end up blowing your life up if you make the wrong step. I’ve always been too careful and measured to make those kinds of rash decisions and movements, but you lose out on certain things playing it too safe, so this season I’m planning on being bold and changing things up – all with an eye to being better.

The road to fall stretches out before us. Summer is still here, but senses her time is limited, at least until her triumphant return next year. I’m just trying to enjoy the journey.

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Into Gold By Way of London Grammar

A Friday night where I cannot find words to adequately capture this end-of-summer moment… and so a song will have to suffice… a song and several links hidden throughout…

Dear Heart, dear Soul
Old friend, don’t let me go
I am the fire and you are water
Drown me out, but I learnt
So if you see me, cross the street
But I still see you in people I meet
And I am fire and you are water
You drown me out, but I learnt, I got older, found out I ought to

Make ashes from stone
All of these things that I’ve seen turn darkness into gold
And when I was made from the right kind of wrong
All of these things that I’ve seen turned darkness into gold

Rivers run red, river run dry
River run red and whit?
I am the fire and you are wat?r
Drown me out, but I learnt
So if you see me, cross the street
But I still see you in people I meet
And I am fire and you are water
You ran me wild to the sea, there you’ll find me, trying to catch me
Make ashes from stone
All of these things that I’ve seen turn darkness into gold
And when I was made from the right kind of wrong
All of these things that I’ve seen turned darkness into gold
All of these things that I’ve seen turned darkness into gold

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A Smattering of Shirtless Gents

When all else fails, we post a few shirtless male celebrities and call it a Friday. There’s a more substantial blog post coming up for tonight, but for now it’s just eye candy, starting with featured gentleman Brett Goldstein who was just crowned Dazzler of the Day here. From there we move on to Michael Johnston from this summer’s thriller ‘Obsession’, crowned for his own Dazzler of the Day here.

Ricky Martin is still shaking his bon-bon after all these years – a testament to his consistency and pop superstardom, and posts like these where he gets almost-naked and Speedo-clad.

Taylor Zakhar Perez is no stranger to showing up in his underwear, and making a spectacle of himself in the finest way imaginable. He closes out this brief collection of shirtless celebrities, a breath of fresh air and a return to what once made this blog so superficially grand.

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Music’s Hypnotizing

Long-ago pre-cursor for Madonna’s ‘Vogue’ (which samples such a tiny sliver of this song I challenge you to find it – hint: right down to the ground…) this is Raw Silk’s ‘Do It to the Music’ which finds us almost wrapping up this Solid Gold Summer in disco-fine form. Let that bouncing baseline shake you and let the beat break you the way this summer almost broke me.

No time for criticizing
Music’s hypnotizing
Everybody’s temperature’s rising
So get down, so get down, so get down, so get down, so get down – Do it!

The gold is tarnished now – and it turns out it wasn’t so solid after all – love’s illusions, desired delusions, and all that sort. Makes you wonder and question what part of summer was real, what was fantasy, and what was false beneath all the gilding and glamour. A net of sequins, a sparkling trap, sheer and sleight of hand – ropes of metal, gleaming and beaming like gold, hollow and empty like ancient whiskey barrels – ghosts of spirits echoing on warped wood, bound by iron, littered with flakes of fake gold.

Our summer revelry nears its end like some sonnet of Shakespeare’s – more profound than a first reading would have you realize, and over too soon as well, like summer itself. A couple more weekends before I throw the gold trappings off and slide into something more solid… stay tuned.

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September Rain

The first of September entered with a rainstorm – all of the night and much of the day. I drove into work through the rain, then drove home through the rain – which usually makes for the saddest sort of bookends. On this day, however, I didn’t mind it – the dismal weather matched the dismal mood as the irrevocable shift toward fall continued unabated. Light lingered in the sky – enough for Andy to eke out a couple of grilled burgers for dinner. On the patio, rain droplets preened and posed on the enormous leaves of the potted banana – this plant always starts out so unpromisingly slight, then somehow unfurls one leaf by one larger leaf at a time, until you have an enormous specimen by the time the move to fall commences. I don’t think I’ll bother overwintering this one. The last time I tried that it made for a rotten mess by the time spring arrived, and it never even came back. We’ll use our limited garage space for the bamboo planters instead – they survive easily, sometimes never losing all of their green leaves. They’re hardier than the banana too, so there’s less need for pampering.

