Snowflakes of Paper

Paper snowflakes hang in the window of the cafe, the kind we used to make in grade school, of folded white paper and intricate yet simple cut-outs. I never had the mind to know what sort of design would result, so mine were always a mystery until the final reveal, and never as lovely as some of the more beautiful ones that other kids created.

The decorative demarcation of seasons and holidays, hung on the walls and windows as a way of guiding our children and ourselves, of making some small semblance of sense from a world gone all disorderly chaos and meaningless madness.

Childhood memories are trapped in all that papery snow, hidden in the little holes and etched in every line of this approximation of frost.

Someone at the counter asks if they have lemonade.

We only have lemonade during summer,” comes the friendly let-down.

Suddenly I miss summer, as if I’d forgotten to do so in the rush of holiday mayhem.

What an unpleasant reminder.

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The Loveliness of Laufey

While Laufey will forever embody that glorious Coquette Summer we celebrated a couple of years ago, she’s been a staple on the cafe playlist where I’ve been spending my afternoons. It’s good winter music as well, and so I seek out a proper seasonal song from her impressive oeuvre.

Like so much of winter, Laufey is a languid sigh.

A wistful half-wish upon a summer memory, faded and brittle like some dusty dried flower.

And maybe a whimsical winter daydream, cocooned by a steaming mug of tea and a small plate with a single cookie on it.

This is ‘Sabotage’ – a brilliant addition to the Winter Obscura scene:

I get in my head so easily
I don’t understand, I’m my worst enemy
You assure me you love me
And seal it with a kiss
I can’t be convinced

It’s just a matter of time ’til you see the dagger
It’s a special of mine to cause disaster
So prepare for the impact, and brace your heart
For cold, bloody, bitter sabotage

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Dazzler of the Day: Hayden Williams

Fashion illustrator, author and designer Hayden Williams earns this Dazzler of the Day for not only talking the beautiful talk, but walking the beautiful walk, as evidenced his own sense of carefully curated style. His debut publication, ‘Hayden Williams: The Fashion Activity Book’ is available now, allowing all of us to color within the extraordinary lines of his designs and drawings. Check out his Instagram page here for further evidence of his brilliance.

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Upon Re-entering the World of the Living

It had been a full week since I’d ventured outside – meaning it had been a full week since I left the house in any way. To be honest, as we all should be because what’s the point otherwise, two of those days had been totally lost to the haze of sickness – the rest of the time I was slightly more aware, but only slightly, and all was shaded with the cloudiness that has come to represent this Winter Obscura. Never let it be said that when there’s a theme I don’t lean all the way into it. Extra is my only mode of existence.

It strikes me, having been away from the daily rituals of life for a bit, how much work and effort is involved in simply getting out of the house, and as daunting as it felt first thing on a dark Monday morning, I did what I usually do: broke it down into manageable bits and sections, and slowly charged my way through the day, minute by minute, hour by hour.

Baby steps upon re-entering the realm of the living.

No definitive verdict yet on whether it’s good to be back.

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#TinyThreads: An Insignificant Series

It was my third squeal during a figure skater’s performance to Madonna’s ‘Like A Prayer’ that unlocked a whole new level of gay in our household.

A reassuring realization that just when you think I can’t get any more gay, I totally can.

#TinyThreads

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Dazzler of the Day: Conor McDermott-Mostowy

Heading to the Winter Olympics as part of the USA Speedskating Team, Conor McDermott-Mostowy earns his first Dazzler of the Day crowning for exceptional speed and agility. His Instagram profile quotes a motto that has seen him all this way: “A loss is only a failure if you learn nothing from it.”

Watch him whiz by in Milan next month.

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A Madgical Moment

Aside from whatever airbrushing miracles that were performed for these pics (I want whatever filter she’s using), Madonna’s latest promotional efforts for Dolce & Gabbana is a thing of beauty. It reminds me of her work with Versace in the mid 90’s, when she was softening the hard-edge of her ‘Erotica’ era. Here she sets the stage for her new album due this year with a sumptuous nod to her Italian roots.

We are long overdue for a new Madonna Timeline (the last one came almost an entire year ago), and it’s coming, I promise, just give me a minute to catch up on some things. I’m still behind from a lost week of sickness and exhaustion. In the meantime, let’s revisit some Madonna songs that are spinning on my playlist now, in tribute to the perfumed drama of the moment.

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Dazzler of the Day: Amber Glenn

When you choose Madonna’s ‘Like A Prayer’ as the music to your short program, you’ve already won my heart; when you add in technical prowess and bravura technique, and become the first woman to land a Triple Axel in this event, you win the whole program and the US National Championship for the third year in a row. Amber Glenn accomplished that recently, setting her up for a run at an Olympic medal. That alone is enough to crown her as Dazzler of the Day as we continue on the road to Milan, Italy and this winter’s Olympic Games. (Bonus: that short program was the highest scoring program to date for a woman at the US National Championships.)

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A Behind The Scenes Recap

A look at my antiquated WordPress dashboard leads the weekly recap (and gives a sneak peek of several future Dazzlers). This was a week where my body forced me to not just slow down, but completely stop, as a non-COVID flu-like thing ravaged me for a full seven days. My body tends to do that every few years, as I’m not prone to sickness like this (I can count two bouts of COVID since 2020 and maybe one flu in all that time). Luckily, most of the weekly posts were written before I was out of commission – have a gander at that nonsense and let’s start 2026 the right way this week.

