Moon of Blood and Worm

Today marks a full Blood Moon – the Worm Moon – along with a lunar eclipse and Mercury still in retrograde motion. Astrologically speaking, particularly for Virgos, this is said to be a combustible combination, and I am taking all necessary precautions, mostly just to keep my cool and not lose every last bit of shit that’s barely holding me together. Is it working? Somewhat.

I’m still hitting all the red lights, still tripping over all the computer and phone cords, still wrestling with malfunctioning lights and humidifiers, still dealing with infuriating texts from friends and family who are suddenly unable to read or remember anything – but taking it all in stride, and, more importantly, not lashing out or forcing my well-intentioned (and often-proven-correct) ideas for improvement upon all the people who never wanted them. Getting slightly better at that, better at letting people pick up their own messes, and allowing them to make their mess in the first place because they were never going to listen to me anyway. I was just about to remark about how annoying it was to see people ignore a Virgo’s advice, but that’s very Virgo of me, and at odds with the meaning of this post, and the grace I’m trying to achieve or at least work toward.

Instead, I will focus on clarity and clear communication, sans judgment and ridicule and condemnation. I will endeavor to let others make their own choices, to go along with their suggestions, to be amenable and genuinely peaceable to another way of doing things. This full moon is said to be an opportunity for growth and transformation, and letting go of things that no longer serve you. My critical mind, while helpful for myriad moments in my life, is of no help to others who need to learn their lessons in their own way. I’m also painfully aware there are myriad lessons for me still to learn, not in the quest of a perfection that doesn’t exist, but in the journey to improvement. Shedding control, letting the universe nudge me and heeding those nudges, are my methods for making it through this full Blood Moon moment. I am trying.

As a wise woman once sang, “Go with the flow!

You know

you

can do it.

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A Heart Full of Latte

Though this isn’t a lavender latte (my favorite) it is an admirable replacement of brown sugar vanilla – perhaps the universe feels it’s a more fitting match for the season. I no longer question how the universe works, only our reactions to it. Humans being so supremely out of control in so many practical ways

A brown sugar vanilla latter it’ll be then, heartfully decorated with the expert design of a seasoned barista. A cup full of hearts. A heart full of latte love.

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My Favorite Madonna Anniversary

This is my favorite Madonna anniversary as it marks the release of her greatest album to date: ‘Ray of Light’. While others come close and hold sacred spots in memory for varying reasons (‘Like A Prayer‘, ‘Erotica‘, and ‘Confessions On A Dance Floor‘ come to the forefront of my mind) it is ‘Ray of Light’ that still means the most. Going back in time to that delirious almost-spring release is an exercise in memory that been repeated almost annually, and rather than do all the work I’ve done before, here is a list of some of those posts:

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A Sweet Call From on High

Two troublesome squirrels chased each other along our backyard fence, running parabolic routes in defiance of gravity and against the stifling winter snow – while the sun came up and decided to shine for the day – lucky blue sky at the end of a month that had been so much less than kind. Then, cutting through Andy’s classical music station, the repeated chirping of a cardinal from the top branches of the seven sons flower tree

Brilliant, bright crimson against barren branches and bare sky – it brought comfort, even if it was happenstance, even if it knew not what hope it instilled

Much of life matters because of how we interpret and react to it, what we make of and imprint upon what random and haphazard acts unintentionally seem to intend. On this morning, the cardinal mostly likely was not singing for me, but I felt it was, and that feeling was enough to make it so. 

Who’s to say it wasn’t?

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A War Cry Recap

While this country’s convicted felon of a President is likely getting us into a war with Iran, our duly-elected Congress sits willfully helpless – the GOP fully enabling this Psycho-in-Chief to do whatever dangerous whims he wishes in a transparent attempt to distract from the Epstein files. It won’t work – no matter how many troops and people he gets killed, it won’t erase the fact that Trump is in those files, and there are allegations that he molested a thirteen-year-old girl that remain uninvestigated. All in the day for an alleged and morally depraved pedophile – so on with the weekly recap because nothing seems to change or matter…

Let’s begin with a tranquil tea moment.

The latest FAFO Award went to Wayne DeMario who is upset that ICE is rounding up and deporting the people that Trump said they would deport. LOL.

How do you think I feel about this?

A country with an actual king is doing more for accountability than our so-called democracy.

Archived winter obscura.

Manifesting Mercurial madness whether we like it or not.

Like butter.

The mask of an idea.

Don’t write a check with your mouth that your ass can’t cash!”

The media is failing us with its ‘both sides’ garbage.

Is this too much to ask?

A planetary parade in a bonus post.

A perilous monthly calendar turn.

Karma isn’t working fast enough.

Dazzlers of the Day included the US Women’s Olympic Hockey Team, Davey Wavey, Thoren Bradley, Matt Ortile, Darryl McGrath and Simon Edvinsson.

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Dazzler of the Day: Simon Edvinsson

Our Dazzler of the Day is Simon Edvinsson.

IYKYK.

And if you don’t, look it up.

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A Perilous Calendar Turn

Today is the first day of March, which proverbially comes in like a lion, though at this point in meteorological history there is no way we can count on a lamb-like departure. Andy has been warning me that the current spell of Mercury in retrograde motion is going to be particularly bad for Virgos – as if there was something I could do with that other than panic and expect the worst – but I’ve seen some astrological feeds warning that with a Virgo’s typical carefulness and deliberate consideration, it’s the people around us who should be worried. Expecting and preparing for the worst is generally my baseline anyway, so where’s the bother? I don’t want any trouble, but trouble loves to find me like I’m some unwilling participant in a game of hide-and-seek. Trouble should know by now I’m rather adept at hiding. 
When I used to play hide-and-seek as a kid there were times the others never found me. And sometimes, even when they yelled about oxen and income for free (signaling the end of the game) I’d stay hidden until the light drained from the sky and the screams faded into the distance. 

