http://www.alanilagan.com/general/the-sleepless-and-restless/ Mon, 14 Nov 2011 11:15:13 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 http://www.alanilagan.com/general/the-sleepless-and-restless/comment-page-1/#comment-978 JK Fri, 12 Feb 2010 12:45:05 +0000 http://www.alanilagan.com/?p=2289#comment-978 my now dead former lover had similar complaints.. that I needed to hold him or he couldn't get to sleep. But I always suspected that the real problem was not that I didn't go to bed when he did.. but that I got to sleep late when he couldn't. I don't remember him complaining about our sleeping arrangements in the spring and summer.. when it was light and comfortable when he had to wake and get ready for work. But in the winter, when he was getting himself ready for work, it was dark and cold, I got to sleep late, and stay warm and bundled-up in a comfy bed till a later hour.. and I suspect that was the actual cause of his complaints. .. not that you'd ever be jealous of anyone else's comfort. my now dead former lover had similar complaints.. that I needed to hold him or he couldn’t get to sleep. But I always suspected that the real problem was not that I didn’t go to bed when he did.. but that I got to sleep late when he couldn’t. I don’t remember him complaining about our sleeping arrangements in the spring and summer.. when it was light and comfortable when he had to wake and get ready for work. But in the winter, when he was getting himself ready for work, it was dark and cold, I got to sleep late, and stay warm and bundled-up in a comfy bed till a later hour.. and I suspect that was the actual cause of his complaints. .. not that you’d ever be jealous of anyone else’s comfort.

]]> http://www.alanilagan.com/general/the-sleepless-and-restless/comment-page-1/#comment-954 anonymous Thu, 11 Feb 2010 20:40:11 +0000 http://www.alanilagan.com/?p=2289#comment-954 Would it be easier, if you just assumed that Andy wasn't coming to bed at all? Its kind of strange that you can sleep when you are not with him, in a strange bed and in a strange hotel but knowing he is awake bothers you. I tend to think that you are the one who has to deal with this problem more than Andy. If he tries to sleep earlier he may prevent you from sleeping because he'll be tossing and turning all night. Would it be easier, if you just assumed that Andy wasn’t coming to bed at all? Its kind of strange that you can sleep when you are not with him, in a strange bed and in a strange hotel but knowing he is awake bothers you. I tend to think that you are the one who has to deal with this problem more than Andy. If he tries to sleep earlier he may prevent you from sleeping because he’ll be tossing and turning all night.

]]> http://www.alanilagan.com/general/the-sleepless-and-restless/comment-page-1/#comment-939 JK Thu, 11 Feb 2010 00:29:49 +0000 http://www.alanilagan.com/?p=2289#comment-939 .. sitting here on the sidelines.. it seems that the 'problem' is yours.. and not Andy's. There are some very reliable and effective.. and highly addictive sleeping medications you can take.. that will keep you from waking up during that 'critical' 2 am period.. don't forget to wash them down with liquor.. lift some out of your dad's Dr's sample cache if you have to.. or you can forget the drugs and just drink till you pass out. .. anything else I can help you with ? .. sitting here on the sidelines.. it seems that the ‘problem’ is yours.. and not Andy’s. There are some very reliable and effective.. and highly addictive sleeping medications you can take.. that will keep you from waking up during that ‘critical’ 2 am period.. don’t forget to wash them down with liquor.. lift some out of your dad’s Dr’s sample cache if you have to.. or you can forget the drugs and just drink till you pass out. .. anything else I can help you with ?

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