Category Archives: Albany

How I Got Kicked Out of Starbucks

The Starbucks on Pearl Street in Downtown Albany is where I often hang out on lunch. I’ll order a silly Frappucino Grande, open up a book, and keep my eye on the big clock at the bank across the street. I go there on average about three times a week, for probably forty weeks during the year. (Which, at $4.75 a frap, three times a week, for forty weeks, comes out to about $570 a year. And since I’ve been going there for eight years now, that totals about $4560. I just shuddered.) The point is, I’m a regular, and they know me. (There aren’t a lot of guys in pink pants, orange coats, and bow-ties in Albany.)

The one day I go there and sit down without ordering anything, a bottle of non-Starbucks-sold water in one hand, and a book in the other, I get called out by one of the workers and told I couldn’t stay there if I didn’t have bank business (there is an adjoining bank) or a Starbucks purchase. At first, I didn’t believe it. This guy knows me, he’s served me countless times in the past eight years, and this is one of the only times I didn’t have a Starbucks drink in my hand.

In the seat next to me was a Starbucks worker who was on break, eating a Subway sandwich, and not drinking or eating anything from Starbucks. She’s usually friendly, complimenting me on my hair or tie, so I turn to her and ask her where her Starbucks items are. She said she worked there. Okay, I get it. It’s fine for employees to take up seats and eat food from other establishments, but not regular customers who up until today gave their loyal patronage.

Did he have a right to ask me to leave if I wasn’t buying anything? Absolutely.

Was it a cool move to treat a regular customer that way? Absolutely not. The cool thing would have been to let it go, ignore me for twenty more minutes, and go on with our friendly banter the next day I was in line ordering an over-priced coffee drink. This was the first time I witnessed anything like that, as there are often people sitting there eating Chinese takeout with nary an item from Starbucks. In fact, as one friend put it, “the freaking homeless sit in there all day long and you are a regular paying customer.”

And so it goes in Downtown Albany.

UPDATE: I returned there the next day to see how many non-Starbucks people were sitting there not eating or drinking Starbucks’ products. I got two semi-clear pics out of about five who were there reading, texting, or idly sitting around without any coffee whatsoever. Hmmm… Even more amusing is the pledge on their FaceBook page: “Starbucks has an unusually human approach to business. We always figured that putting people before products just made good common sense.”
It usually does.

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A Great Gatsby Party For a Great Cause

Last week, to kick off Pride Week in Albany, and to benefit the New York Capital Region Chapter of GLSEN, there was a Great Gatsby Formal Party at 74 State. Even Andy donned a suit, and our friend JoAnn came in from Massachusetts to join us. Given the intense heat (it was 95 degrees the day of the party), I opted out of the elaborately-layered look I originally planned (long-sleeved shirt, vest, suspenders, bow-tie) and kept it simple with a short-sleeved polo shirt beneath a pink linen Brooks Brothers jacket. Sometimes, even for me, weather and comfort trumps fashion. Extreme heat and extreme cold will sway my sartorial choices more than the advice of friends.

I did keep the straw boater hat though, because some things were made to stand up to the heat. The leather half-chaps were also non-negotiable, as they were the key to my cross between Jay Gatsby and Tom Buchanan. Everyone assumed I’d go as Daisy, but I’ve never been that predictable.

For more information on GLSEN and the wonderful work they do, visit their website here. I love a party, but I love a party with a good cause even more.

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The Mayor, The Dog, and Me

The park in which this statue sits is just across the street from where I work, yet even though I pass it any number of times a day, and have for the past eight years, I’ve never had my photo taken with it. Until now. The man depicted is former Albany Mayor Thomas Whalen III. I’m assuming that’s his pooch. (It would be strange for it to be some stray dog that just haphazardly wandered into the pose – not that it isn’t strange on its own to have a dog immortalized in such a manner. This isn’t Disneyworld, or Michael Jackson’s Neverland compound.) At any rate, someone pointed out that he could pass for a bronzed Bill O’Reilly. I don’t think I’d so willingly sidle up to Mr. O’Reilly though. And speaking of bronzed, I wonder if Jerry Jennings will ever get a statue like this…?

 

PS – This was my ensemble for Saturday’s performance of the Albany Symphony Orchestra. I won’t even touch on what the other patrons were wearing, as I’ve slagged off Albany enough this week. Sometimes, though, criticism is amply justified. We’ll leave it at that.