Our last month of winter dovetails with the beginning of spring – March straddling both with an element of unease – and it’s usually one of the more emotionally-charged times of the year. Coinciding with the upcoming full moon and lunar eclipse in Virgo, this puts us on a dangerous trajectory indeed. All I can do is meditate, see my therapist, and try not to hurt or get hurt in the process. Being a little more careful is about the only extra effort I can muster – staying within prescribed speed limits, not losing my shit at work, holding my tongue when ex-in-laws drag my family name through their self-created mud – you know, the usual routine. The confines of decent human behavior – the sort of thing that never held much interest or allure for me, but that has proven to be the easier path for those of us smart enough to simply suck it up. 

And so I shall endeavor to be a good boy as I put on the mantle of March – saving my lilac fury for spring, when I shall eat the white chocolate lamb before it even gets to bleat.

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A Planetary Parade

A week of astrological warfare puts on a show as six planets align in the sky beside a moon on the verge of growing into its fullness. Jupiter, Saturn, Venus, Neptune, Uranus and Mercury parade their heavenly bodies as I step into the night air and stand beneath their magnificence. This night is said to be a portal of sorts for personal transformation.

A time of mysticism, never quite grounded in science, works its own kind of magic. Maybe it’s partly real, maybe it’s all a placebo effect – if the end result is rumination, analysis, manifestation and meditation, then let us have the planets align.

In the air, more than a hint of spring. Clouds moving swiftly beneath the sparkling sky. A mystical evening holding fortune or emptiness, likely something between the two.

March is on the wind.

Spring is on the march.

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Dazzler of the Day: Darryl McGrath

Standing in line for an herbal peppermint tea, I listened as the woman ahead of me told the brief and fascinating story of her book ‘The Message Catcher‘ and how it was a fictionalized journey of her life journey. She turned to me and smiled, inviting me to stop by her table, where several copies of ‘The Message Catcher’ were on display, right beneath a framed rendering of a crow.

Too shy to approach (and by the time I was leaving she was already engaged with someone else), I instead looked her up online and discovered her intriguing body of written work and a tragic and inspiring personal trajectory. Her name is Darryl McGrath, and she lost her husband a number of years ago while on vacation in Cape Cod. He saved her life and lost his – the kind of tragedy that transforms a person irrevocably, and to the benefit of her readers McGrath turned her experience into meaningful artistic expression while navigating her own arc of loss and healing.

The most dazzling people I’ve featured here aren’t usually the superhuman Olympians, the sports stars, the perfect models or the sparkling celebrities – they are the humans who have gone through the adversity of life, rising from tragedy and finding other ways to triumph, ways to find grace in the often-awful hand that life deals out. To that beautiful end, Darryl McGrath is our Dazzler of the Day.

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

Is it too much to ask to have a sun room in which to grow some citrus trees? I don’t even need the fruit – just the flowers would be enough.

This is me, manifesting

#TinyThreads

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Both Sides Garbage

One of the media’s worst betrayals of its own merit and existence has been to frame everything as having two valid sides. In the name of supposed ‘fairness’ in reporting, they frame all issues as if there are at least two valid sides and points of views rather than taking any basic moral stance that once actually informed the reporting of newscasters like Walter Cronkite or Dan Rather.

To that end, I have a list of topics that are not ‘both sides’ issues, and which I will always call out as morally reprehensible. If you are ok with any of these, if you think that a stance in favor of them is worthy of consideration, or if you are in any way impeding the application of justice against them, I don’t want to know you.

Racism.

Homophobia.

Sexism.

Bigotry.

Pedophilia.

Fascism.

These are non-negotiable. There is no other side to them. If you believe it’s ok for anything of these things to exist, and for people to spew support of them, you are a part of the problem. I’m not having it here, I’m not having it on my social media feeds, and I’m not having it in my life.

Stop giving the space and allowance for this kind of hatred and these kinds of monstrosities to flourish.

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Dazzler of the Day: Matt Ortile

Another wonderful person of many hats, Matt Ortile is editor, writer, host, and educator. He gained early experience as the global publishing lead for BuzzFeed International and was the founding editor of BuzzFeed Philippines. His writing has been published by Vogue, Esquire, Afar, TripAdvisor, BuzzFeed News, Into, Self, and Out, and he has written a book of essays entitled ‘The Groom Will Keep His Name’. A more comprehensive list of accomplishments may be found at his website here, and he can add Dazzler of the Day to the ever-growing list of honors.

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

Whenever I find myself in doubt, I remember these wise words from a drag queen, maybe the greatest drag queen of all: “Don’t write a check with your mouth that your ass can’t cash!”

Sit with it for a while.

#TinyThreads

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The Mask of an Idea

What if all the anti-ICE citizens started dressing up in cosplay nonsense like the actual ICE agents terrorizing our country – the masks and flags and sunglasses and shit? It seems like people who wear that wardrobe can get away with murder – quite literally – so imagine what people on the right side of history might accomplish in similar garb.

We may very well be far past the point of vigilante justice, and I am certainly not proposing any dangerous ideas that might turn their strategies against them, especially in the minds of anyone feeling frustrated and angry at a world with seemingly no accountability for evil actions. How awful that would be! To incite something so violent that it might one day merit a Presidential pardon is practically unthinkable, right?

There is sometimes no greater threat to oppression than an idea, and as long as the mind is free, the ideas will follow.

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