I’m totally over pampering things that can’t be bothered to do their part and grow.

It’s Virgo season, and I feel powerful and entirely out of fucks – a dangerous combination for anyone getting in the way. On the rainy night on which I write this, I hear water on the roof – a soothing sound, ideal for sleeping, even if I’ve had trouble finding slumber lately. The restless turn of summer’s last few screws of its own coffin. It’s all just sleep in the end.

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Is This About You?

I didn’t post this – somebody else did – and I love it.

School’s back in session – get ready for a lesson!

Some of us have been working year round. Buck up.

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Candles in the Rain

Always around this time of the year, the shift from outdoors to inside happens – and truth be told it’s been happening for longer than it probably should have – one doesn’t waste a single summer day without regretting it come winter. My outside energy is mostly spent – the gardens are now headed into their long slumber mode having put on a spectacular show, mostly just for me and Andy over these past few months. That’s my favorite kind of show, and despite my grumblings I’m grateful overall for how lovely the summer days have been – if I’ve been quiet of late it’s because I’m working on a number of things. To maintain the sanity in such busy times, I rely and lean into my daily meditations – keeping my baseline at a calmer level of vibration, less likely to get easily riled up at the slightest provocation.

Striking a Tibetan singing bowl, lighting a couple of candles, and burning the end of a Palo Santo stick, I settle into the lotus position and begin breathing deeply, slowly, deliberately. My breathing elongates, each inhalation expanding a little more, each exhalation growing in duration, until I’ve slowed down all thinking and senses, and that beautiful expanse of emptiness manifests itself in my mind, pushing all cares and concerns entirely out of consciousness. This is the high of meditation for me – that blank space void of worry or tension or fear. It doesn’t last forever, but I can extend it when I need it, and just dipping into that stillness is enough to access a sort of calm I never understood before I started meditating. It’s a calm I’ve never been able to adequately explain, in prose or in person, and selfishly I’ve never bothered to try. It’s enough to know it, and I can only recommend starting your own meditation journey to discover it (it took me several months before discovering it).

Now I’m just teasing, and the point of this post was to share a little of the peace I found on a rainy candle-lit evening.

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Dazzler of the Day: Brad Goreski

Injecting a bit of fashionable brilliance into this feature, Brad Goreski is today’s Dazzler of the Day. Rightly renowned for his impeccable styling prowess and exquisite taste, Goreski has been honing his talents in Hollywood for years. This crowning is only the latest in a cavalcade of admiration and accomplishments.

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My Now-Unfortunate Initials

It’s one of life’s cruel little fuck-overs that my initials (AI) have turned into such a monstrosity. Personally, I can’t stand AI (the Artificial Intelligence one) – and most artistic types with a modicum of talent feel the same. At the same time, I already see this battle is lost, and as I have fewer years ahead of me than behind me, someone else will have to take up the war. Fight on, fine friends.

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Tom Ford’s Noir Extreme

The original ‘Noir de Noir’ as included in Tom Ford’s original run of Private Blends didn’t initially speak to me. In that silence, however, was a promise to revisit its profile at a time in the future. At such moments, a promise is enough – when we’re not quite ready for something but we sense one day we might be. A similar shifting in taste and appreciation happened with ‘Carnal Flower’, and now that several more years have passed, I’m coming around to Ford’s ‘Noir Extreme’ thanks to a sampler that Betsy gifted me last year, and a full bottle that Andy gave me for this recent birthday.

The fragrance itself is a flanker of Ford’s mainstream ‘Noir’ offering – and while it’s listed as an Eau de Parfum, its staying power is more of a cologne, which makes it ideal for this late summer September moment, when the heat can still be quite on, and the days too much for an insistent parfum. It strikes the ideal balance at this time of the year.

Opening with a green citrus and spice kick, it quickly calms down to reveal a powdery amber second tier with some vanilla and wood. Aspects of cardamom, nutmeg and saffron lend it a hint of gourmand richness, while some minor white floral notes sound like the faint tinkling of bells in the distance. It seduces softly with some sandalwood completing its design, enveloping with a cloud of delicate beauty, something I appreciate even if it falls slightly short of a seriously potent Eau de parfum. As I mentioned, this isn’t the time of the year for that – not yet – and so this works perfectly. Timing can be everything when it comes to fragrance, and as we prepare to close out this Solid Gold summer, this fragrance gorgeously straddles the sun and the cooler nights, when darkness indicates mystery, and Noir whispers sweet secrets so quietly it might just be the wind.