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I Love A Little Fussy

One man is trying to change the face of the Albany Food Scene. His name is Daniel and he writes one of the most intelligent and erudite food blogs out there, FUSSYlittleBLOG. For obvious reasons, I can’t help but love a guy who embraces his fussiness. And I’d love to see this year’s Times Union Poll  break out of its mainstream monolithic rut. For the longest time, the same places dominated that list, and in an effort to shake things up, Mr. Fussy has devised a plan to democratically prove that Albany is more than The Olive Garden or The Cheesecake Factory.

He proposes the following choices for the ballot, and if we all take a minute to vote for these spots his theory is that it may make a difference. While part of me has a bit of an issue with voting for places I’ve never tried myself, I do see his point. If we scatter our votes then the same hum-drum places will win year after year as defaults and nothing will ever change. Is it more than a little manipulative? Absolutely. But that’s the democratic process of this country. Until I read a more persuasive argument for any other choices, this will do. (Besides, he has always had impeccable taste.) Here are his recommendations:

Dining (20 Selections)
1.  Best Restaurant to Open in the Past Year – Charles F. Lucas Confectionery & Wine Bar
2. Best Family Restaurant – Jumpin’ Jacks
3. Best Fish Fry – Off Shore Pier
4. Best Hamburger – Max London’s
5. Best Pizza – Defazio’s
6. Best Sandwich Shop – Andy & Son’s
7. Best Chinese/Japanese/Korean – Ala Shanghai
8. Best Indonesian/Thai/Vietnamese – Kinnaree
9. Best Indian/Pakistani – Aashiana
10. Best Mexican/Central/South American – Mr. Pio Pio
11. Best Italian – Cafe Capriccio
12. Best Ice Cream – The Ice Cream Man
13. Best Hot Dog – Famous Lunch
14. Best Sports Bar – Graney’s
15. Best Coffee Joint – Caffe Vero
16. Best Diner – Bob’s Diner
17. Best Barbecue – Capital Q
18. Best Restaurant for Outdoor Dining – Dinosaur Bar-B-Que
19. Best Restaurant for a Romantic Dinner – Lark Street Wine Bar
20. Best Restaurant in the Capital Region – New World Bistro Bar

Foodstuffs (9 Selections)
1.  Best Local Grocery Store – Niskayuna Co-op
2. Best Wine Store – All Star Wine & Spirits
3. Best Beer Store – Hoosick Street Beverage
4. Best Bakery – Mrs. London’s
5. Best Italian Market – Cardona’s
6. Best Ethnic Market (not Italian) – Asian Supermarket
7. Best Farmers Market – Troy Waterfront Farmers Market
8. Best Health Food Store – Healthy Living Market & Cafe
9. Best Standalone Butcher – Roma, Latham

Media (2 Selections)
6. Best Website – All Over Albany
7. Best Local Blog – Daniel Berman http://www.FUSSYlittleBLOG.com

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Now, those last two choices may seem odd. I mean, this thing you’re reading right now is my own blog. And everything that surrounds it is my own website. By egotistical rights I should be inserting myself into these categories, and once upon a time I would have. But aside from that ‘Best Dressed Man’ nod a number of years ago, I don’t stand a chance in hell winning anything in a Times Union Poll, so I’m lending my support to the above. The world needs more fussiness.

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Girls Gone Wild

When the Duchess says she’s putting on a Madonna Show, you go. This weekend Andy and I attended our first drag show in a couple of years, thanks to the efforts of Duchess Ivanna, Penny Larceny and a bevy of beauties. Everyone who has seen these ladies perform know that they don’t mess around – and this was no exception. From Ms. Larceny’s opening scorcher ‘Girl Gone Wild’ to the closing brilliance of Ms. Ivanna’s turn as an elegant Eva Peron in ‘Don’t Cry For Me Argentina‘, it was an evening of Madonna-centric magic.

The Duchess is staking a new claim for the Albany drag scene, bringing back old-fashioned blood-sweat-and-tears performances, something that Ms. Larceny has been doing for a while now. Every time she comes back (and it’s been a few times now), she’s a little stronger, a little fiercer, and a little more powerful. One of her greatest inspirations has always been Madonna, and on a night dedicated to the gay icon, it brought out the best in everyone. Condragulations to everyone at Rocks for putting on a great show.