A new tea cup proved a good friend during times of sickness.

For the love of lunacy.

My 3 AM vice. What’s yours?

Even when I feel like shit, they still love me.

A seemingly-unadorned bundt.

“You don’t have to ask us to forget what you just said. It’s the damn default.

Look who’s killing the white women.

Abstract obscura.

How do you eat an English muffin?

I am Woodstock, hear me chirp.

Smells like Madonna.

The lost art of cursive.

In sickness and in mess.

The age-old battle: who’s hotter, David Beckham or Ben Cohen?

Saturday night right.

The road to the Winter Olympics in Milan, Italy begins with this spotlight on Ilia Malinin.

Our country is a cartoon, and I say that with hard love.

A wonderful winter read.

Dazzlers of the Day included Ari Seth Cohen and Alysa Liu.

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A Wonderful Winter Read

Each chapter begins with the narrator rising very early in the morning and lighting a fire to start his day. ‘A Box of Matches’ by Nicholson Baker is my current book, and I’ve been taking my time getting through it because it’s that leisurely and enjoyable. Baker is the author of one of my favorite teen-reads, ‘Vox’, which is actually quite a sexually-adventuresome adult novel, but I’ve always been more mature than one would believe. In high school, I’d stay up late at night, a single reading lamp lighting the book and surrounding bed on which I laid, and I’d imagine the world of words, late-night conversations, and adult maneuvering as I fitfully twisted and turned beneath the covers.

‘A Box of Matches’ is a far-cry from the erotic fiction of ‘Vox’ and much more resonant with a fifty-year-old making his way in the winter of 2026. It’s not without underlying tension, the way most of life after the midway point comes with the possibility of peril and loss around every corner. It’s a comfort as well, which is the point of any good winter read.

“I was a man, but I was not nearly the magnitude of a man I had hoped I might be.”
? Nicholson Baker, ‘The Mezzanine

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Dazzler of the Day: Alysa Liu

Thus continues our road to Milan, Italy and this year’s Winter Olympics! Alysa Liu, at the time of this writing, just slayed at her short program in the US Ice Skating Championship. It was a performance made more remarkable for the fact that she had retired a few years ago, and coming back in such powerful form, when athlete years equal decades, is more than enough reason for this Dazzler of the Day crowning. She’s got some brilliant competition, as will be seen in future Dazzlers, but she has a newly-found attitude of acceptance and enjoyment from the sport, which is the real reason for doing anything.

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This Cartoon Country

We’ve seen it with our own eyes.

Over and over again.

White men killing innocent people.

And everybody else getting the blame.

Don’t look away now.

This is us.

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Olympic Spotlight: Ilia Malinin

Kicking off this year’s Winter Olympics rundown to Milan, Italy is a man who’s been here before. Ilia Malinin has been on this blog’s radar for years, so his perch at the top of the world’s male competitors for this year’s Olympic Games is no surprise, and as of this writing he looks poised to cinch tonight’s National Championship title. Malinin has already been a Dazzler of the Day here way back in 2023, and the self-proclaimed (and righteously earned) ‘Quad God’ may be adding to that with more honors in the weeks to come.

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Saturday Night Right

Whoa, this has been a week.

From physical illness to the emotional sickness that the current state of our country has brought to anyone with a brain and a heart, this year has already proven to be a doozy. Personally, I’m going to have to unplug from everything, and everyone, at some point, because it’s all too much. That sucks to say, but it’s ok to say, and ok to do from time to time. Making it through the work day and exercising the requirements of adulthood will constitute just about all I can handle – the rest is going to have be about escapism and distance from the reality around us.

Andy and I don’t have any children of our own, and that’s always been our deliberate choice. While I’ve wondered about it at times, I’m not sorry about it, especially when considering the world we would be leaving them. The United States is in a death spiral, especially on the world stage, and I don’t think we’ll see a time when we will be like we once were. I feel lucky to have been around when we were respected. When we were beloved. When we were celebrated.

Tonight, I feel exhaustion at caring this much about a country that is now ruled by people who clearly have issues with a person like me – and so I lean into time with Andy. I shut the door to a world unwelcoming to difference. I cut myself off from people who go along with it because they either choose not to know anything, or choose to ignore it.

Inside our home, there is warmth and love and kindness and acceptance. Comfort and safety and light. It will get us through this night, it will get us through this winter, and it will get us through this world.

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Dazzler of the Day: Ari Seth Cohen

Chronicling the world’s most fashionable, and spiritually wise, elders sounds like a dream job, and Ari Seth Cohen has been doing that in books, in print, on the web, and in his life with his ‘Advanced Style’ brand. That earns him the very first Dazzler of the Day crowning for 2026. The doyennes of fashion that he captures are an inspiration for all – and I’m almost in that age-bracket where gaining wisdom meets not giving a flying fuck. The awe-inspiring characters he finds exemplify living life to the fullest at all its stages. Bonus: he’s no stranger or shrinking violet when it comes to personal style and pizzazz, and he has yet to meet a hat that was high enough. That’s a hero.

Check out the Advanced Style website here.

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