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A Harry Styles Shirtless Post

Celebrating his current run of dates at Madison Square Garden, Harry Styles gave good face (and body) to W Magazine for this photo spread. That’s enough to close out this first day of September, but if you want a bit more, check out Harry Styles naked here, Harry in his underwear here, or Harry simply dazzling here.

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His What?!?

A little-known Boston landmark, this is Hiscock Park.

Need we say more?

This is a question for Diana Vreeland, if only she were alive…

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September Came Too Soon

How we came to arrive at September so quickly its beyond my limited comprehension. Time moves in tricky ways these days, and summer seems to have flown by as much as it seemed to linger. Time speeds along at a mighty pace when we are enjoying the days, then stalls when troubles arise. Which do we pick? Which do we hope for most? To speed through with pleasure or pause with a little bit of pain? It’s too early in the day, and the week, for such philosophical mental meandering. Tuesday mornings were never meant to go this deep. Let’s pull back for a minute and slow this train down – it is, after all, still summer. And while summer hasn’t treated all of us particularly well, we’re still here, still going, and in that there is success and accomplishment. Let’s revisit a few other September starts in service of nostalgia…

September 1, 2025 – A mindful beginning to the month.

September 1, 2024 – A pair of coquette swim trunks.

September 1, 2023 – A sunlit September song.

September 1, 2023 – A show of love in a September sky.

September 1, 2022 – A reminder of summer, and links to more Septembers…

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A Moment of Matcha & A Realization

The downtown Albany cafe scene is doing us all proud – with Cafe 66, Alias, and two locations for Stacks (three if you count the Outpost in my office building). It’s a far cry from the monopoly that Dunkin’ Donuts had over this area when I first started working for the state of New York 25 years ago.

Holy shit – that just struck me: yesterday’s date marked the 25th anniversary of my first day at a state job. I’ve worked in this state career for a quarter of a century. What hits me most profoundly when I think about that now is not how much I’ve already learned, but by how much more there is and always will be to grow and improve to be better. That is a long way from how much I thought I knew 25 years ago. The path to wisdom is traveled quicker by those who accept that there will always be more to learn.

For obvious reasons and ample evidence (see the bulk of all the blog posts on this site) I’m not yet a wise man – but slowly that’s where I want to head. Be patient with me on the journey – and be patient with yourselves if you’re attempting a similar trip.

This timeframe, couple with my recent birthday, now puts my retirement eligibility date at five years from now. Let’s see how much damage I can do in that time…

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A Very Naked Weekly Blog Recap

A totally nude blog post is nothing exactly new for these parts, but naked here has always held more of an emotional aspect than any full-frontal revelations – though glimpses of that may be found here if you know how to search (I’m not going to tell you). This is one of my first posts as a 51-year-old, a fact that makes me feel both all of my years and hardly any of them at once. Sometimes my outer shell is the part that ages; sometimes my ancient tendencies are all in my head. It all depends on the whim of the moment, the mood and the magic at hand, and the elusively-shifting idea of perspective that informs more than we mostly realize.

If that’s all a bit much for a Monday morning session of quarterbacking when we usually just do a simple introductory paragraph for the weekly blog recap, well, consider it my gift to you for persual after you’ve had your coffee fix. I’m drained, mentally bereft of clothes and dressing, physically hanging out with cock and balls free as a bird, and continuing my merry way along this third or fourth mid-life crisis journey. Come with me… you know you want to join in this fun.

A killa filla dilla.

A favorite of the bees returns to bloom and extend the summer season.

The golden friendship high is one I’ll chase for my entire life.

Prick up at the sight of these lavender bunny ears.

A bouquet fit for friends – the finest friends I know.

Muscles against a green screen thanks to Nicholas Galitzine.

When the bush is late, people start to worry. Or maybe that’s just me…

This gratuitous Ben Platt shot though, am I right?

An introductory Boston birthday post begins the bday bombast.

Birthdays in Boston are beautiful.

Birthdays in Boston are quiet.

Birthdays in Boston are delicious.

Gone with the scone.

Get me to the Greek (salad).

Closing the day and the week with the glory of morning.

Dazzlers of the Day included Luke Christian and Brett Goldstein.

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