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Truth, Beauty, Freedom and Love

One of the best parts of not having to host 1st Friday anymore is the freedom to see any and all of the shows that go on every 1st Friday in Albany. Today, that means getting to take my time and peruse the Upstate Artist Guild’s ‘Skin Show’. It is especially fun for me as the featured artist will be none other than one of my favorites, Newbold Bohemia, and his allegorical figure photography, which must be seen to be believed.

Check out his website at http://www.newboldbohemia.com/, where a more descriptive analysis of his work is explained:

For Newbold Bohemia, an image is not captured in an instant, it is cultivated over time. While other artists exploit the documentary nature of photography, Newbold subverts reality by creating falsified and forged documents. His images are openly staged and/or manipulated after being captured.

“Photos are just a material like paint, wood, or clay,” says Newbold. “I plan, create, and capture images in my studio or in the field. I color them, paint them, and combine them — either physically or digitally — to create something new. I try to create not only an image, but an entire world within my image,” explains Newbold, “a world that is fictional but hopefully truthful. As Emerson said, ‘Fiction reveals truth that reality obscures.’ ”

Even the name Newbold Bohemia is a fabrication. The name reminds Newbold to create art dedicated to the four pillars of Bohemian society — “Truth, Beauty, Freedom and Love.”

The Skin Show, with featured artist Newbold Bohemia, will be on display today at the Upstate Artist Guild, 247 Lark Street, Albany, NY 12210, from 6 to 9 PM. 

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A Little Bit of Italy in Albany, Via Utica

Matt Baumgartner has already brought bits of Mexico (Bomber’s), Germany (Wolff’s Biergarten), and England (The Olde English Pub) to the Albany area, and his latest – Sciortino’s – aims to bring a little bit of Italy, by way of Utica, to Broadway. Housed in the former Miss Albany Diner space (and right next door to the Biergarten), Sciortino’s keeps things simple and casual, drawing on Mr. Baumgartner’s Italian heritage (the restaurant was named for his grandparents) and his upbringing in Utica (there is even a Utica Special, featuring any beverage, Utica greens, your choice of riggies, and Pizza Frita).

The pizza is a big part of the place, served in ample square slices for easy take-out (two make for more than an average meal), or in a larger size for more mouths. The tomato pie (with its simple red sauce and Pecorino Romano cheese) is another Utica classic, but there are other offerings, including a white pizza (broccoli, ricotta, and mozzarella) and a BBQ pizza, along with standard toppings that you can add for an additional cost.

A few Italian staples are also on hand, from a chicken or eggplant parm dish to the aforementioned riggies (chicken, sausage, or shrimp), as well as baked hats.

At such a comfort-food place, a smattering of sweet treats for dessert is expected, and the towering ice cream sundae certainly delivered. Give me a cherry-topped mound of ice cream and whipped cream, and I’ll practically cream my pants. It’s my favorite kind of happy ending.

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Upon Entering the Doldrums

The Best Dressed Man of the Capital Region (if that’s still even my title) is most likely to be found in something like this comfy get-up until the return of Spring. Yes, I wear sweat-pants and tank-tops when no one’s around, and the weather is getting me down. That lack of style is in full-force for this season. It struck me as I was walking outside the Plaza yesterday, heading up the street to El Mariachi: the gray doldrums of winter are here. Along the way, that nasty mix of salt and dirt and snow mirrored the cloudy sky. From now until April, this is what we in upstate New York will have the displeasure of seeing. It seems like such a long soul-sucking stretch to then, and every year – usually about February or so – I wonder how we will make it. This year that dispiriting moment seems to have arrived even sooner.

I paused on the sidewalk and let the wind rush around me. The thought of a margarita did not hasten my step. The notion of a cozy dinner with my husband did not quicken my pace. The dullness of Albany was having its way, eroding the shiny and sparkly veneer I try to keep so polished. Even my red messenger bag, chosen to highlight the crimson accents of the Burberry plaid of my coat, did not manage to elicit the slightest of smiles. When Burberry fails to thrill, you know the winter, or the location, has you whipped.

The wind pushed me on, toward the fuzzy warmth of a salt-rimmed tequila pool, into which I dove to divert myself, and there I closed out a mundane Monday.

 

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No Liberty At Liberty Ridge Farm

It’s one thing to hear about places that turn down same-sex weddings at their venues – I assume, disappointedly, that it happens far more than we’re aware of – but it’s quite another to hear about it happening in your own backyard. Say what you will about upstate New York, there are still a great number of wonderful people and places here that you can’t get anywhere else, and I take a certain amount of pride in living and having been raised here. Yet when I hear about something like this, it makes me sad to be a in a place where such beliefs still exist.

Liberty Ridge Farm recently turned down a same-sex couple who wanted to have a wedding at their venue. In a story reported at Kristi’s On the Edge blog and on WNYT, the owners of Liberty Ridge Farm politely turned down not just one gay wedding, but a total of three gay weddings, at their site in the past year.

If it is indeed a private establishment, does Liberty Ridge have the right to refuse service to someone? Absolutely.

Do I have the right to object to that decision and recommend a boycott? Absolutely.

That’s the beauty of the liberty that this country is founded upon. Unfortunately for Liberty Farms, it’s just bad business. It’s also hypocritical, as I have no doubt that at least a few of the folks who have been married there had been divorced previously, so if you’re going to espouse religious beliefs, at least be consistent about it. Picking and choosing is where the bigotry and discrimination come into play.

It’s upsetting to think that there are businesses that still refuse service to certain people based on their sexual identity. That is no different than denying service to someone based on their race, gender, religion, or other aspect. And if being gay is a choice, where does that leave religion? Surely that is more of a choice than being gay. What if a company were to deny service to someone because they were Mormon or Jewish or Catholic? Would you support a business like that, no matter how much you liked what they were offering? Would you support a business that turned customers away or refused service because they were black? Personally, I can’t, and I won’t.

What may be most insidious about this whole thing is that all reports indicate that the owners of Liberty Farm Ridge denied this couple their wedding in the most polite and nice way, even apologizing to the two young women that they couldn’t accommodate them. As if that excuses homophobia. As if it’s okay to say, “I hate gay people and don’t believe they deserve the same rights as me,” so long as you do it with a smile and an apology.

Well I’m sorry too. Sorry that Liberty Ridge Farm is such a homophobic establishment that they chose to turn down at least three loving couples who wanted only to get married in a beautiful place. Sorry that though they may have the right to deny the use of their land to anyone, they chose to do so based on someone’s sexual identity. Sorry that I refuse to just accept it and pretend it’s not a homophobic act. And sorry that thanks to the news of social media (and their own website, FaceBook page, and Twitter account), people know exactly what sort of hateful, homophobic practices go down at Liberty Ridge Farm, and how to get in touch with them. Most of all, I’m sorry that while I am sincerely asking any and all of those who decide to reach out to them to be polite and respectful (and doing so with a smile on my face), some simply won’t listen.  (Super sorry about that last one.)

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A Very Gay Parade

This weekend, in what may be a completely foolish move, I’ve committed to attending both the Boston Pride Parade (Saturday) and the Albany Pride Parade (Sunday). Last year I only made it to Boston, and recuperated on Sunday (not really necessary, but a nice buffer). This year I’ve agreed to judge the Albany Pride Parade floats (I assume) so I have to be there. No guarantee on my status or outfit (I haven’t had time to do up two pride costumes, so the Albany one is decidedly simpler. In fact, it’s probably the simplest thing I’ve ever worn in public – and those are usually the ones that make the biggest splash – think Madonna at Cannes circa 1991.)

The parade always reminds me of a story I’ve told here before. While working at the Rotterdam Structure over summer break, I encountered a co-worker who had only met one other gay person in all his life. He was well-built, wore tight t-shirts and gold chains, and had the Italian guido look down pat (and I mean that in the best possible way.) On our first shift together we were folding shirts when he asked me if I liked parades. It was out of the blue, not related to anything else going on, and I wasn’t sure I heard him correctly.

“Umm, not particularly,” I answered. “Why did you ask me that?”

He proceeded to explain that his Uncle, who was gay, always liked parades, and he wondered if all gay guys did. His genuine and earnest, if slightly stereotypical, question touched me. He was not saying it any derogatory or mean way, he was genuinely curious and wanted to expand his understanding. I will never ridicule anyone for inquisitiveness.

I do still have a chuckle at the whole exchange, but that’s the sort of thing that brings people together, bridging our differences and forming a bond beneath the common joy of laughter. In the same way that I lumped him into what I viewed as a classic Italian Stallion stereotype and had to reconsider my views when he turned into a sensitive person, so too did he manage to reconfigure his take based on his limited experience with gay people.

We were young and foolish then, but we had hearts and open minds. Has the world changed so much, or have I?
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The Vesper

This is the Vesper, as expertly crafted by the folks at dp – An American Brasserie – which has one of the best bars in downtown Albany, thanks in no small part to the brilliance of Dominick Purnomo. He has seen to it that not only is there an extensive wine selection, but also a comprehensive cocktail list, and a cadre of bartenders who know their craft. (It is the only bar in the Albany area where I have not had to explain how to make a proper negroni. I literally can’t say that about any other establishment here.)

The Vesper packs a deceptively-powerful punch, and the unlikely combination of both vodka and gin, tempered with a dose of Lillet. Garnished with an all-important twist of lemon, this cocktail was reportedly created by the fictional Bond – James Bond – yet it is very much the real deal. While we no longer have the original version of Kina Lillet as he used, I’ve read that a few drops of orange bitters to a modern-day Blanc Lillet will do the trick. (Anything that incorporates orange bitters is a winner in my book.)

Personally, I prefer Boodles Gin, but the traditional Tanqueray is said to more closely mimic the gin of Bond’s time. For the vodka, Mr. Bond favored one made with grain instead of potatoes. I’ll leave such delicate distinctions to the Fussy Little Blog, and simply enjoy a close approximation.

Vesper:

3 oz. gin
1 oz. vodka
1/2 oz. Lillet blanc
Lemon peel garnish

Shake with ice, then serve straight up with lemon peel.

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My First Awards Dinner

The Pride Center of the Capital Region celebrated its annual Awards Dinner this past Friday at the Hilton Garden Inn in Troy, and I was honored and humbled to be chosen as their ‘Volunteer of the Year’ for my work at the Romaine Brooks Gallery. The only glitch was that I was expected to make a little acceptance speech – and I do not do public speaking. However, right before we left for the night, a rainbow appeared over our front yard, so I took it as a good omen and started getting ready.

The trick to pulling off any decent outfit – and to feeling confident and secure in said outfit – is to start with a pair of underwear and socks that make you feel good, and as if you have a secret that no one will know about. In this case, a bright canary pair of Emporio Armani briefs and some matching argyle socks from Hugo Boss provide the necessary shot of fun to counteract any insecurities. And they’re my secret boost of confidence needed to pull off The Suit.

Yes, it’s a little bit plaid. Yes, it’s a little bit garish. And yes, it’s a little bit questionable – but for all those reasons and more I loved it. But what I loved more was the fact that some of my favorite people got to be there with me that night, including my Mom and best friend Suzie – who surprised me with a trip up from Brooklyn. I normally don’t like surprises – at all – but this was a good one, and Suzie always sets my mind at ease. It was exactly what I needed as the minutes leading up to the Awards ticked on, and my heart started to beat faster and faster.

According to the schedule, I was going to follow the Paul Postiglione Youth Services Award, given to Joshua Dunning Powell. Unfortunately for me, Mr. Powell gave the most moving and powerful speech of the night, recalling his days as a bullied child, and how no one had helped him. The whole room was choked up, and I was on the verge of balling. It was incredible – and easily the moment I would take away and remember from that night. I looked helplessly over to Suzie as if to ask ‘How the hell can I follow that?’ and chugged a glass of wine.

Luckily, there was a Silent Auction interlude, and some fundraising to be done, that both distracted and lightened the mood before I had to accept my award, and thank God. The always-entertaining Penny Larceny introduced me, and before I knew it I was at the podium.

“The only thing I hate more than public speaking is a pair of crocs,” said the man in the plaid suit, and then I quickly ticked off a brief list of people who helped me in managing the gallery, and then I was off. It was the briefest of speeches that night, but I survived it and could enjoy the rest of the evening worry-free.

And it was indeed a grand evening. Being that this was our first time attending the Pride Center’s Awards Dinner, I didn’t know what to expect. Surely not so many wonderful, supportive people from all communities – and certainly not so many moving moments that made me proud to be a gay man in the company of such fine citizens.

The best part of the night was seeing my family and friends gathered together to support me. That meant more to me than anyone would ever guess. Thank you Mom and Dad, Suzie, and Andy

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